Ukunxibelelana yinkqubo eyinkimbinkimbi yokuseka oonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu kunye namaqela onke. Ngaphandle koqhagamshelwano, uluntu lwabantu aluyi kuba khona. Ekubeni ukubonakala komntu wokuqala, kuye kwaba yimbangela kunye nesibambiso sokuvela koluntu kunye nempucuko. Abantu banamhlanje abakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nakweyiphi na indawo yobomi babo nemisebenzi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu uyathanda yedwa okanye inkampani, i-extrovert okanye i-introvert. Masizame kunye ukuze sifumane izizathu zento ekhethekileyo njengento yokuxhumana kunye nokuphendula umbuzo wokuba umntu ufuna ukuthetha njani.
Indima yokunxibelelana ebomini babantu
Impendulo yombuzo wokuba kutheni umntu akwazi ukuthetha naye kusenza sibe nembali yoluntu lwangaphambili. Kususela ekunxibelelweni abantu bokuqala abaveliswa ngempawu, kwaye intetho yabantu iqhutywe, loo migaqo neenkcazo zezinto zibonakala, kwaye kamva ukubhala. Kungenxa yokunxibelelana kunye nokuvela koluntu, uluntu loluntu, lusele uhlobo lwemithetho yokunxibelelana phakathi kwabantu.
Ukubaluleka kokunxibelelana ebomini babantu akunakuze kugxininiswe. Inempembelelo enkulu ekubunjweni kwengqondo yabantu, ukuphuhliswa kwayo ngokufanelekileyo. Ukunxibelelana phakathi kwabantu kubancedisa ukutshintshisisa ulwazi, ukuqonda nokuqonda, ukufunda kumava kunye nokwabelana nabo. Unxibelelwano ebomini bomntu luhlula kuye kwezinye izinto eziphilayo kule planethi.
Kutheni kuthethana?
Isidingo somntu onxibelelwano sinqunywe ngobomi bakhe bendalo kunye nokuhlala rhoqo kuluntu, nokuba yintsapho, kunye nabasebenzi, isikolo okanye iklasi labafundi. Ukuba umntu unqatshelwe ithuba lokuthetha ngokuzalwa, akanakuze akhule abe ngumntu osentlalontwini, ophucukileyo kunye nenkcubeko, okukhumbuza umntu ngaphandle.
Oku kuboniswa ngamatyala amaninzi ebizwa ngokuthi "abantu baseMowgli", abathintela ukunxibelelana kwabantu kwasebuncinaneni okanye ngokukhawuleza ekuzalweni. Zonke iinjongo zendalo ezenziwe ngabantu abanjalo ziqhelekileyo, kodwa apha i-psyche ikhatywe kakhulu ekuphuhliseni, kwaye yada yayeka ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yokungabikho kwamava nabantu. Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba siqonda isizathu sokuba umntu afune ukuthetha nabanye abantu.
Ubugcisa bokuthetha nabantu
Kubonakala ngathi ukuba unxibelelwano luyinto engokwemvelo kubo bonke abantu, ngoko ke ngamnye wethu kufuneka adibanise ngokukhululekile kwaye akwazi ukwenza. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha abanye abantu banokwesaba ukuthetha nabantu okanye, ngamanye amagama, i-social phobia. Uloyiko lwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo ebusheni, ubunzima kunobomi bomntu. Ukuba ukuqala ukungena kuluntu kudlulela kakubi, ngoko kwixesha elizayo umntu uya kuba neengxaki zokuthetha nabantu.
Izakhono zonxibelelwano nabantu zifumene ngobudala kwaye nantsi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyiqonda lo bugcisa. Imithetho yamandulo yonxibelelwano inokunceda kulo:
- Ukuqhagamshelana nomntu, yenze indlela engcono, ngombono wakho.
- Bonisa intlonelo kumntu othetha naye.
- Thembela umntu othetha naye.
Ngabantu abanolwazi, ngokuqhelekileyo asinayo ingxaki yokunxibelelana, siyazi kakuhle indlela abasabela ngayo kumazwi athile, iingxelo kunye neendaba. Kodwa ukuthetha nabantu abangaziwayo, kuyafaneleka ukuba wenze njalo kwiindawo ezilungileyo, ungabonakali nantoni na, uhlale unesidima. Thetha ngomomotheka, kodwa zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba amagama akho kunye nemibandela ifanelekile. Khangela umntu ebonakala ngamehlo ngokucacileyo nenyameko, bonise umdla kunye nomninimdla wokunxibelelana. Ukuba awukwazi ukuzinqoba kwaye wenze konke oku ngasentla ngenxa yesinye isizathu okanye esinye, kungcono nje ukuphepha ukunxibelelana nomntu.