Ubudala bethu bububele xa kuvela iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo zentlalo ehlangene nabantu abanobugcisa obufanayo. Impembelelo enamandla kakhulu ekubunjweni kwamaqela anjalo anikezwa yizobuchwepheshe zanamhlanje, ngakumbi i-Intanethi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuhamba kwezingane ezingabantwana kwilizwe lethu kwakungowokuqala kokuthethwa ngabasebenzisi abasebenzayo be-intanethi - iibloggers kunye neziqhelo zokunxibelelana kwezonxibelelwano. Ukuphikisana akupheli kulolu suku, inkxaso ethile kunye nokukhusela abameli bezenzo ngendlela efanelekileyo, ngelixa abanye batyhidiwe ngehlazo. Ngoko obani abafazi kunye namadoda?
Childfree yintoni?
Igama elithi Childfree (elisuka kwiNgesi "umntwana" - umntwana, "inkululeko" -ihhafu) kuthetha abantu abanqwenela ukuba nabantwana. Imbali yengcamango inzima ukuyilandelela, kucingelwa ukuba yaziswe ngokuchasene negama elithi "engenabantwana", elichaze abo babengenalo ithuba ngesizathu esithile sokufumana inzala.
Abantu chayldfri - psychopaths!
Kwi-intanethi, unokufumana abantu abaninzi abakulungele ukusithi "thiya i-chayldfri", ucinga abameleli bale ntshukumo njengemizekelo embi ebantwini. Ngaba yinyaniso okanye ngaba bayaphikisana nabantwana abangenabantwana?
- Abantu abakhuthaza inkululeko kubantwana bayabazonda kwaye bayakuthanda inzalo kunye nokukhulelwa.
- Abafundi be-Childfree movement bathelela abantu abangabikho kwimimandla yabo njengoko bebeletha idiot, bekholelwa ukuba abangenalo isisombululo abantu abakwazi ukufikelela kwiziphumo ezintle.
- I-Childfree ngabantu abanokukhubazeka ngengqondo abajongene nomphakathi ngokuphazamisa i-destiny yabo yemvelo.
- Akunomnqweno wokuba nabantwana abafaka ubungqina bokungabikho kwemigaqo yokuziphatha, aba bantu abanalo umqondo wokuziphatha, becinga intsapho isiko esingasebenzi.
Ngakwelinye icala kwicala le-chayldfri
Akunakwenzeka ukwenza isigwebo sakho malunga naluphi na uhlobo, ngaphandle kokuqwalasela kwimiba yomibini. Iziphakamiso zabasekeli be-anti-childfri esiyifumeneyo, uhlala ufumana amagama okukhusela abantwana abakhululekile kubantwana.
- Ngokuqinisekileyo wonke ummeli wentshukumo engabantwana angathi "Ndiyabazonda abantwana." Ngaphezu koko, abaninzi bafana 'neentyantyambo zobomi', kodwa kungekhona kwintsimi yabo.
- Kwinto ethile chayldfri ekunene - ukuzinikela kwintsapho, akunakwenzeka ukwakha umsebenzi. Ngexesha elithile ebomini, bonke abantu (ikakhulukazi abasetyhini) bakhetha loo ndlela, abafuna ukufikelela phezulu kwinqanaba lomsebenzi.
- Ukuthetha ngokuphambuka kwengqondo kunokwenzeka kuphela kwimeko yokulandela ingcamango (ukuzingela). Isicelo sokuba umngeni kuluntu sinokungathandabuzeki. Ngaba alukho uluntu olufanayo olubetha kwiindawo zokuhlambalaza, ukuthetha ngokukhulelwa kwentsha, ukuzalwa kwabantwana kwimindeni engenamvuzo? Ingaba oku kuthetha ngokukhulelwa komzimba kubonakala kukubi?
- I-Childfree ayikhuthazi ukuziphatha kakubi, phakathi kwabo kukho ezininzi iintsapho ezihlala
ngomtshato osemthethweni. Ukungafuni ukufumana abantwana kunokulungelelaniswa nokuzimela komntu kunye nokwesaba uxanduva, kodwa omnye akufanele atyeke ubungakanani obufanayo, zonke izizathu zokungabikho kwabantwana zingafani kakhulu. - I-Childfree inokukwazi ukuhamba ngokumelene nendalo, kodwa wonke umntu unelungelo lokugqiba isigqibo sakhe. Kwaye akukho mntu, nokuba urhulumente, okanye uluntu unelungelo lokumisela umntu othile kwisakhelo sokuziphatha malunga nemicimbi yentsapho kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana.
Umntwana uyona lonwabo olukhulu, kodwa kuphela xa ufuna. Ukuba umntu akanakulungele ukuziphatha ngokubonakala komntwana, yintoni engalunganga ngokungafuni ukufumana inzala? Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abangenelungelo phakathi kwabantwana abangenawo umntwana nabo bafumanekayo, kodwa kukho ininzi phakathi "kwimizekelo."