Ulungelelaniso uvela ebuntwaneni - wakhula phakathi kwabazali abafuna kakhulu abaye baphumelele. Ukuba ngumntu omdala, umntu onentsholongwane yokuphelelana nomzimba angaba ngumntu ophumelelayo kwaye abe nomsebenzi onoxanduva, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuphelelwa komzimba kwenza umntu abe neurotictic ngokungabi nandipha ubomi .
Ngubani o gqi
Umfezekisi ngumntu ozama ukufezekisa, ukufezeka kuyo yonke into. Kuye, akukho ziqingatha-toni, kodwa kukho izibonda ezimbini "ezigqibeleleyo" kwaye "ezingaphelelekanga". Umntu ophelela ukugqibelela akayi kwenza into engcono xa ekholelwa ukuba akanako ukufumana isiphumo esihle. Intsingiselo yegama elithi perfectionism livela kuFr. ukuphelela - ukugqibelela. Ukuqaphela abantu abagqibeleleyo abanzima.
Ungayiqonda njani ukuba uyaphumelela?
Isifo somfundi ohloniphekileyo sinobuninzi kwaye sibandakanya iinkalo ezininzi ezibonakaliswe ngokucacileyo kunye neempawu zobuntu. Iimpawu zengcali
- imfuneko yokugcina yonke into elawulwayo;
- konke kufuneka kwenziwe kwinqanaba eliphezulu, ezinye iziphumo azivunyelwanga;
- umnqweno wokukholisa, njengabanye ukususela ebuntwaneni;
- ukugwema - ngenxa yokuzibeka ngokwabo kwimisebenzi ebalulekileyo kunye nokungakwazi "ukuhamba" ngamanyathelo amancinci amancinci ekujoliswe kuyo;
- ukwesaba iimpazamo, ukungaphumeleli;
- ukugxeka wena nabanye;
- "Mna!" Konke into, rhoqo kunye naphi na.
Ukugqithisa kukuhle okanye kubi?
I-Perfectionism isifo okanye ayikho - abantu abasondeleyo bajikelezwe ngabantu abagqibeleleyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kukugqithiswa komlingiswa, ngokukodwa kumxube we-pedantry, kodwa oku akusiyo isifo, nangona kubangela ukuhlupheka okukhulu. Ukugqithisa okuncedo kuyakunceda ukuba kulungile, umntu ozama ukuphucula yena kunye nezenzo zakhe uyazikhupha:
- msebenzi onzima;
- ukugxeka okubalulekileyo;
- ukunyanzela;
- qeqesho;
- ukukhula komntu siqu ;
- umnqweno wokuphucula ngakumbi izakhono zabo.
Ulungelelaniso kunye nolwazi oluthile lwe-neurotic orientation "lukhula" kwindlela ewonakalisayo, kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo kwizinto zonke:
- ku sebenza;
- ukungathobeli ukugxeka;
- ukuvalela;
- u kuvutha;
- Ingqiqo;
- umnqweno wokuba uphelele kuzo zonke iindawo kwaye ngenxa yoko-ukukwazi ukufezekisa iinjongo.
Ungakuphelisa njani ukulungelelanisa?
Indlela yokujongana nokuphelela kwakho? Ukuba lo mbuzo uvele, kukho ukuqonda ngxaki - eli liyinyathelo kwiyakho kunye nesidingo sokutshintsha. Iingcali zengqondo ziphakamisa amanyathelo alandelayo ukukrazula i-syndrome engaphelele:
- ukwamkela ukungaphumeleli - oku kuthetha ukuzithoba kunye nabanye ekungafezekanga, akukho bantu abafanelekileyo;
- ukufezekiswa kunye nokuphishekela ukulungelelaniswa akukho mingcele, ngoko kubalulekile ukubeka iinjongo ezifanelekileyo;
- bayeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye abantu, kuya kuba sobulumko, behle kakhulu, banenhlanhla, ngoko ke ukuthelekiswa kwamkelwa kuphela ngowe namhlanje kunye nalabo ababeye izolo;
- Uhlalutyo oluncinane kunye nezicwangciso ezinzima zokuphucula-ezinye izenzo;
- kungekho mpazamo akukho namava;
- bayeke ukwesaba ukugxekwa nokugwetywa, bekhumbula ukuba abanye abantu bawagweba kumava abo, ukwesaba, ukusilela.
Ukugqithisa - unyango
I-Syndrome yokugqibelela ingengqondo ye-psychopathology ngokoqobo, kwaye ukuguquka komuntu kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yobonakaliso obunomdla obuqhubekayo, umntu udala ukuxinezeleka, akukho ukuvumelanisa naye kunye nabanye, ukuxhalaba nokunganakwa kwanda. Ulwaphulo oluthile lweziyobisi alukho, ukuba i-neurosis iye yaphuhliswa kakhulu, ingcali iyakwazi ukunika unyango olusisigxina kunye nokusetyenziswa kwezidandlululo kunye neentlanzi.
Ukugqithisa kwengqondo
Iingcali zengqondo zihlukanisa ukugqibelela zibe ngempilweni, ezaneleyo, eziqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi kunye neurotic. Ukuguqulwa kweengxaki njengengxaki yengqondo kunokuqwalaselwa kuphela ukuba kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo, kunye neempawu zokuba neurotic. Iingcali zeengqondo zeCanada kwizifundo zabo ziye zachonga ezi zinto zilandelayo:
- Mna-ukugqibelela ngumkhwa womntu ukuzakhela izidingo zomsebenzi, zibeke iinjongo.
- Ukugqithisa okujoliswe kwabanye - imigangatho ephakamileyo kunye nokulindela ukusebenza okugqibeleleyo kwabanye abantu.
- I-Perfectionism ijoliswe kwihlabathi-into engafumanekiyo yokuba yonke into ejikelezwe ngathi kufuneka ibe yintle, ihlaziye kwaye ihambelane.
- Ukuphelelana kwezentlalo. Isidingo somntu ukuhlangabezana nemigangatho kunye nokulindela uluntu.
Ukutshatyalaliswa kokuphelela
Ukupheleliswa kwe-Neurotic okanye pathological kubangelwa ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Umnqweno wokugqwesa kuyo yonke into iba yintsipho, ihamba kunye neempawu ze-neurotic. I-neurotic perfectionists zichaza ngokwabo i-standard-standard, kaninzi ayinakuhambelana nokukwazi kwabo. Intshukumo ekujoliswe kuyo injongo ayiveli kwiimvakalelo, kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukungaphumeleli kunye nokwenyulwa, akukho nelisa ukwaneliseka kwinkqubo kunye neziphumo eziphunyeziweyo.
Ukugqibelela ngobugcisa
Ukugqithisa ukupenda kwipayipi yinjongo yeengcali kwizinto ezibonakalayo ezigqibeleleyo. Umzekelo wokubonakaliswa okugqibeleleyo kukaLeonardo da Vinci "Indoda yaseVetruvinsky" ngumzimba ophelileyo onobuchule obuhle. Ngokusekelwe kulo mzekeliso, umakhi waseFransi uvelise i-modulor - inkqubo yendawo yonke ehambelanayo kwizakhiwo kunye noomatshini.
Abagqibeleleyo abaziwayo behlabathi
Abaculi, abalobi, izazifilosofi, abaculi, abagqibeleleyo kwiimeko zokudala, oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ukuzama ukufezekisa kunye neyona nto impawu kumntu waluphi na umsebenzi. Amanani abembali abembali kunye nabantu bexesha lethu, abagqibeleleyo:
- UFriedrich Nietzsche - isazi sefilosofi saseJamani, ophelela ukugqibelela, kwanokuba impilo ephazamisekileyo ayizange imvimbele ekuphuculeni imisebenzi yakhe yefilosofi ekuhlakuleleni imbono yesigxina.
- UAlexander Omkhulu . Iingcali zengqondo zibonisa umnqweno wokunqoba amazwe angaphandle ngokubona komlawuli omkhulu wokuphelela, okwamenza amakhankaso kunye nokulwa.
- Leo Tolstoy . Umbhali wayefuna ukufezekiswa nokuphelela kuyo yonke into, kuba ngumzekelo wokuphelela ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo imisebenzi yakhe, "Imfazwe noxolo" ngokwemizekelo eyahlukileyo yabhalwa ngokuphindwe kuma-8 ukuya kwezi-12.
- Steve Jobs . Umvelisi waseMelika kwisekhnoloji ye-IT, umdali we-Apple waphatha ngenyameko nangona iinkcukacha ezincinci. Umzekelo wobonakaliso bokupheleliswa kwinto enokuba yiyo uSteve eneenyanga ezintandathu unyanzelekile ukuba abaqulunqi bavuselele ibha yomqulu kwinkqubo yokusebenza ye-OS, ngaloo ndlela belibale ukukhutshwa kweprojekthi enkulu.
- Edward Norton . Umdlali onobuchule obunzima kakhulu kunye nomnqweno wokuphucula rhoqo, ulungise iindima zabo, kunokuba ngamaxesha atyhayisa abasebenzi. Emva kokudubula i- "Incredible Hulk" i-Norton yanquma ukuza kufaka ukuqinisekiswa ukuba yonke into iphelele, eyayicatshulwa, yamcaphukisa.
Iifilimu malunga nabaphelelisi
Umxholo wokuphelelisa ubonakaliswe kakuhle kwiifilimu ezilandelayo:
- "I- Perfectionist / Un Grand Panron " Ifilimu yesiFrentshi malunga nodokotela ogqirha uLouis Delage, owanikezela unyango ubomi bakhe bonke. Uwenza umsebenzi wakhe ngokugqibeleleyo, kodwa ubomi bakhe bentsapho buhluleka - uLouis ulungelelanise emsebenzini wakhe, ngenxa yokunye angenalo ixesha, elibuhlungu kakhulu kumfazi wakhe uFlorence.
- " I-Swan Swan " U-Nina Sayers uyibhola ye-ballerina, usebenza nzima kwaye unzima kwaye ungumntu ophelela ukuphelelisa. UNina uzama ukufezekisa ukugqibelela ngokunyamezela okukhulu, okukhokelela ekugqibeleni ekugqibeleni.
- " Ngaphandle kweLwandle / ngaphaya kweMboniselo ". Ifilimu isekelwe kwi-biography yomxholo wezomculo wehlabathi uBobby Darin. Indlela yakhe yokuba yinto iboniswa. Inkwenkwe evela kwintsapho ehluphekileyo enezifo ezinzulu - oogqirha abamniki iminyaka engaphezu kwe-15 yobomi, kodwa wayehlala 37 ngokubonga ngentshiseko yakhe yomculo kwaye waphupha ukuhlala ezintliziyweni zabantu njengomdlali omkhulu ngexesha lakhe.
- " Imisebenzi: Ubukhosi besilingo / Imisebenzi ". USteve Jobs ngumntu oyimfihlakalo. Ungumntu osebenza ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye uphumelele kwaye oku kuye kwamnceda ukuba abe yinto awayeyiyo. Ifilimu-biography.
- " Amadeus ". I-Freestyle ukuchazwa kweengxelo zezinto eziphilayo eziqingqiweyo zabameli ababili uMoart and Salieri. UMozart unetalente evela kuThixo, kwaye uSalieri udinga umsebenzi omningi kwaye unzima, kodwa umculo uphuma ngaphandle, ungaphefumlelwa. U-Salieri, ngokugqibelela kwakhe, akanakuze azinikezele ukuba uMoart unomqambi onetalente.