Enoba siyayithanda okanye ayikho, sisoloko sibhekana nokukhetha. Sakhetha apho siphila khona, apho siza kufunda khona, sikhethe uqeqesho, nakwixesha elizayo kunye nomsebenzi wendawo. Inkqubo yokwenza izigqibo ayinakupheka. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukwenza ukhetho. Kufuneka sicinge, sihlalutye, thelekisa zonke "i-pluses" kunye ne "minuses", xhaphaza ngokungathandabuzeki uze ube nohlobo lomngcipheko.
Umbuzo wento oyikhethayo - umsebenzi okanye intsapho yabaninzi abadibanisayo. Kwaye oku kubangelwa ngabasetyhini, kuba ukunakekela intsapho, ukukhulisa abantwana nokulungiselela intshontsho yentsapho iyawa kumahlombe ethu athathaka. Akukho nto enokuyenza, siya kukhetha ...
Ukuhlaselwa ngamaqhinga
Kwimeko yoluntu yamukelwa ngoko - umfazi uyatshata, uyazala abantwana kwaye, uyavuya xa ehlazeka, uchitha ixesha lokulindela umlingane. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu onjengolu bomi ufanelekile kwaye uyamangalisa. Ngaphandle koko, akudingeki ukuba wenze umbingelelo kwaye wenze ngokuchasene neminqweno kunye neenjongo zakho. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba akukho nto inomntu onayo ebomini. Akukho mntu uya kukwakha ulonwabo kuwe, akayi kufumana umnqweno kwaye akayi kufeza iinjongo. Ukuba uziva ngaphakathi kwakho ubuncwane obunokuba ufuna ukuyiqonda kwimisebenzi yakho, kwaye kungekhona kwintsapho, sebenze. Abasetyhini batshatile beneminyaka engama-35 baza bazala abantwana, nangona kunjalo okokugqibela oku kufuna iimfuno ezinkulu kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwimpilo yakho.
Umfazi ophumelelayo unokukwazi ukutyelela i-beauty salons, ukusebenzisa ubuchule obuphezulu kuthetha ukuzinyamekela, ukubukela ukuba uhlale ehle kakhulu. Abasetyhini abanjalo abayi kuhluthwa ngqalelo kwindoda. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kuba nzima ukufumana "indoda" efanelekile, kuba kufuneka akuphephe izinto eziphathekayo kunye nengqondo. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuhlala ufanele ubeke ukuzithoba kwakhe ngokusuka kwimpumelelo yakho.
Ngoko, kumbuzo wento ebaluleke kakhulu-intsapho okanye umsebenzi, sikhetha umsebenzi wethu. Ngokwemvelo, kuphela kwimeko apho ungakhange ufumane intsapho, kodwa yenza kuphela izinto eziphambili kwixesha elizayo.
Cinga ngentliziyo yakho
Ngoko weza, thanda. Kwaye ngoku akunandaba - ngengozi okanye ngokukodwa, kodwa iimvakalelo zigqithiseleyo, kwaye ishishini lisondela kumtshato. Kwaye unomsebenzi wokulungiselela "inkwenkwezi yeeyure" yakho, kwaye ngandlela-thile zonke izinto ezingafanelekiyo, kodwa uthando emva kwayo yonke into ... Nangu kufika ixesha lokuzikhethela, lona wesifazane uphuthuma, kuba engazi ukuba kukhetha ntoni - umsebenzi okanye usapho. Akukho mfihlelo ukuba emva komtshato, njengomthetho, abantwana bazalwa, kwaye le yileti ithabileyo kumyalelo. Luhlobo luni lomsebenzi okhoyo, uthetha ntoni ngo ...?
Kule meko, kuya kufuneka ukhethe intliziyo nomphefumlo wakho, kungekhona intloko yakho. Khangela umntu ophakathi kwakho. Mhlawumbi wabonakala ebomini bakho kwaye wenza ukuba kube lula kwaye kunomdla ngakumbi, kufaka intsingiselo kuyo. Indoda yakho ilungele ukudala intsapho, kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke intliziyo yakhe iyayifuna. Ukuba unethemba lokuba uya kukwazi ukubonelela ngobomi obuhloniphekileyo kuwe nabantwana bakho bexesha elizayo, ukuba uyambona njengoyise wabantwana bakho, ucinge ngako. Ngokucacileyo, ulungele ukuba ngumfazi onothando nothando, unelisekile ngale ngcamango kwaye uyaqonda ukuba sele ukhethe ukhetho lwakho.
Ukufumana umntu omthandayo akulula. Ngaphi na unokudibana nomntu onokumemeza ngokulondeka. Unokuba novelwano kunye nezibini ezithi, nangona zonke iimpumelelo zonyango lwangoku, azikwazi ukuba nabantwana kwaye ziwele phantsi.
Kutheni intsapho ibaluleke ngaphezu komsebenzi - wonke umntu uyazigqiba. Kwomntu, ulonwabo kubantwana kunye nokunyamekela umyeni wakhe, umntu ngokusemthethweni akafuni ukusebenza kwaye angakwazi ukuwufumana, abanye babingelele egameni lothando. Wonke umntu unelungelo lokukhetha, kodwa umntu akanakuze atyala umntu. Ukhetha ukhetho lwakho, kwaye unembopheleleko yalo miphumo.
Umfazi wanamhlanje, ukuba unqwenela, unokufumana ithuba lokuhlanganisa ukunakekelwa kwentsapho kunye nomsebenzi ophumelelayo. Yaye ukuba kuye kumntu ohloniphekileyo, uya kuqonda nokuxhasa.