Ukuvalwa kuvame ukubonwa njengento engafanelekiyo yomlingiswa, obangela ubunzima obuninzi kumnini wayo. Umntu ovaliweyo kunzima ukuqhagamshelana naye, wenza abantu abatsha baqhelane naye, uloyiko abangaziwayo, uguqule kakubi iqela elitsha, kwaye kunzima ukuvula umphefumlo wakhe kwabanye. Kwaye konke oku akunjalo nakuboniso bodwa: ngamanye amaxesha abantu abanjalo banqwenela ukuqhagamshelana nabanye, oku kuphela oku kukho ubunzima.
Izizathu zokuzihlukanisa
Iingcali zengqondo zibhekwa njengengxaki yobuntwana. Ngaloo ndlela, njengomthetho, abanye abantu bahlala benentlalontle kwaye bakhululwe, ngelixa abanye - banamahloni baze bahoxiswe. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana uyakhula, kunye neengxaki zikhula kunye naye, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo unesizungu kunye nokuzihlukanisa kuyahamba ngesandla.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana bavalelwe ngokwabo ngenxa yeengxabano zabo zabazali ezenzeka ngqo phambi kwamehlo akhe. Kwaye ukuba umntwana uyakhangwa nakwizinto ezinjalo, iingxaki zinokuba nzima nakakhulu. Ingane inokuzama ukungabonakali, ukufihla, ukufumana iingxaki zokunxibelelana. Ukuthintela lolu hlobo lokuzihlukanisa, kudla ngokwaneleyo nje ukuphucula i-microclimate kwintsapho.
Abo bantwana abahluphekayo ngenxa yokunqongophala kokunxibelelana bakhula kakhulu. Abantwana abahlala bezungezwe ngabanye abantwana bahlala behamba ukuhamba okanye baye kwi-nursergart, njengombandela, abanalo iingxaki. Kodwa ukuba inkunzi ichitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabantu abadala abahlala bexakeke kwiindaba zabo kwaye, ngakumbi, bayabhuqa umntwana, kwaye ukuxhomekeka kukubonakalayo okubonakalayo kuphuhliso lweziganeko. Uyaziqhelanisa nokuba akukho mntu uyamkhathalelayo, kwaye uyasetyenziselwa ukudlala naye.
Kukulungele ukuqala ukulungiswa kokuzihlukanisa nangona i-signal yokuqala ibonakala - umntwana wenqaba ukuthetha nabazali kunye nabani na. Ukongeza, ukwesaba abantu abangaqhelekanga kunye neengxaki ezinkulu kwixesha elizayo zingaphuhlisa. Kwezinye iimeko, uncedo lwesazi sengqondo siyadingeka.
Indlela yokurhoxisa ukuzihlukanisa?
Ngelishwa, akukho mpendulo enye kumbuzo wendlela yokulwa nokuzimela. Okokuqala kufuneka uzame ukufumanisa apho ivela khona, nini kwaye iqhubeka njani. Ukuba iingxaki zivela ebuntwaneni obunzulu, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba ungekho uncedo lwe-psychoanalyst awuyi kuhlangabezana nayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo unxulumano olunjalo lunokudibana neenkomfa zakho. Umzekelo, ukugqiba kunye nokuzibandakanya kubonakala kukuqala, kodwa ngokwenene into yonke ibaluleke kakhulu: ngenxa yokwesaba ukugwetywa, uyaxoshwa kuwe. Kule mfuneko kuyimfuneko ukulwa nama-complexes, kwaye ngale ndlela ukunqoba ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano.
Amaxesha amaninzi amantombazana, kuquka abo babonwabisayo kakhulu, abanakukuqonda oku, kwaye ngenxa yoko bavame ukunciphisa uxhulumaniso lwabo. Kule meko, kufuneka utshintshe ukubonakala, yenza konke ukuqinisekisa ukuba iyakulingana nawe ngokusemandleni akho, kwaye ukuzahlukana kwakho kuya kutshabalala ngokwalo.
Ziqaphele, umzekelo, utshintshe isitayela sakho seenwele okanye wenze umquba womzimba, yenza iimaski zokuzicoca - konke oku kuya kukunika isithemba ngokubonakala kwakho. Unganqikazi ukugqoka iimpahla ezintle, ungazigqoki kwi-turtleneck edibeneyo
Nabani na umntu othetha ngokulula nalabo abanomdla naye. Ngoko ke, inyathelo elinyanzelekileyo kukuthatha inxaxheba kuyo nayiphi na isangqa somdla, ukuya kuzo naziphi na iikhosi okanye iiklasi. Kulapho unokufumana abantu abanomdla kunye nokuthetha nabo kalula. Kwaye emva kokuba inqamaniso yakho yokudibanisa iya kunyuka kakhulu, kuya kuba lula ukuba uqhagamshelane nabanye abantu.
Indlela ebukhali kakhulu, kodwa ephumelelayo yokunqoba ukuvalwa, ilele ekugqibeleni ngokugqithiseleyo ngenxa yokwesaba kwakho. Ukuba ukwesaba ukuthetha nomfokazi, sondela kubantu kwisitalato uze ucele ixesha. Ukuba unganqikazi ukujwayelana - ukwenza izinto kwiindawo zokuthandana. Ukwenza oko uyikayikayo ngaphambili, unqobe ukwesaba kwakho.