Akukho nto emhlabeni ephakade: akukho ubomi, akukho ziintlekele zemvelo, akukho nto. Nangona kunjalo, xa umntu ejongene nokulahleka, kunzima ukuba ahlole imeko yakhe, ukuba azame ukuqonda indlela yokuphila ngokufa, ngakumbi ukuba kukufa komhlobo othembekileyo nonyanisekileyo-inja.
Indlela yokusinda ekufeni kwenja yakho oyintandokazi?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunokuliva kuluhlungu kangakanani, ukunyamekelwa kwezilwanyana ezithandekayo kwilizwe elihlukileyo kunzima kubantu abangatshatanga. Intlungu ayikwazi ukufihla emva kweminye imizwelo , kufuneka ikhutshwe ngaphandle. Ukuba ukufa kubangelwa ngumoya wokunganaki oogqirha, kufuneka ubagwebe. Kule nqanaba, kufuneka ukhulule intlungu ngaphandle, nokuba uvale kwindawo yokuhlambela, umntu uya kukhwaza ngokuzwakalayo. Into ephambili kukuba akayi kugcina yonke into kuye.
Simele sifunde ukuhlala ngaphandle komhlobo othandekayo. Ukuba umntu uza kunika uncedo, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uyamkele. Emva koko, ngoku, kunanini ngaphambili, kuya kufuneka.
Esi siganeko sinzima kakhulu kwi-psyche, ngenxa yoko i-hormone yokucindezeleka ikhutshwa kwigazi. Akuyi kuba yinto engathandekiyo ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngokokuqala ngqondweni uya kubuya. Oku kubangelwa ukuba ingqondo, njengokungathi ukukhusela ingqondo , ngaloo ndlela inceda ukudibanisa nokufa kwenja.
Yintoni enokuyenza emva kokufa kwenja?
Eyona ndlela ihamba phambili kukuba unxibelelwano nalabo baye bafumana amava afanayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba akukho bantu abanjalo phakathi kwabahlobo, unokuqhagamshelana neklabhu yabalimi bendawo, apho baya kuqinisekiswa ukuba bayayixhasa kwaye bayayiqonda.
Into ephambili into engavunyelwe ukuba yenze kule nkqubo enzima: ukuzihoxisa ngokwakho, ukuvala kwihlabathi elijikelezayo, ukugwinya imihla ngemihla ngeentetho ezilishumi.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, kodwa emva kokufa kwenja oyintandokazi, kufuneka ususe konke kunokukukhumbuza.
Kubalulekile ukusekela iinjongo ezintsha, imisebenzi, kungekhona nje ukuphazamiseka, uze ukhawuleze phakathi kobusuku, kodwa uzame ukuqaphela ukulahlekelwa kwakho, ukuqonda ukuba oku kubomi kunye nokulahleka-enye yeengxenye zayo.
Musa ukulibala malunga nesiza sakho sokulondoloza. Emva kokuhamba kuzo zonke izigaba zokulahlekelwa ngumhlobo othandekayo, unako emva kwesikhashana unike uthando, ukufudumala, ukunakekelwa kwakho kumhlobo omtsha, apho, mhlawumbi, uya kuba ngumphefumlo wenja eyashiye eli hlabathi.