Xa abantu bezama ukuqonda abafazi kwaye abafumani nantoni na eyenziweyo - oku kuqhelekileyo, asifuni ukuba baqonde iimpembelelo zethu eziphezulu. Kodwa indlela yokuziqonda ngayo, indlela yokugqiba iinjongo zeenjongo "ezifanayo" - esi sihloko sokuqiqa okuvelisayo. Masizame ukuqonda i-psychology yamantombazana kwaye sifunde ukuziphendulela umbuzo othi "kutheni?"
Ngothando
Ngaba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe ukuba uthandana kwaye awuqondi ukuba uyamthanda? Ngaba kwenzeka kwenzeka ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumntu owamthanda ngokwenene, ngenxa yokuba awuzange uqaphele ukuthanda kwakho ngexesha? Yonke le ingqondo yowesifazane, eyonakalisayo. Ingqondo yengqondo yamantombazana othandweni, i-alas, okanye inhlanhla, ingabandakanyi ubukho naziphi na iingcamango, inika yonke imikhosi kwimivalo enobudlova, amagama angachazwanga. Makhe sibone indlela yokujonga ukuba uyabathanda:
1. Iqabane lakho elinokuthi likunike iintyatyambo, i-candy kunye neetysys, ngokuphendula kulo:
- yonke inombulelo uyamkela, uyithathe kalula - awusenalo uthando, kodwa vumela ukuba uthande;
- uzame ukukholisa ngokuphendula okuthile kunye naye - ukuphulaphula ngokucophelela amagama akhe kunye namabali kwaye unike izipho "kwinqaku" - unothando okanye unomdla kakhulu.
2. Thatha inyathelo:
- bazibiza kwaye banikezele ukudibana-mhlawumbi oku kungumqondiso weengqondo zentombazana enothando;
- ukujonga ngokukhawuleza imiba ephuthumayo, iintlanganiso zokuhlehliswa kweengxelo zexesha elizayo azifunwa;
- cwangciso - ekuthandeni, uya kuqala ukuphosakela ingxoxo malunga nokuba kuya kuba kuhle kangakanani ukuya khona, u tyelele into ethile, uye apho, njalo njalo;
- unomdla - qaphela umdla kwizinto ongazange uhlale nazo ngaphambili, xa "yena" ekutshela ngabo.
Ulwimi lweelwimi
Ukongeza kwi-psychology yokuziphatha kwamantombazana, kukho nolwimi lomzimba, oluthetha kakuhle, ukuba ukhangelelene.
Izimpawu zothando ngomzimba womzimba:
- imbobo evulekileyo - imilenze ihluke kancane, ingalo ikhululekile (ayiyi kuwela), ityhax isolulwe;
- ukujongwa okungenakuvinjelwa, ukuhlala kugxininiswe kwinto omele uyenze ngayo;
- uvakalelwa njani ukuba emzimbeni wakho kuvela amandla amanga, angavamile.
Ukwahlula
Isihloko esahlukileyo sokucingisisa nokuzifunda ngokwaso yintlalo yengqondo yamantombazana emva kokuhlukana. Ngaba uzive ukhululekile, uvuyo emva kokuhlukana?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukhala emlanjeni, isikhalazo kubahlobo, kodwa ngaphakathi kwakho ujabulela umxhelo, inkululeko. Ekugqibeleni ulahlekile ubudlelwane obunzima.
Ukuba umfazi uyavuya emva kwekhefu, eqaliswe nguye, oku kuqhelekileyo. Ukulungele ukuziphatha oku, okokuqala, sele usunanto inqwenela ukudibanisa. Ukunceda kuyindlela eqhelekileyo yokusabela ekugqibeleni izinto ezingadingekile.
Kodwa kwimeko yokutshatyalaliswa ngokukhawuleza eqaliswe liqabane lakho - umvakalelo wenkululeko kunye nenkululeko incokola ngezinye zeengxaki ze- psyche yakho. Oku ngokuqhelekileyo kubakho nabasetyhini ababengabanenhlanhla kubazali babo ebuntwaneni babo. Ubaba okhuselekileyo, owayesaba intombazana encinci, waba ngumgqugquzeli wokudala umhlaba wakhe, apho kungekho mntu. Ngokwemvelo, wena
Emva koko uthi utshabalalisa ubudlelwane bakho ngokwakho, ube ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwimeko elindelekileyo yokuphumla. Impendulo enjalo, enokwenzeka ukuba, kufuneka ixoxwe nengcali yengqondo. Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa lithemba: ngeeseshoni ezininzi ze-psychotherapy, uya kususwa ebhodini lokulimala kwabantwana kwaye uya kuqalisa ulwalamano olutsha kunye nesondo lesilisa kwi-slate ecocekileyo.
Ukuziphatha kwabasetyhini akunakucaciswa nakwabesifazane ngokwabo. Uyazi oku ngokuqinisekileyo ngokwakho. Ngaba kufanelekile kule meko ukugxeka amadoda ngokungaqondani, kwaye ngoko, ukuba unqamle iisuthi kubuhlobo bakho?