Udlwengulo kwenzululwazi yengqondo ichazwa njengempendulo ejoliswe kumonakalo womnye umntu, into okanye yena ngokwakhe. Ukuziphatha okubuhlungu kuyimpawu yomntu okhohlisiwe ekulindeleni kwabo, okumiselwa yinto yesayensi efanayo nesimo soxinzelelo. Le meko yayingabhekiswa kuye. Umzekelo, yaqala ukuvula, kodwa loo ndoda ayizange ithathe i-ambrala kwaye ibetha ikati ewela kuyo.
Iintlobo zobundlobongela
Ukunyanzeliswa nokuziphatha kakubi kubonakala ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngamanye amaxesha bayabamba isohlo xa umntu ekhala, ehlamba izandla okanye ephakamisa ilizwi lakhe. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha unobundlobongela buya kuguqulwa ngokucokisekileyo, kodwa oku akuyona ingozi kakhulu: ingaba amahlaya awonakalisa isidima somntu, ukutshala kwindlela ekhangelelana ngayo, ukuncoma okungaqinisekiyo okanye "inceba" ("O, kwenzekani, ubonakala bubi namhlanje!" ).
Kukho ukuhlaselwa okungalawulwayo kokugwenxa, oku sele kubone ubungqina obucacileyo bokugula okungokwengqondo. Eyona nto ibonakalayo yingozi kubonakaliso kwintsapho, xa izinto ezinobundlobongela zibafazi, abantwana okanye izilwanyana.
Imisebenzi eluncedo yobundlobongela kunye nolawulo lwayo
Ukuguquka kunye nokuziphatha kakubi kungenza imisebenzi enomsebenzi, umzekelo, xa bekhonza ukhuselo lomntu okanye intsapho yakhe. Kodwa kule meko kufuneka kuqinisekiswe kwaye igcinwe phantsi kolawulo, impendulo kufuneka ihambelane nomngeni, mhlawumbi kunokwenzeka ukuba ungene phantsi kwekhowudi yezobugebengu.
Ngaloo ndlela, iingcamango "zokuziphatha okubi" kunye "nolawulo lobudlova" kufuneka zihlulwe. Umntu ohlukumezayo, akufanele ukuba angashiywanga, kodwa, okokuqala, kufuneka ulinganise ukuhlaziya, okwesibini, khumbula ukuba ngubani ongaphambi kwakho. Ukuba ilungu lentsapho, umntwana okanye isilwanyana esingakhuselekanga, kunokuhlawula nokugwinya umsindo kwaye uzame ukusombulula loo nto ngoxolo.