Inkcenkcesha engaphantsi kweyona nto ibonisa ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo komntu, kubonakaliswe kwingozi yokuzijonga kunye nokuphakama kwabanye. Umntu onenkcenkcesha engathandabuzekiyo uzive engento, engadingekanga, into enjengomkhiqizo ongenasiphelo. Le ngxaki ayimvumeli ukuba aphile ngokuthula, kubangela ukuba neengxaki ezininzi kunye nokudandatheka. Kwengqondo, ubunzima be-inferiority bucingelwa ukuba baqwalaselwa ngokubhekiselele kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zobomi babantu. Ingaba yinto ebantwini bonke kwaye ayiyiyo ingxaki yengqondo. Kwezinye iimeko, kunokuba luncedo, ukucinga ngokubaluleka kokubaluleka kwayo kunye nokuphuhliswa okuqhelekileyo komntu. Ngoko ungayigxotha njani inkcenkcesha engaphantsi kwaye kufuneka uyilahle phantsi?
Isizathu sokungaphantsi kunokuvela ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo:
- ngqondweni;
- ubomi obuthathaka;
- calulo, njl
Ookuqala ukuhlakulela imbono ye-inferiority complex yayingu-Adler, owathi lo mvakalelo wazalwa esemncinci. Wabonisa indlela ongenakukhuseleka kwaye engenakukunceda ukuba umntu azalwe. Kulo lonke ubomi bakhe uzama ukuzibandakanya emphakathini, kuqala kwi-kindergarten, ngoko esikolweni nasemsebenzini. Wonke umntu unokwehluleka, kodwa ngamnye uyabachaphazela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Omnye uvuka kwaye, ezisongela ngothuli, uya phambili, kwaye umntu uphula phantsi aze azimelele ngokungabalulekanga.
Ubunzima bokuzihlaziya - iimpawu
Abantu abaninzi abaqapheli ukuba banesifo sengqondo sokungabikho kwembuyekezo. Bakufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha nabanye kwaye bahlala befumana iingxaki. Ezi zilandelayo zibonakaliso ziya kunceda uqonde ukuzithemba kwakho.
- Ukuzimelela koluntu. Abantu abanokuzithemba kakhulu bahlala behlala kunye. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku akusikho ukungqinelana kwangaphandle, kodwa ngaphakathi. Abanye abakwenzi ukuba lo mntu uphumelele, kunoko yena ngokwakhe uzijonga engafanelekanga kuluntu. Uloyiko lokwenza okanye ukusho into engabonakaliyo kwinkampani yabo, yingako ivala.
- Ukuxhatshazwa. Lo mbandela wokuziphatha ngumzamo wokuzibandakanya kwiqela. Ukungakwazi ukuthetha nabantu, umva wokugwetywa ngenxa yabo udala ulwaphulo. Le ndlela yokuqala yokuzikhusela.
- Ukuluyisa uxanduva kwi-head head. Xa kukho ukungaphumeleli, ukubandezeleka kweengxaki eziphantsi, uyaqonda ukuba wenza iphutha, kodwa uzama ukugxeka ingqalelo kwizinto zangaphandle. Ulungelelwano phambi komntu wonke, ukugxekwa kwintlekele kunye nenhlanhla, indawo kunye nenkampani embi. Akakwazi nje ukunyamekela ukunyameka kwakhe kunye neempazamo zakhe.
- Ukuphepha ukhuphiswano. Umntu onesidima esincinane uyamoyika ukuzithelekisa nomntu. Uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uya kulahleka xa ethelekiswa. Akathathi inxaxheba kwimincintiswano kwaye akenzi nayiphi na imizamo yokuphumelela.
- Khangela iziphoso. Umntu onenkcenkceshelwano engapheliyo akakuniki ukuphumula kwabanye impumelelo yabantu. Ukhangele ukungaphumeleli kubantu abaphumelelayo, ukunciphisa ukuzithemba kwabo. Uzama ukuqinisa wonke umntu emgodini wakhe.
- Hypersensitivity. Indoda iphendula ngokukhawuleza ekugxeka nasekudumiseni. Ukuva ukuncoma, baya kukhanyela ukunyaniseka kwakhe, befuna ukuva ubungqina. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ubungqina obunjalo obubunzima obuphantsi kwabasetyhini. Bafuna nje ukuncoma. Ukugxeka kubandakanya iinqwelo ezingenakunceda kwaye uzame ukuzithethelela.
- Uloyiko lokwenza impazamo. Umthetho wegolide womntu onzima: "Ongenzi nto ayenzi iimpazamo." Bayesaba ukuthatha nawuphi na umsebenzi ngenxa yokoyiko lokungahlangabezane nayo.
Indlela yokujongana nobunzima obuphantsi?
Ukuvakalelwa kwento engenamsebenzi kubonakala kunoma yimuphi umntu kwixesha elithile lobomi. Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye abantu bahamba ngeli xesha kwaye bahlaziya. Kuyimfuneko ukulahla, ukuba le mvakalelo ifumane umgangatho ongapheliyo. Ulwaphulo olukhethekileyo kunye nokuqeqeshwa kunokunceda umntu athole amandla, azithande yena kwaye anqobe yonke ubunzima. Ingxaki yenkcenkcesha ye-inferiority iza kuxazululwa ngelixa umntu ezithanda yena.