Iinyembezi zindlela zokukhusela zomzimba kwaye zihamba nomntu ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakhe kuze kube sekupheleni kobomi. Iindlebe kunye nokukrokra nayo yindlela yokunciphisa uxinzelelo oluye lwaqokelela kwixesha elide kwaye likhululiwe ngokomoya. Emva koko, sidinga ukukhala ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye okuqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukukhala ngenxa yantoni na ukukhwaza okukhulu kakhulu, ngoko kukufanelekile ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuyeka ukukhala nokukhala.
Ukufumanisa ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukuzola kwaye uyeke ukukhala, kufuneka uqale ukukhumbula ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, iintlungu zentlungu aziyi kunceda.
Ukhawuleza ukuthoba kwaye ungakhali?
Into yokuqala yokwenza kwimeko enjalo kukuphelisa isizathu sokukhala. Ukuba oku akunakwenziwa, ngoko kufuneka ubhekisele kule ndlela ilandelayo:
- Inkqubo yokuphefumula . Kufuneka uqale ukuqeqesha kwangaphambili, kuba Ukuba usebenzisa le ndlela ngexesha lokulila okunamandla, kunokususa i-hyperventilation syndrome, eya kukunyusa imeko yomntu. Ingundoqo yendlela yile ndlela ilandelayo: ukuze uzinciphe, umntu kufuneka athabathe umoya (mhlawumbi kunye neempumlo), ubambe umoya wakhe ngemizuzwana eyisixhenxe kwaye uphume ngokukhawuleza. Kufuneka kube neempumulo ezisixhenxe kunye nokuphefumlelwa. Le ndlela izakunceda kuphela ukuzola ngokukhawuleza, kodwa nokuphucula ukujikeleza kwegazi nokulawula ukuxhatshazwa kwegazi.
- Iingcamango zethu zivame ukusikhupha, siqala ukumemeza ngenxa yokuba umntu wenza into engalunganga, njengoko sifuna, kwaye sikhala ngenxa yokuba umonakalo uqokelela kwaye kufuneka uwathulule. Ukuqonda ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lokukhalaza, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokulawula iingcamango zakho. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba ziphi iingcinga
zikhokelela kwi-hysteria kwaye ziwaphephe. - Sebenzisa indlela yokubonisa. Ukuba kukubuhlungu kwaye kukubuhlungu, ukuba iinyembezi zisuka emehlweni akho uze uziyeke, ngoko nje thabatha iphepha uze ucinge ngalo imbangela yokudabuka. Akuyimfuneko ukuba ube umbhali okanye umculi, akudingeki ukuba ubhale uninzi kwaye ungeze okanye udwebe umfanekiso. Ungabhala igama elinye kwiibhokisi ezinkulu, okanye ungabhala yonke into ngokubanzi, unokwenza into eyokukunceda uhlalise. Kwaye kamva, xa uxolo, uya kuba nokuhlaziya umzobo okanye ileta yakho kwaye uqonde ukuba kutheni ngelo xesha uziva uzibi kakhulu.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlalisa phantsi , cima ukumemeza kwaye kubonakala kuwe ukuba ukubandezeleka akuyi kupheliswa, uyeke ucinge: "Yonke into idlula, kwaye iya kudlula." Mhlawumbi namhlanje kubonakala kuwe isiphelo sehlabathi, kodwa kusasa kuza imini kwaye le ngxaki iya kuba yinto edlulileyo.