Ukuziqhelanisa ngurhulumente ukuba ubani oye wafumana ngandlela-thile ngandlela-thile, kodwa kwabanye abantu, le meko iba yinto eqhubekayo kwaye iyaqhubeka idibanisa yonke imihla, ukuba umntu akayixhathisi. Abantu abakudala kunye nabagqibeleleyo banamathuba amaninzi okuthintela.
Ukuziqhelanisa - yintoni na?
Yiyiphi into yokugweba - inkcazo yento eguqulelwe kwisiNgesi "yokuzilibazisa" ngokwezwi nezwi ithetha "ukulibazisa", "ukuhlehliswa" - ukunyanzeliswa komntu ukuyeka iimeko eziphuthumayo nezibalulekileyo. Ukuziqhelanisa ngokuqhelekileyo kuya kuba yinto engapheliyo, ukuvelisa iingxaki zengqondo ngendlela yoxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, ukuxhalabisa, okuyinkimbinkimbi yobomi bomntu.
Ukuziqhelanisa kwengqondo
Ukunyamekela ukunyanzeliswa kukususwa kweemeko ezingabalulekanga kwimvelaphi, ukuze kuthotyelwe ingqalelo ebalulekileyo kulo mbuso. Enyanisweni, kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuchasene noko, kwaye izazi zengqondo zibona oku njengengxaki enkulu yoluntu yanamhlanje. Umntu udala ukukholelwa ukuba ukuba uthetha zonke izinto ezincinci ekuqaleni, "uyacima" indawo yakhe yokufezekisa umcimbi obalulekileyo, kodwa ngandlela-thile izinto ezincinci ziqala ukuwela kwi-geometric progression, kwaye ukugxininisa ebalulekileyo kuboniswe "ngomso ".
Iimpawu zokugweba
Khangela isifo sokumisa kwikhaya lakho, kufuneka uzibukele emini. Iimpawu zomgcini:
- Iziganeko ezicwangcisiweyo zihlehliselwe ixesha elingenammiselo;
- Ixesha lokubulala lihlala liphukile;
- kukho izihlandlo ezihlala zilungelelaniswa, kutheni umsebenzi ongewenziwe, isigqibo asenziwanga;
- Ukuhlaziywa ngaphezu kwexesha, umva wecala, intukuthelo ngokwabo kunye nentlungu eyenziwa ngabanye;
- ukuqonda ukuba ikhona ingxaki yokukhawuleza;
- ekubeni uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo ngenxa yokuqokelelwa kwebhizinisi elingenakunyulwa okanye elingapheliyo;
- kwinqanaba lamandla aphantsi.
Izizathu zokukhawuleza
Umlo wokulwa nokuzigweba awuyi kuphumelela ngaphandle kokuba izizathu zolu hlobo zichongiwe, zinokuthi zilandelayo:
- ukukhuthazwa okuphantsi okanye ukungabikho ngokupheleleyo kwalo;
- ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli;
- ukuphelela;
- umba okanye umsebenzi omele ufezekiswe kubangelwa ukugatywa, ukugatywa kunye nokuchasana;
- ukukwazi ukutshintsha ngexesha;
- ukungabi nako ukhetho kunye nendlela yokudala inkululeko kwisisombululo;
- uxinzelelo lwangaphandle;
- ixesha elicacileyo;
- ukungafuni ukuthabatha uxanduva;
- ukungakwazi ukucwangcisa ixesha.
Iintlobo zokwehla
Indlela yokunqoba ukugweba - kwinqanaba lokuqala kuyimfuneko ukuluhlu lo mcimbi. Iingcali zangaphandle, izazi zengqondo zentlalo: N. Milgram D. Moorer, D. Abahlala kwizifundo zabo zokumiswa, bafumanisa iintlobo ezi-5:
- Umzi (imihla ngemihla) - ukukwazi ukulawula ixesha, ukulibaziseka njengesicwangciso esibalulekileyo.
- Ukuziqhelanisa nokuthatha izigqibo kubandakanya ubunzima bokuthatha isigqibo ngexesha elichazwe ngokucacileyo, oku kusebenza nakwizigqibo ezincinci, ezingabalulekanga.
- Ukunyanzeliswa kokunyanzelisa kuyinto engapheliyo yokumiswa, ukuchasana malunga nayiphi na imisebenzi.
- Ukugwetywa kwe-Neurotic - ukuhlehliswa kwezigqibo kwizigqibo ezibalulekileyo, kwiimeko ezithile zobomi kunye neminyaka yobudala, kunokunxulumana nokoyika.
- Isimiso sokumangalisa emfundo kubantu abanezesayensi, imfundo, abafundi, ootitshala, ubonakaliswe ekuhlehliseni, ukuhlehlisa ixesha lokuphuhliswa kweeprojekthi, ukuphunyezwa kwemisebenzi, imisebenzi efanelekileyo.
Ubuvila nokuzinyameka
Izinto ezinje njengokuzigweba kunye nobuvila azifani. Ukuba ubuvila buyakunikwa njengento engekho nto kunye nokungafuni umnqweno womsebenzi, ngoko kuhlaziywa kubonakaliswa kumkhwa ophuhliselwe ukuyeka i-shishini ngosuku olulandelayo. Isizathu sokuqala sinokuqina, umntu uhlala phantsi ukuze asebenze, kodwa uqala ukuphazamisa ezinye iintlobo, ukhumbule ukuba kufuneka uhlambe iwindow, wenze isidlo kunye ne-snowball ukulungiselela amanye amacala amaninzi afuna ingqalelo yakho kwaye zenziwe, ungafikelela emsebenzini , kodwa kukho kakade akukho mandla kunye nezibonelelo.
Unokuyithintela njani ukukhawuleza, ukuzithiba njengobuvila? Umsebenzi kufuneka ube ngumyinge, kubalulekile ukwabela ikhefu ezizimeleyo zokuphumla nokuphumula. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlaziywa yindlela yendalo yokusasaza isalathisi malunga nokuphefumula okufunekayo kuyo kwimiqhele, izenzo ezinzima. Abaxhamli, ngokungafani nabantu abanesilumko, benza izinto ezininzi, "bajikeleza njenge-squirrel evili" iingxaki zabo eziphambili: ukungakwazi ukucwangcisa ixesha nokubeka phambili imisebenzi.
Ukutshatyalaliswa kwemilinganiselo kunye nokukhawuleza
Ingxaki yokwehlisa isenokuthi ixutywe kwimeko yesifo sokuphelela , xa umntu eyika ukwenza into engaphelelanga, kuba umntu ophelele ukulungelelanisa kufanele enze yonke into ethi "Kulungile!", Ngoko kungcono ukuba akenzi okwenziwe ngokupheleleyo kunokonakala kunye nokungaphumeleli, kuya kufuneka udibanise. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwezinto kunye nokukhawuleza, ngokuqhelekileyo iziganeko ezidibeneyo. Umntu ophelela ukugqibelela uyaphatha kakubi kakhulu ukugxeka, kwaye le ngxaki ebalulekileyo yokumisa nokuvelisa umgangatho ophantsi, ngoko nantsi enye imfuneko "yokuphatha" uphawu oluphambili - ukuphelela.
Uncedo lokuqala lwabaphelelisi:
- kuthatha uxanduva lobomi bakho;
- ukuyeka ukuxhomekeka kwimbono yomntu;
- qalisa ukwenza okuthandayo ngaphandle kokwesaba, ukuba uya kugxekwa;
- ukuba akukho ulwazi "lokuqala ngokuchanekileyo", kufuneka uqale "ubuncinane ngandlela-thile" ukuze ufumane amava kunye nemveliso;
- khumbula ukuba wonke umntu waqalisa encinci.
Ukuziqhelanisa - njani ukulahla?
Abathandi bemicimbi yokunyanzela "ngomso" ngokuqinisekileyo bayajamelana nokunyaniseka kwimiphumo eyahlukeneyo, kodwa nangokuba oku akubangela ukuba wonke umntu axabise ixesha njengesixhobo, kuphela inxalenye encinci yabantu abaye bayayiqonda ukungahambi kakuhle kwaye bakulungele ukuguqula ubomi babo. Indlela yokujongana nokukhawuleza - iingcebiso zeengqondo zeengqondo:
- funda indlela yokucwangcisa imini yakho;
- Imiba ebalulekileyo ebalulekileyo ukuzama ukuyenza ekuseni, xa uxinzelelo luphezulu;
- phakathi kwemicimbi ukwenza ikhefu elincinci lokuphumla, okanye ukunyanzelisa umzimba;
- irekhodi kwidayari yenqubekelaphambili encinci kunye nokuphumelela kwabo;
- emva kokugqitywa komsebenzi kufuneka kulandelwe ukukhuthazwa.
Ukulwa nokukhawuleza - ukusetyenziswa
Ngoko, ingxaki ibonakala, ngeli nqanaba kubalulekile ukuqala ukusebenzisa iindlela zokusebenza eziza kuqalisa indlela yokwenza utshintsho kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba ixesha elithile kufuneka linikezelwe ukulungiswa kobomi nemisebenzi yangoku. Indlela yokuhlangabezana nokukhawuleza, ukusetyenziswa:
- Iileta ezivela kwikamva . Ileta ibhaliweyo ngokwayo, apho imiyalezo ithunyelwa ngendlela efanelekileyo, ekhuthaza, umzekelo, "Ndiyathemba ukuba sele uqhube phambili / uqhubekile ukufunda isiNgesi, ubhala iphepha ezili-10 le ncwadi." Xa uthumela umyalezo, sebenzisa umsebenzi "ukuthunyelwa okuchaziweyo". Le nkqubo elula inceda ukuhamba ngendlela ehleliweyo.
- " Yidla indlovu ." Lo msebenzi unzima kwaye awunangqiqo, kodwa ukuba uzama "ukuphula" yonke indlovu, iincinci ezincinci ziza kuba yinkqubo echanekileyo, ingabangela ukugatywa nokuphazamiseka . Inkqubo yintlukwano yomsebenzi kwiinqanaba, ukubeka ixesha elide kwisigaba ngasinye kwaye sifutshane, ukulungisa injongo okanye umsebenzi, ukuba kuyimfuneko.
- " Kutheni ndifanele ndiyenze oku ?". Icala kufuneka lenziwe, ingqondo iyayiqonda, kwaye i-subconscious iphikisana kwaye ayiboni naziphi na izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokuqala ukuyenza okwangoku kunye nayo nayiphi na imimiselo enjenge "Kufuneka!", "Umele!" Awuyiva. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Zibuze yona umbuzo othi "Kutheni ndifuna ukwenza oku?" Kwaye ukuba ngithembeke kakhulu ekuphenduleni. Ukuba impendulo ibonisa izinto ezikhuthaza: imali, udumo, ukuqashelwa, inhlonipho - oku kuya kunceda ukugxila kwaye uqale ukwenza, ukuba kungenjalo, kungcono ukuyeka ukusukela le njongo, kuba ikwabekwa ngumntu, kodwa ibonwa njengomntu.
Ukuziqhelanisa - unyango
Ukuziqhelanisa sisifo okanye ukuthambekela okukhethekileyo komntu, isimo sakhe sokungcola, okokuba, ukuba sifune, singalungiswa? Ukuhlehliswa kwamatyala ekuhambeni kamva akusiyo isifo ngendlela engokoqobo, kwaye ukunyanga kokunciphisa umlinganiselo wezenzo, ukwakhiwa kwemikhwa emitsha kunye nokuhlanganiswa kweziphumo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuhlaziywa kungabonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo ingxaki yesifo esingapheliyo, xa kungenamandla okwenza izenzo eziqhelekileyo zemihla ngemihla, i-phobias, kulo mzekelo, kuya kuba yinto enqabileyo ukubonisana nodokotela ukuba ahlule ezi zizwe.
Inkcazelo - incwadi
Unokuyilungisa imini yakho yomsebenzi ukuze yonke into ichithe ixesha kwaye zonke iiprojekthi ezibalulekileyo zigqityiwe ngexesha, ukuba unalo izakhono ezanele kwaye ufuna ukuhlaziya ubomi bakho, i-bestseller eyaziwa kakhulu "Win Wincrastination" nguP. Ludwig we-European coach ukulungiselela uphuhliso lwakhe, kwincwadi, indlela yokunqanda ukukhawuleza, iqulethe indlela ekhethekileyo yokukhupha "isifo" sezenzo kunye nokuphila ixesha elingenammiselo. U-P. Ludwig ngokomzekelo wakhe uhlolisise le ngxaki "inzuliso" kwaye yaveliswa amanyathelo aphumelelayo okuza kunqoba.
Emva kokufunda le ncwadi nokulandela inkqubo, ezi zilandelayo zinguqu ezibalulekileyo zenzeka:
- ibonisa amandla okudala omntu;
- usuku lusebenza ngokufanelekileyo kwaye luzele ngokusemandleni;
- ubuyisela uvuyo lobomi kunye nentlonipho;
- onke amatyala aphunyezwa ngexesha.