Paranoid

Ngaba ucinga ukuba ubukele? Ingaba kukho uvakalelo lokuba into ekhohlakeleyo isilungele? Siyakuvuyiswa, unemiqondiso yeparanoia, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba uyaphikisana. Ngendlela, abantu abahlala kwaye abangazi ukuxilongwa kwabo zigidi, kwaye abantu abayaziyo nokuhlala kunye nale nkxalabo bangamawaka. Ukwesabisa akuyimfuneko, njengoko besithi kwelinye lefilimu "akukho bantu abaphilileyo, kukho uphando oluphandwayo". Ukuba uyigcina ngokucophelela nayiphi na umntu uya kufumana ubuninzi beengqondo okanye iimpawu zabo.

Intsingiselo yelizwi elithi paranoid

NgesiGrike, i-paranoia ithetha ukungcola okanye ukunyanyiswa. I-paranoid ngumntu obonisa ukusola nokungaqiniseki kwabanye. Kwiimeko ezininzi, i-paranoia ifihliwe. Ukuba ngexesha alifunanga uncedo lweengcali, ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva umntu uba yingozi kwintlalo, kuba i-paranoia yindawo esecaleni apho kukho izifo zokugula ngengqondo. I-paranoid inokucacisa ngokucacileyo kwaye ichaze isizathu sokusola nokungathembeki kwabanye. Uthatha yonke into ngeendleko zakhe, nangona kungenanto akwenzayo naye. Umzekelo olula xa umntu evakalelwa kukuba ulandelwa, kubaluleke kakhulu, uyazi ukuba kutheni atshutshiswa. Inentsingiselo yobomi bakhe imfazwe nxamnye notshaba (kwaye le yindoda yangempela eyayixhalalwa yi-paranoia). Xa eyisa intshaba-ekugqibeleni ibonakala utshaba olulandelayo, nangakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ubheka le ngxaki ukusuka kwelinye icala, kwaye ukhumbule ubuntu obenze imbali yehlabathi lonke, unokubona ukuba ukugula akuzange kubathintele, kodwa kunoko kukhokelela abantu abaninzi ukuba baxhaphaze kunye neemfazwe. Kwaye kuncedisa ukuqokelela konke ukuthanda kwinqaba ukufezekisa iinjongo zeenkokheli ze-paranoid. Kwimbali, siya kufumana ubuninzi beemimiselo, xa kwaziwa ukuba i-paranoid esicatshulwayo ingqondo ekhuseleyo yenza ukuba abantu benze into engenakwenzeka.

Ungaphila nge-paranoid?

Kuhle ukunika iingcebiso xa ungajongani ngqo nale sigulo. Kodwa xa uxinzelelo lukushaya, bathandekayo bakho okanye abantu abathandekayo kuwe, umbuzo uvela, "Kuthiwani ukuba ndiyaphikisana? Indlela yokujongana nepanoid? Kuthekani kuthi xa umhlobo wam okanye umyeni wakho ephikisayo? "Ukujonga kuqala, impendulo ilula, ukuba uyamthanda, uhlala naye. Yaye uhlala njani kunye ne-paranoid? Kwaye emva koko, abaninzi baphila kwaye bahlupheke zonke i-antics zamadoda abo, amakhwenkwe achaza oku ngokuthi "emva kwayo yonke into, uyadabuka, ngubani enye into ayifunayo ngaphandle kwam?" Ndifuna nje ukuthetha kubantu abanjalo-inhlanhla. Nangona kunjalo, kuzo zonke izenzo zakho i-paranoiac inezimpendulo zayo kwaye ziphi na izikhokelo zakhe ezigciniweyo, nangona yena ngokwakhe akazi. Uzixolise kuye, kwaye wagqiba ekubeni uceba ukwenza elinye icebo kunye naloo nto uzama ukumncedisa ukuze akwethembe. Yaye ingqalelo yakhe kwinqanaba lembono, uyayinyamekela kuzo zonke izinto ezincinane ezenzeka kuye. Intloko yakhe ihlala isebenza isicwangciso sokuphendula ekuhlaselweni okunokwenzeka kwabangenangqondo. Ewe, ukuba unayo isigaba sokuqala, kwaye ukuba umthandi wakho waya kuma-raznos nazo zonke iimpawu, konke kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ngaba uyamnceda ukuba afune uncedo kwiingcali (kwaye ngokukhawuleza ube yintshaba yakhe inombolo 1), okanye uhambe nje. Ukuze ubaleke kumntu onolunye uhlobo Ukuphambuka kwengqondo kungeke kwenzeke, ngakumbi ukuba unyanzelekile. Kufuneka usebenze nje. Ukuchazela into kumntu okhankanyayo ngesizathu esicacileyo sifana nokuxhuma ngaphantsi kwesitimela kwaye ukholelwa ukuba uyayeka. Yaye unokumnceda: into ephambili kukuba ube nomonde, ukuzola, ukuqonda indlela abona ngayo abanye kwaye angamniki isizathu sokuziva ukuba akafani nawe. Hamba ngokwakho, vumelana naye, ukungafani kwakho kuya kwandisa ubuhlobo bakho kuphela. Into eyona nto kukukholelwa kuwe ukuba esi sifo sinokutshatyalaliswa. Kodwa oku kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba ufuna ukugqithiswa komntu osondelene nawe ngentliziyo yakho nomphefumlo wakho.

Njengomphumo wazo zonke zingentla, simele sitsho ukuba akukho zifo ezimbi, kukho abantu abasondele okanye abajikeleze abangafuni ukunceda umntu omthandayo.