Uloyiko lokubulala lubhekisela kwintsimi ye-obsessional, okanye ingxaki yokuphazamiseka. Le meko ihambelana, okokuqala, ngokuvela kweengcamango eziqhubekayo malunga nodlova kunye nengozi. Kancinci ziguqulwa zibe yinto yokwesaba ukuqhutyelwa kwezenzo ezinjalo ngokungazibandakanyeki, okuza kuthi zibe yi-phobia engalawulwayo.
Uloyiko lokubulala abantu lunokucingela ukwesaba kwabo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Omnye uya kuyika ukubetha ngeqebunga, ukuxuba umntu, ukuwagxotha entabeni okanye amanqaku aze afe. Abantu ngabanye nabo banokuba nokugqithisa okungaqhelekanga, umzekelo, ukwesaba ukudubula iphoyisa ngesibhamu sakhe okanye ukwesaba intonga ngokuzikhethela ngamaxhoba amaninzi.
Ukuba i-phobias ayizange iqhutywe ibe yinqanaba lokugula, unokuzama ukulahla ukuphosa okunjalo, ukwesaba ukubulala okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho oluthile ngokuqeqeshwa kwengqondo.
Ungayinqoba njani ukwesaba ukubulala?
Okokuqala, umntu kufuneka akhuphe amava amnandi. Ungagxininisa kwizinto ezimbi zobomi, kodwa gxininisa kwimisebenzi kunye nabantu abazisa iimvakalelo ezintle. Ukunqoba ukwesaba ukubulala kuya kunceda ezinkumbulo ezintle, zikhunjulwe ngokukhumbula ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Zibavuselele ngokujonga iifoto, ukuthetha nabahlobo, ezidibaniswa nezihlandlo ezidlulileyo zexesha, ukutyelela kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo, njl. Kuhle kakhulu kwaye uncedisa ngomsebenzi omzimba oqinileyo, umzekelo, ukuya kwigumbi lokuzilolonga okanye uhambo oluncinane, ngexesha apho "ihomoni yolonwabo" iphuhliswa. Kodwa akukho nto inokusetyenziswa njengotshwala lotywala. Yaye ungaba neentloni ngoloyiko lwakho, kufuneka aqalane nalo, eqonda ubukho bakhe. Emva kwakho konke, isitha esingaxakalanga sesivele sinqotshiwe.