Ubomi bomntu bonke abuhlali nje ngovuyo kunye nezihlandlo ezimnandi, kodwa neziganeko ezibuhlungu, ukudumazeka, izifo kunye nokulahleka. Ukwamkela yonke into eyenzekayo, udinga amandla , kufuneka ukhangele ngokwaneleyo kwaye uqonde imeko. Kwizengqondo, kukho izigaba ezintlanu ekuphunyezweni okungenakukhunjulwa, ngawo wonke umntu udlula obunzima ebomini bakhe.
Ezi zigaba zenziwe yi-American psychologist u-Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, owayenomdla kumxholo wokufa ukususela ebuntwaneni kwaye wayefuna indlela efanelekileyo yokufa. Kamva, wachitha ixesha elininzi nabantu abafa ngokufa, ebancedisa ngokwengqondo, ukuphulaphula ukuvuma kwabo, njl njl. Ngowe-1969, wabhala incwadi ethi "Ukufa nokufa," eyaba ngowona mthengi kwilizwe lakhe kwaye abafundi bafunda ngayo izigaba ezihlanu zokufa, kunye nezinye iziganeko ezingenakukhunjulwa kunye nezobungozi ebomini. Kwaye abaxeli nje umntu ofayo okanye umntu onzima, kodwa nakwiintsapho zakhe ezijongene nale meko.
Amanyathelo ama-5 ekwenzeni ukuphepha
Ezi ziquka:
- Ukulahlwa . Umntu wenqaba ukukholelwa ukuba oku kwenzekayo kuye, kwaye uthemba ukuba eli phupha elibi liya kupheliswa. Ukuba ngumbuzo wokuxilongwa okubulalayo, ngoko ukholelwa ukuba kuyiphutha kwaye ufuna ezinye iiklinikhi kunye noogqirha ukuba bawuphikise. Vala abantu baxhase ukubandezeleka kuzo zonke izinto, kuba nabo, banqwenela ukukholelwa ekupheleni okungenakukupheka. Ngokuqhelekileyo balahlekelwa lixesha, bahlehlise unyango olufunekayo kwaye batyelele i-babushka-fortune tellers, i-psychics, baphathwa ngamagqtotherapeutists, njl. Ingqondo yomntu ogulayo ayikwazi ukuqonda ulwazi malunga nokungaqiniseki kokuphela kobomi.
- Intukuthelo . Kwisigaba sesibini sokwamkelwa komntu ongenakukhunjulwa kukutshisa ukuthuka nokuzixhalaba. Abanye baqala ukuthukuthela kunye nexesha ababuzayo: "Kutheni na? Kutheni le nto yenzeke kum? "Vala abantu kunye nabanye abantu, ingakumbi oogqirha, baba yiintshaba eziyingozi kakhulu abangafuni ukuyiqonda, abafuni ukuphilisa, abafuni ukuphulaphula, njl njl. Kule nqanaba ukuba umntu angakwazi ukuxabana nazo zonke izihlobo zakhe aze abhale izikhalazo malunga noogqirha. Uyakhathazeka ngabo bonke - ukuhleka abantu abaphilileyo, abantwana kunye nabazali abaqhubeka bephila baze bazisombulule iingxaki zabo ezingabakhathaleli.
- Ukuxoxisana okanye ukuxoxisana . Kwinqanaba elingu-3 kwinqanaba elingu-5 lokwenza umntu ongenakugwemeka azame ukuxoxisana noThixo ngokwakhe okanye amanye amagunya aphezulu. Emithandazweni yakhe, uthembisa ukuba uya kuzilungisa, enze oku okanye oko, ngenxa yempilo okanye enye inzuzo ebalulekileyo kuye. Kulo thuba abaninzi baqala ukubandakanya inceba, bakhawuleza ukwenza imisebenzi emihle kwaye banethuba lokwenza okungenani okuncinane kule bomi. Abanye banemiqondiso yabo, umzekelo, ukuba iqela elivela emthini liwela ezinyaweni zalo phezulu, ngoko iindaba ezilungileyo zilinde, kwaye ukuba zibi, ngoko ke ziphantsi.
- Ukuxinezeleka . Kwimigangatho e-4 yokwamkelwa komntu ongenakukhunjulwa uhlaselwa kukudandatheka . Izandla zakhe zilahla, ukunganakwa kunye nokungakhathaleli kuyo yonke into ibonakale. Umntu ulahlekelwa intsingiselo yobomi kwaye unokuzama ukuzibulala. Abavaliweyo banokukhathala ngokulwa, nangona bangenako ukubonakala.
- Ukwamkela . Kwinqanaba lokugqibela, umntu uyamkela into engavumelekanga, uyayamukela. Abantu abagulayo ababulalayo balinde ngokugqibeleleyo ukugqibela kunye baze bathandazele ukuba bafe. Baqala ukucela ukuxolelwa kwiintsapho zabo, beqonda ukuba isiphelo siseduze. Kwimeko yezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu ezingahambelani nokufa, ubomi buya esikolweni. Ukuqhawula kunye nabathandekayo, beqonda ukuba akukho nto ingatshintshwa kakade kwaye yonke into enokuyenza yenzekile.
Ndimele ndithi akubona zonke izigaba ezenzeka kulo myalelo. Ukulandelana kwazo kuyahluka, kwaye ubude buxhomekeke kumandla we-psyche.