Omnye ebomini unethamsanqa kwaye iimeko ziphuhliswa ngokunokwenzeka, kwaye umntu ujongene neengxaki ezibonakala ngathi ubomi buphelile kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuhlala kweli hlabathi. Nangona kunjalo, unokuqala ubomi ngokutsha nanini nakweyiphi na imeko kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo iya kuxelwa kule nqaku.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuqala ubomi obutsha?
Lo mbuzo uvela kubantu abaninzi abangenwabileyo nendlela abaphila ngayo ubomi babo. Iimeko zihlukile: umntu ulahlekelwa ngumthandayo, umntu akenzi into yakhe, kwaye umntu uvakalelwa kukuba into kufuneka iguqulwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukungaqiniseki kuya kuvela nangayiphi na imeko, kuba namhlanje yonke into imbi, kodwa iyazi kakuhle kwaye iyicacile, kwaye ukungaqiniseki kukuphela. Kodwa into ephambili kukuba uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala kwaye ungakhange ukhangele emuva, kwaye ke yonke into iya kuhamba. Iingcali zengqondo zinikela ngcebiso ngale ndlela:
- Ukuqala ubomi ukususela ekuqaleni, kucacile ukuba unikezwe kanye, kwaye oko kwakungekho buhlungu ekupheleni kweminyaka, kufuneka wenze konke okuxhomekeke kuwe, ukuze ujabule. Awukwazi ukubuyela ngexesha, kodwa unokuhlala apha kwaye ngoku.
- Kufuneka silungiselele ubunzima. Iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo kunye nezinto ezimbi eziye zahlala khona ziya kuza kwakhona kwakhona, kodwa ukuba uya kwiinjongo , kholelwa kuwe kwaye uziqinisekise ukuba zibi kunokuba zikho, ayiyi kuba nayiphi na into, ke impumelelo nomnqweno wokutshintsha into nje ngomoya njengangaphambili.
- Unokuqala ubomi ngokutsha kwiminyaka engama-40, 50 nangaphezulu. Akukaze kube mva ukutshintsha yonke into. Ixesha elidlulileyo kufuneka livakaliswe ngazo zonke amava afumane kwaye zivale umnyango emva kwayo. Kwaye akukho nto ikhumbuza nayiphi na into, utshintshe ukubonakala kwayo, ukushiya yonke into eveze izinto ezimbi ebomini - imikhwa emibi, abahlobo ababi, umsebenzi ohlawulwa kakuhle, njl njl. Qiniseka ukuba usebenza kwiingcamango zakho. Omnye uncedwa ngamazwi, kwaye umntu uthandaza .