Ngamanye amaxesha ngokukhawuleza iinyembezi zihamba ngaphandle kwesizathu esikhethekileyo - nje into ekhunjulwayo okanye ukuva umculo kukuhle kangangokuba kunzima ukugcina iimvakalelo kuwe, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uvakalise ngenye indlela. Kuzo zonke iimeko, sithetha ngoluvo olunjengeemvakalelo.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuvakalelwa?
Intsingiselo yelizwi lomsindo liyacaca, kuyimfuneko nje ukuqonda kuyo imvelaphi yesiFrentshi "inzwa", eguqulela ngokuthi "ukuziva." Oko kukuthi, le ndawo yipropati ethile, ebonakalisa ukuqonda okukhulu nokuphupha. Ukuba umntu unesimo sengqondo, ngoko yonke into ayibonakalisayo evela kwilizwe langaphandle ayichaphazeli ingqondo nengcamango, kodwa, okokuqala, iimvakalelo.
Abantu abanentlungu abanakho ngaphandle kweso sihlandlo esikhethekileyo kubonisa intshiseko, ububele, imvakalelo kunye novelwano. Abayekanga ukungabi nandaba noko abanye abangayithobeli ingqalelo okanye abangasabele ngokukhawuleza.
Ukwanda kweemvakalelo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umxholo wokwenyuka kwemvakalelo uqobo kwaye uxhomekeke kwimimiselo yomntu omnye. Ngomntu ngokulandelelaniswa kwezinto ukuvumela ukunqabana kwincwadi kwaye udibanise ngovuyo, ngethuba lokuhlangana nomhlobo omdala, kwaye umntu akanako ukukwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo emngcwabeni womntu othandekayo, kuba ubona ukubonakaliswa kobuthathaka.
Kodwa ukuba iimvakalelo zengqondo zinamandla, umntu akanakuzilawula, kwaye azibonakalise ngendlela engafanelekiyo, ngoko uvakalelo olunjalo lunokuchazwa njengento engenangqiqo.
Ukwenyuka kweemvakalelo kudla ngokuqhelekileyo kwabasetyhini. Amadoda abe neengxaki ngaphezu kwexesha, oku kubangelwa utshintsho olunexesha elidala, ngokukodwa, ekunciphiseni ukuveliswa kwamahomoni angamadoda, kodwa kunqabile xa befikelela kwinqanaba elincinci lomntu.
Ukuvakalelwa ngokwemvakalelo kunokuhlala kusisigxina. Ukuba ujwayele ukungagcini imizwa kuwe, kwaye uvakalise ngokucacileyo ngezinye iindlela iindlela ezingekho phantsi, kwaye oku akukuthinteli ukuba uphile kuzo zonke, ke ungakhathazeki.
Kodwa isimo sengqondo sinobuchule singabonakala nakubantu abagcinwe ngokubhekiselele kwimeko ethile, imeko yempilo okanye isiganeko. Sisoloko sisengozini kakhulu phantsi komthwalo weengxaki okanye xa kukho into ephazamisayo. Kwakhona, kukho umngcipheko wokulahlekelwa ukulawula phezu kweemvakalelo xa ubambelela ixesha elide. Ukuziqhayisa ukuba abantu abanamandla ababi, kwaye abafazi bahlala beziphatha ngokuzibamba, uqobo ulawule ukusilela, okunga kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza.
Indlela yokulahla ukuvakalelwa?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uyilahle nje kuphela xa kukuthintela. Ngaphandle koko, ubundlobongela obunjalo kumntu ongekho bubulungisa.
Zama ukuqonda ukuba akusoloko kuyimfuneko ukukhusela iimvakalelo, kukho iimeko apho zingabonakali kuphela, kodwa nazo ziyimfuneko, kuba ubuncinane oku kubangele abantu. Kungenokwenzeka ukuba, kukufanelekile ukuzigcina usebenza emsebenzini, kodwa kwintsapho kunye kunye nawe wodwa kunyanzelekile ukuba ube yinyithi. Ungaziphepheli oonxibelelwano abasondeleyo, kuba nawuphi na umntu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba angaboni onke amaxesha okuvuya kunye nokudabuka kwedwa.
Cacisa ngokucacileyo ezo meko apho ungabonakalisa iimvakalelo kwaye uzame ukufumana ubuninzi bobuchule kubo kwaye uzigxininise ngakumbi kubo. Oku kuya kukunceda uziqonde kakuhle kwaye ufunde iimpendulo zakho. Uyakwazi uhlale uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kumzuzwana ozayo. Ukongeza, iimvakalelo aziyi kuqokelela kwaye aziyi kukwazi
Zama ukwenza utshintsho ebomini bakho kwaye emva kwexesha ulungiselele uhlobo "lokuvavanya ukuvakalelwa". Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ucinga ukuba ungazikhuseli, mhlawumbi uneemeko apho zibonakalisa khona. Ngoku kulula ukufika kubo, umzekelo, ukufaka ifilimu ongayi kuboni ukufikelela ekupheleni ngenxa yezinyembezi ezililayo. Impendulo ayinakuguquka, kodwa, kwimeko apho, umntu kufuneka aphinde acinge ngokucokisekileyo malunga nokuba kuyimfuneko ukulwa nokuvakalelwa okanye nokuba kufanelekile.