Ulwalamano luhlobo oluthile lobuhlobo boluntu, olubonakaliswa ngumzabalazo wento ebalulekileyo: amandla, udumo, ukuqaphela, uthando, ukuchuma, kunye nokunye. Ubomi bendoda yanamhlanje kwiinkalo ezininzi zakhiwe ukhuphiswano. Namhlanje, ukhuphiswano lubanjelwe kuzo zonke iindawo-kwimidlalo, nakubugcisa, nakwintsapho, kunye nabahlobo. Ngoku kukholelwa ukuba ulwalamano luncedo ekuphuhlisweni komntu ngamnye, kodwa oku kuyinkinga enokuphikisana.
Iintlobo zokhuphiswano
Kukho ezimbini iintlobo zenkqubela, enye yazo isakhiwo, enye ishukumisayo. Ukwahlukileyo kubo kubalulekile:
- Ulwalamano olusesikweni lithetha ukulwa noko kubaluleke kakhulu, ngaphandle kokungenakwenzeka ukuhlala (umzekelo, ukulwa nokutya endle, njl.).
- Ukuxhatshazwa okukhuthazayo kuvela xa ubukhulu beqhankqalazi beza kuqala (umzekelo, njengemidlalo yezemidlalo - ukuxhuma phezulu kunokuba wonke umntu akayimfuneko ebomini, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela uluntu).
Akunzima ukuqagela ukuba ebomini babantu kwiimeko ezininzi sibona uhlobo lwesibini lokulwa. Kwakhona kunomdla ukuba lowo ophumeleleyo, kuyimfuneko ukuba abe ngumqhubi kuphela-indawo yokuqala eyahlula amaqela amabini, ukushiya abathathi-nxaxheba babo ngabanelisekile.
Umoya ukhuphiswano kunye neengxaki ezinxulumene nazo
Ngoku kutshanje, ukuphikisana kwengqondo kuqale ukujongwa kungekhona njengento entle, kodwa njengento engalunganga. Iingcinga zabantu zixhomekeke kwingcamango yokuba ukuphikisana kukukhuthaza ukuphumelela kwimpumelelo kwaye ngokubanzi kulungile ukuba ukushiya le ngcamango kwabanye kuya kuba nzima.
Ngenxa yokuba kukho ukungquzulwano kwimpikiswano, kwintsebenziswano nakwezinye iindidi zobomi, abantu bathambekele ekucingeni kuphela indlela yokuphumelela kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo ukulahleka okanye ukuphela kwehlabathi akuqwalaselwe nantoni na, yintoni ingxaki enkulu. Abantu baqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba kufuneka babe ngabaphumeleleyo, kufuneka bahlale bekulungele. Ngenxa yokuba kulo mzekelo ukucinga kuzaliswa ngokwecwangciso "ukuphumelela kwam kuthetha ukulahleka kwakho", oko kuthetha ukuba abantu bayazifanisa nabanye nakwiemeko apho oku kungadingeki nhlobo.
Isicwangciso esithile sokubambisana sibangela ingxaki yokujongana neminqweno yomzabalazo wobunini bomntu wokuqala, ngenxa yoko abantu abangaboni njengolu khetho njengentsebenziswano nabanye. Oku kwenza uluntu lwethu lukhuthele kwaye luqaphele omnye nomnye, olukulo luyingxaki.
Ukuphikisana - ngaba kuyimfuneko?
Ukuphikisana, kunye nentsebenziswano - inxalenye yobuntu buntu, kodwa ayifumanekanga, kodwa enjalo, okufuneka ifundwe kwindlela yokuphila. Kukho uluvo lokuba yinto yokubambisana eyancedisa uluntu ukuba luphile, kodwa kulula ukuqikelela ukuba ngokwenene indawo yokuqala isabambisana: ukuba abantu abazange bajoyine imikhosi baze baqhubele abanye
Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu banomlutha wokubambisana ukuba bayakulibala ngokupheleleyo ukuba kwiimeko ezininzi, iziphumo eziphambili zingenziwa ngokusebenzisana nomntu. Isimo sengqondo sokukhuphisana kuzo zonke iikhokelela kwiingxaki ezininzi zeengqondo: umntu akavumeli mntu kwihlabathi lakhe elingaphakathi, ukwesaba ukuba ubuthathaka bakhe buya kusetyenziswa kuye. Le meko kufuneka igwenywe, kuba ukuphawula ngokugqithiseleyo kukunyanzela ukuba uhlale unengxabano engapheliyo, engenakuchaphazela kakubi impilo ye-system ye-nervous.