Ngokuqhelekileyo sifihla emphefumlweni kumntu osisilimazayo. Kodwa ezi zibuhlungu thina ngokwethu siyazisusa bonke ubungqina namandla. Intukuthelo yinto engalunganga, ukutshabalalisa zonke iimvakalelo eziqaqambileyo. Ukuze ungangonakalisi ubomi bakho, kufuneka uqonde indlela yokuxolela umntu kwaye ulahlekise umthetho. Nangona kunjalo ukuba akulula ukuxolela, umntu kufuneka azame ukwenza oko
Ungamxolela njani umntu omthiyeyo?
Izenzo zabanye abantu zishiya iindawo zokuhlala ezibuhlungu emphefumlweni. Emva koko, kunzima kakhulu ukuxolela izono, kwaye inzondo iyasidla. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba inzondo yinto embi ebhubhisa yonke into ejikeleze. Ukuqokelela lo mbi ngokwawo, umntu uyaba novuyo kwaye ubhekisa ubomi bakhe ngolu hlobo.
Ukususela kwimbono yengqondo, ukuba ufuna ukuqonda indlela yokuxolela nokukhulula umntu, ngoko sele sele uthathe inyathelo elilodwa endleleni efanelekileyo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba uqokelela izikhalazo kuwe, kwaye ungafundi ukuba uzilahle njani, ngoko unyaka ngamnye kuya kubakho ngaphezulu kwazo. Izibhengezo zinyusa umntu ukuba abuyisele, oko oku kungakhokelela ekuphosakeleleni ekufeni, ekubhubhiseni isigqibo .
Zama ukhathalela ngokwaneleyo nayiphi na izifundo esiza kubakho ubomi. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu, kodwa ukuba ufunda ukufumana izigqibo ezithile, kuya kukunceda uqine kwaye ubulumko.
Indlela yokuxolela umntu omthandayo?
Umntu othandayo uhlala enempembelelo engaphezulu kunomnye umntu. Ngoko ke, yonke into evela kuye iyakuthatha entliziyweni. Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuxolela umntu omthandayo kunye nokulahlwa kwecala, kufuneka uqonde izizathu zabo.
Ungakhubekisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo iingxaki zentlupheko zikhokelela ekuhlaleni. Emva kwabo, umphefumlo uzaliswe ngumbi kwaye uvakalelwa njenge-lemon. Ngomsindo othukutheleyo, umntu unokuthetha amazwi amaninzi kunene omnye komnye, emva koko, yonke imvakalelo yokukhanya iphela ngobudlelwane.
Ukuba, emva kwesinye isihlazo, ukukhawuleza uqobo lwakho kwaye uphile kuyo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungekudala zonke iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo ziya kuza kwakhona kwaye oku kuya kukhokelela ekuxabaneni ngenxa yesizathu esingabalulekanga. Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, zonke iingxabano mazihlalutye. Kakade, oku kufuneka kwenziwe kuphela emva kokuba uhlalise. Zama ukuqonda into oyichitha ngokukodwa kunye nento okhutshwe ngayo. Abantu abanomdla kakhulu badla ngokugqwetha yonke into baze bavelise iimpawu ezingafaniyo.