Ulwimi lwezandla lunokunceda intetho yomntu. Kule miqondiso ungayifunda ukufunda umnxibelelwano wakho kwaye wazi ukuba uthetha inyaniso okanye into efihliweyo. Ukufunda oku akunzima, kufuneka nje ufunde ulwimi lomzimba. Okokuqala, kubandakanya ukuthetha okungabonakaliyo ngomlomo - izibonakaliso ezingadlulisela ulwazi oluyimfuneko.
Ukuzibonakalisa okungabonakali kunye nenjongo
Khawucinge ngomsebenzi oqhelekileyo wabantu:
- umntu wenza ukunyakaza okubonisa iintendelezo - ulungele ngokufanelekileyo incoko kwaye uvule ukudibanisa;
- Ukuvala umzimba ngezandla okanye izinto zakho kuthetha ukuba umntu akayithembi umthunywa wakhe;
- Izandla ephaketheni lakho zibonisa isimo sengqondo esinobudlova;
- izandla emva komva kuthi loo mntu ubonakala ekhululiwe;
- Ukuthinta intamo kunye nobuso ngexesha lentetho ibonakaliso lobuxoki;
- ukukopisha ukunyakaza kunye nempawu-mqondiso kukubonakalisa uvelwano;
- ukuhlala uhlala ungathetha ngokungaqiniseki komntu, ngokumfumana kwindawo engathandekiyo okanye imeko.
Ukunxibelelana okungekho ngomlomo kuthethwa kwakhona njengemiqondiso yentloko. Jonga ngokugqithiseleyo, umntu ohlala egxininisa ekuphenduleni intetho yomnxibelelwano-usetyenziswe ukukholisa wonke umntu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba athole imvume kunye nexabiso. Ukuguquka kwentloko ukusuka kwelinye icala ukuya kwelinye kukubonakalisa ukungavumelani.
Izenzo ezingabonakaliyo zentsingiselo kubantu
Ukuze uqonde ukuba umntu uvakalelwa njani uvelwano okanye ayikho, kufuneka ukhangele ngokuthe ngqo ukuhamba komzimba wakhe. Impawu zenceba ziquka ezi zilandelayo:
- ukuphazamiseka kweenwele;
- ukutshiza rhoqo ihembe;
- ziphakamisa iinki ngexesha leengxoxo;
- Le ndoda ichukumisa inqeni, ingalo okanye amanxeba omntu ayithandayo.
Kukho nemisebenzi engabonakaliyo engayichazela ngovelwano lwabafazi. Ezi ziquka ukubheka okude, ukulungiswa kweenwele, ukugqithwa kweenwele, imilenze eyahlukanayo, imilenze yokukhohlisa. Ukuze ufikelele kwizigqibo ezifanelekileyo, umntu kufuneka ahumushe ulwimi lomzimba kunye nokuthinteka kwizinto ezinzima.