Abantu abaninzi abazi nje ukuba bafunde ukuzithobela njani, kodwa kunjalo kulungele ukujongana nale ngxaki, kuba ukuba unganenkxalabo malunga nalo, ungakuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba akukho msebenzi okanye ubuhlobo bomntu ongeyena ongeze.
Indlela yokufunda ukuhlonela nokuzixabisa?
Ingxaki yokwazi ngokwabo kunye nolwalamano lokwakha kunye nabantu abazungezile libandakanya kwisayensi njengengqondo. Ngoko ke, ngokuqala, makhe siqwalasele iindlela zengcali ezinikezelayo.
Ngoko, i-psychology ithi akulula ukuqonda indlela yokufunda ukuzihlonela, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ukwenza oku, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba uluphi uhlobo lweempawu zobuntu oluthintela umntu ukuba angaziva "akabi nakakhulu kunabanye." Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuqonda ukuba ubunzima buye buvela ngenxa yezinto ezibonakalayo okanye ezingenakucatshulwa ngokubonakalayo, okanye mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukuqhubeka nencoko. Xa sele ufumene ingxaki, kuya kwenzeka ukuba uqale ukuyicombulula. Musa nje ukuzama ukulungisa zonke iimpazamo ngokukhawuleza, xubusha nomntu osondeleyo ukuba ingaba le nto ayinakukwenza uzive uzonwabile kwaye uqinisekile. Kungenzeka ukuba "uhlambe" kwiwe kwaye akudingeki ukuba "ulahle 10 kg" okanye "ulungise izinwele zakho".
Isinyathelo sesibini kwindlela oqala ukuzithobela ngayo, kwaye unqande intloni, yinkqubo efana nokwazisa ngemfanelo yakhe. Iingcali zincoma ukuba zenze uluhlu lwempumelelo yazo. Kuloluhlu, unokwenza yonke into, kunye nombala ongabonakaliyo kwamehlo, kunye nokukwazi ukulungiselela i-omelet "efanelekileyo", kwaye kwanokuba ibakala lesi-5 linikezelwe ngomzobo ongcono. Musa ukucinga ukuba akuyimfuneko ukuluhlu zonke iintlobo "zeengxowa-mali", akukho nto injalo kwisimo sengqondo. Zama ukuqonda ukuba oko ucinga ukuba "akubalulekanga" komnye umntu unokuthi ube ngumona .