Kwisinye isigqeba umyalezo wolu hlobo wanyatheliswa: "Ndiyabazonda abantu, kwaye bayandizonda. Andikwazi ukuhlala kuluntu lwezilwanyana, ndibazonda abantu ababini, abazenzisi, abakhohlakeleyo. Ndiyithiyile abantu abaninzi, kuba bonke baneempawu. Ihlabathi liyaqhekeka phambi kwamehlo ethu. Ndixelele, kutheni ndibazithiyile abantu? Ndingahlala njani nale nto? Emva kwakho konke, ubukho buba lula nje ... ". Umbhali wesigidimi yintombazana eneminyaka engama-15, ngokuqhelekileyo iselula. Ekuboneni kokuqala, kubonakala ngathi ebomini bakhe kukho into enokwenzeka ukuba yenzeke ukuva iimvakalelo ezinjalo. Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje abantu abaninzi baninzi bafumana isifo esinjalo njenge-misanthropy - elo negama lomntu othiya abantu.
I-Misanthropy - yintoni na?
I-Misanthrope, okanye umntu ozonda abanye abantu, unganakulinganiswa, unqande uluntu, unokuze ahlakulele intlalo yoluntu, ukwesaba uluntu. I-Misanthropy ingenza isiseko sobulumko bobomi bomntu, kwaye unokuphila ubomi bakhe bonke, ukuzonda abantu nokungazi uvuyo lwentsebenziswano yabantu, uthando, ubuhlobo.
I-Misanthropes ibandezeleka kakhulu kwi-misanthropy, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, yonwabele. Uninzi lwe-misanthropes luthi, "Ndiyayithiya abantu kwaye ndiyaziqhayisa." Kukho abanye abantu abanesifo se-misanthropes abagcina ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, kodwa bambalwa. I-Misanthropes ihlaselela iimpawu zomntu ngamnye, kwaye kungekhona into engeyiyo. Baphinde badlulisele umbono wabo wobuntu kwabanye abantu baze bakholelwe ukuba bonke abanye abantu bayamzonda.
Mvelaphi
Makhe sibone isizathu sokuba abantu bazondane. Inzondo ye-misanthrope ebantwini bonke ingabangela izizathu ezininzi.
- Ukungathandabuzeki. Umntu uxhomekeke kwimibono yabanye, akayikunyamezela ukugxeka kwidilesi yakhe, ngoko ke uzama ukuphepha abantu okanye bathathe zonke iingxelo zabo kwidilesi yakhe kunye neebhononti.
- Ukuvalelwa kobuphantsi. Ukukhuseleka kuvela rhoqo kubantwana. Yona yimbangela yeemvakalelo zokungaphantsi, kwaye umntu ufuna ukuqinisekiswa ngokwabo kwindleko yabanye.
- Ukuba nomona ngabanye ngeemeko zezimali ezingalinganiyo, ubunzima bezinto eziphathekayo, ukungabi nhlonipho kukukwenza uzive uthiyile.
- LeMfundo. Oku kuninzi kukuchaphazela inzondo yabanye. Sinyamezela zonke iinguqu zethu kunye ne-phobias ukususela ebuntwaneni.
Kufuneka idibaniswe ukuba inzondo ayibangelwa ngokukhethekileyo yinto enenzondo, kodwa isifundo sayo. Okokuthi, indoda ayithandi omnye umntu, kodwa kunoko. Ngenxa yokuba akayiyo loo nto, kungekhona njengomntu wonke, le nto inomona kwaye i-inferiority complex.
Njani ukunqoba inzondo?
Zimbalwa ze-misanthrope zibuza ukuba wenzeni ukuba uyamthiya umntu. Abanomdla kwiindlela zokuphambuka kwimigaqo yabo yobomi, kwaye buhlungu. Abantu abanjalo baya kuba nako ukunceda kuphela u-psychotherapist ofanelekileyo, oya kwenza ukuba uqonde, okokuqala, ngokwakho. Kodwa abanye banokuzivuma bona:
Okokuqala, kufuneka ufumane isizathu senzondo yakho. Kutheni uthiyile abantu? Ukuzithumela kuwe. Yintoni enokukukhathaza ngokwenene kwaye ibangela ukuba le nto ihlaseleyo? Ukuba ufumana amandla okuvuma ukuba unomona kwabanye abantu, kuba banento ongenayo, ke le nto isinyathelo sokuqala sokuphilisa. Kutheni uqondisa imikhosi yakho kwizinto ezibhubhisayo kwaye, masibe sinyanisekile, akunakunceda, okokuqala kuwe, inzondo? Beka umgomo kwaye ujonge imizamo yakho yokufezekisa.