Akukho mntu kwihlabathi ongeyikwesaba nantoni na. Ezinye ukwesaba zikhoyo kwiingqondo zethu kwizinga lokuxhalaba, ezinye zijika zibe yi-phobias yangempela, ziphule ubukho bethu boxolo. Kodwa le ndawo ivela phi, unako ukuguqula umphefumlo nomzimba, kubangela ukuba intliziyo ibetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye ivuke emzimbeni wokubanda ebusuku? Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, njani ukunqoba ukuvakalelwa? Masizame ukuqonda le ngxaki ekhawulezayo.
Izizathu zokwesaba
Ukuvakalelwa ukwesaba, njengazo zonke ezinye iimvakalelo zengqondo, zijonge kwiindawo ezinzulu. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo asiyiqondi apho ivela khona. Ngethuba elithile, siqala ukuziva singenakunqikaza, siphendule, size sibe nexhala. Kodwa ukuze unqobe le ntlukwano, kufuneka umntu azi uhlobo lomvelaphi walo.
Zonke izizathu zesaba umntu zivela ngezizathu ezintathu ezibalulekileyo:
- Isinamathiselo kwizinto zehlabathi elizungezile kunye nokuxhomekeke kubo. Sonke sijwayele ukuzungezela abantu okanye izinto, ngaphandle koko asikwazi ukucinga ukuba sikhona. Ngokwemvelo, kwizinzulu zethu siphila ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ezi zinto kunye nala bantu. Ukunamathela kubo, siyaba ngumxhomekeke, kwaye sishiya igumbi elincinci lokuba sicinga ukuba yonke into izayo okanye kamva iphelile.
- Ukungabi nokholo kuThixo nangamagunya aphezulu. Yimangalisa njengoko ingavakala, kodwa abantu abangakholelwa kuThixo kukho ukuziva uxhalabele kwaye besabe ngakumbi kunabantu abakholwayo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwixesha leengxaki, xa umntu engabikho inkxaso yokomoya kwaye uqala ukwesaba ukuxhomekeka kwintlanka kunye nethuba. Ngokuphambene noko, amakholwa aphila ngokukhululekileyo kunye ngokuvumelana. Bakholelwa ukuba nakumaxesha anzima, Into engentla ikhusela iintsapho zabo kunye. Ukongezelela, bakhululekile ukwesaba kwabantu - ukufa, tk. kuzo zonke iinkolo, abantu bakholelwa ubomi emva kokufa.
- Ukuxhalabisa kunye nokwesaba ngenxa yokungakwazi. Ehlabathini, abaninzi abantu abangakholelwa ngamandla abo, bayesaba ukuphuma kwimimandla ebomvu baze bazivakalise ngokwabo. Bayesaba ukuhlekwa usulu ngenxa yokungakwazi kwabo. Ukusuka ukoyiko benza iimpazamo ezingakumbi, kwaye isangqa esichukumisayo sivale, singapheli.
- UFobias noyika ukoyika. Olu luhlu luyimveliso yemisebenzi ye-psyche kunye ne-subconscious. UFobias kwenzeka nakumntwana kwaye ekugqibeleni abe ngumntwana ongapheliyo. Olunye uhlobo lwe-phobia luyimiphumo yobomi kwizixeko ezinkulu. Ngenxa yokuhamba ngokukhawuleza, ukunyaniseka phakathi kwesihlwele kunye nokulahleka kwabo namhlanje, abantu baninzi banomuvo wokutya kwaye ngokukhawuleza babe zizigulane zengqondo kunye neengqondo ze-psychotherapists.
- Udidi oluhlukileyo luloyiko lwabasetyhini. Kukho ukuxhalaba okubonakalayo kuphela kwintsizana ebuthathaka. Kwaye ziyafumaneka rhoqo. Phakathi kwezona zithandwa kakhulu zingabonwa: ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumntwana, ukwesaba ukubeletha, uloyiko lokuguga, u lonwabo kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukwesaba kweentonga, inambuzane kunye nenyoka. Nangona kunjalo, zonke ezi phobias zihambelana nenjongo ephambili yowesifazane - ukuqhubeka kwe-genus kwaye ezininzi zazo zibekwe ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu, ukuba engayazi ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuncinane uyazi imvelaphi yokwesaba kwakhe. Yaye ihlala isincinci, kodwa inzima kakhulu ekusebenzeni kwenkqubo yesicwangciso sengqondo, njengokunqoba ukwesaba.
Ungayikhupha njani indlela yoyiko?
Kukho ilizwi lokuba xa ukwesaba into ethile, yiloo nto okufuneka uyenze kuqala. Kwaye akusiyo inxalenye ethile yeengcamango. Kukhangela nje kwamehlo ethu wesaba, sinokuzibamba. Ungayinqoba njani ukwesaba uze uyalibale ngonaphakade? Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokwenza oku:
1. Zama ukungayithobeli ingqalelo ukwesaba kwakho kwaye wenze okunye. Zixelele: "Ewe, ndoyika, kodwa ndiya kusenza." Ndikholelwe, akukho nto inokuthelekisa nomvakalelo woluyisa oya kuwuva emva kokuba unqobe ukwesaba kwakho.
2. Khawucinge ngomphumo ogqithisileyo weziganeko ozoyixhalayo. Masithi unenkxalabo ngaphambi kokuba usebenze, kwaye awushiywanga uxhalaba kunye nokwesaba. Khawucinge nje into embi kakhulu eya kwenzeka, ukuba oko ukwesabayo kuya kwenzeka. Zitshintshe ngokuzenzekelayo kwisiphumo senkcazo kunye neenkcukacha zomfanekiso wokuwa kwakho. Ngokukhawuleza xa ukwenza, ukwesaba kwakho kuya kukushiya.
3. Qeqesha ukuba usebenze ukwesaba kwakho usebenzisa indlela efanelekileyo:
- unqume ukuba luphi uhlobo loyiko lubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho kwaye luphazamise ubukho bakho;
- ukuyiqhaqhaqhaqhaza ukuze kubekho ubuncinane ubuncwane obuncinane be-5;
- qalisa ukuloyisa ukwesaba ngakumbi kwiindlela eziboniswe ngasentla;
- ukunqoba ngale ndlela enye into encinane;
- Zisoloko uphinda le ndlela yokuzivocavoca xa unesiva sokuxhalabisa kunye nokwesaba.
Abantu abaninzi abaye baphumelela ngexesha labo bahamba nabo banqoba ukuloyika kwabo. Kwaye bonke bayavuma njengento enye: inokwenzeka ukuba nento esiyikwesabayo iya kwenzeka kuthi ihlala isondele. Lungele ulungele nayiphina imiphumo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kubona ukuba akukho nto uyayiyoyika.