Siyazi ukuba ukwaneliseka komntu kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yokubunjwa kobuntu, ngaphandle kwalowo mgangatho akukho nto iya kwenzeka - umntu uya kulahlwa yinkimbinkimbi kunye namava angaphezulu. Kodwa yintoni intsingiselo yokwanela, yintoni le nto ithetha ntoni?
Injongo yokwaneliseka
Inkcazo yemeko yokuzinelisa kulula ukuyinika, intsingiselo ingabanjwa kuphela emva kokufunda eli gama. Ukuzineliseka xa sinako ngokwaneleyo, siye safunda ukusebenzisana noluntu ngendlela enokuba asiyidingi uncedo olunzulu lwabanye ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngaphezu koko, umxholo wokuzimelela usebenza, kokubili kumntu, kunye noluntu kunye nayiphi na inkqubo.
Psychology of self-sufficiency
Abanye abalobi bathi ngokwahlukileyo malunga nokwaneliseka kwamadoda nabasetyhini, kodwa oku akunakulungelelaniswa, ngokukodwa kunikezelwa izinto zangoku. Namhlanje, abasetyhini bazama ukungabonakali kubantu nangayiphi na indlela, baphumelele ekuphumeleleni kwimigangatho yamadoda. Ngoko ke, ukwahlula ngokwaneleyo kwintombi kunye nendoda ayinangqiqo. Kodwa ke, makhe sijonge kwiingongoma ezibandakanya le ngcamango.
- Ukwaneliseka kuboniswa ngokungabikho ukwesaba kobuhlwempu. Ukuba kunjalo, kuthetha ukuba umntu akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwabanye, kodwa umntu oxhomekeke kwabanye akakwazi ukubizwa ngokwaneleyo.
- Ubuchule bokusinda ngokwabo luphawu lokuzimelela. Oku kuboniswe ngokukwazi ukuxhobisa ubomi babo ukuze badle, basele baze bagqoke ngeendleko zabo, kwaye baphile ngokuhlala kwindawo yabo yokuhlala, ubuncinane besuswe.
- Kwakhona, umntu onelaneleyo akasoze asebenze kumyalelo womntu, uya kukhokelwa kuphela yimigwebo yakhe. Umntu onjalo akanako ukubizwa ngokuba yikhoboka, unako ukwenza uluvo lwakhe malunga noko kwenzekeyo, kwaye akakholelwa ngokungaqhelekanga kwingxelo yomnye umntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku akuthethi indawo "Ndiyazi into engcono kunabo bonke abantu, andiyiva okanye ndabona nabani na." Ukuphulaphula uluvo lomnye umntu, unokucela icebiso, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko, kodwa kufuneka ulandele indlela yakho.
- Abantu abanelisekileyo banomdla onomdla-ukuhlala bengakhange bajonge iingcamango zabanye. Umntu onjalo akadingi ukuvunyelwa kwabanye abantu okanye abahlobo ukuba benze le nto okanye eso sigqibo. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu uthatha uxanduva olupheleleyo kwizenzo zakhe. Ngoko ke, ukugwetywa okanye ukuvunyelwa kwabanye kubangelwa impendulo kuphela, kodwa kungeyona nto ebalulekileyo.
- Ukwaneliseka kuthetha ukukwazi ukuzivumelanisa neemeko zemo engqongileyo ngelixa "ehamba ngehashe." Umzekelo, umntu unokuphumelela, owaziwayo ekuhlanganiseni, kodwa kwakukho abazali abanenkathazo okanye abacebileyo, isitya semali sivaliwe kwaye yonke into iphelile apho, loo mntu akazi ukuba yenzeni, ixinekile kwaye ididekile. Akakwazi ukuzinyamekela, ukuba kunjalo, endaweni yokuzisola ngokulahlekileyo, wayenokufumana iindlela zokubuyisela isikhundla sakhe. Nayiphi na ilahleko (imali, ethandekayo) ayithethi ukulahleka.
- Isimo esibaluleke kakhulu asikho kuphela ubuchule beengqondo, izakhono kunye nobuchule, kodwa nolwazi malunga nokuba kuphi, nini kwaye njani ukuyisebenzisa. Umntu onelisekile unqabile ukuba uthembele kwinhlanhla, uthanda kakhulu ukubala ngokuchanekileyo.
- Ukubiza umnqweno ukuzondla, kudinga ukungabikho kwezikhonkwane ezigulayo. Oko kunokwenzeka ukubiza naluphi na ukukhethwa komntu
(into, imbono, umntu), ngaphandle kobukho ubukho obungenakwenzeka. Ukuhlukana nothando kubangela intlungu nengqondo.
Ukucinga ngombono wokwaneliseka, ukuzithemba, ukuqina nobunqwenelekayo kubonakala, kodwa le ngcamango inomnye. Ukwaneliseka kunokugula. Yinto enye xa umntu engadingi inkxaso yenkxaso yomnye umntu, kwaye ngokufanayo xa ephepha le nkxaso ngawo onke amandla akhe. Ngaba uziva umehluko? Musa ukuya kwinqanaba, ukwamkela uncedo akuthethi ukuba ubuthathaka.