Akunakwenzeka ukuphepha iingxaki zengxabano. Kukho abantu abaninzi, iingcamango ezininzi. Ngokutshintsha iingcamango zethu, ulwazi, amava, asiphoqeleli nje ukucinga ngokusekelwe kwiingcamango zethu, kodwa nokuphulaphula, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuchasene nombono wethu womnxibelelwano. Yaye xa iimfuno zingavumelani, kuvela ingxabano.
Ingxabano ayisoloko iphazamisekile. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwimeko engqubuzanayo yokuba inyaniso izalwa. Isisombululo esilungileyo nesichanekileyo kwingxaki sinokufunyanwa emva kokusombulula imeko engqubanayo. Ubume obunokwakha okanye obhubhisayo bolu ngquzulwano lunqunywe ngendlela okhetha ngayo ukulungisa le ngxabano.
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Ukuhlala yodwa, ukuphikiswa kwangaphakathi kungavela nanini na. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa ukulindela kwethu akuhambelani nento esinayo ngokwenene, ingxabano engaphelelanga ivela ekungqondweni kwethu, oko kukuthi, ingquzulwano eyenzeka ngaphakathi kwethu, ngaphakathi komphefumlo wethu, sisikhumbuzo sethu. Izindlela zokusombulula iingxabano ezingaphelelanga zisekelwe, okokuqala, ukuhlalutya imeko kunye nokuchongwa kwesizathu sokuphazamiseka. Indlela eqinisekileyo yokufumanisa ingxaki kubhala ingxelo yezinto ozikhathazayo. Emva kokuba ubhalise onke amanqaku, kwaye ukhangele oko kwenzeka, uya kukwazi ukuba "utshaba" lwakho ngomntu.
Ngoku makhe sijonge iindlela ezona zichanekileyo zokujongana neengxabano zangaphakathi.
- Ukufumana "Yintoni elandelayo?" Khangela oko wabhala. Ukufunda ngamnye umhlathi, ngengqondo, okanye ngokuvakalayo, zibuze yona umbuzo othi: "Yintoni elandelayo?". Buza lo mbuzo ngemibuzo emitsha kunye nokuchasana okuvela entloko yakho, iimpendulo aziyi kuthatha ixesha elide ukulinda. Qhubeka lo khonkco uze uphendule: "Akukho nto!". Kanye "akukho nto", ngoko ke kufuneka ukhathazeke ngezihlwele? Yonke into, umbuzo uphendululwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo sixubisa iingxaki zethu, senza, njengoko zithethayo, ziphuma kwi-molehill yendlovu.
- Ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo. Xa kwenzeka ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha imeko, musa ukukhawuleza uzibethe, zama ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengxaki kwingxaki. Hlola imeko ukusuka kwinqanaba lezinto ezilungileyo, kwaye ziya kufumaneka, kholwe. Emva kokuba utshintshe isimo sengxaki, uya kuziva ukhululekile, kwaye kungekudala ingxaki iya kuphelisa.
Ukuvela kwempikiswano engaphelelangayo kusinxusa isimo sengqondo esisempilo. Ukuxhalabisa kunye nokuxhalabisa kuya kutshabalala kude kube yintoni isizathu esiphelile. Ngoko ke, uzama ukutshintshela kwimeko, iinzame zokungacingi ngesigulane, ukuchithwa okanye ukutshintsha ingxaki engaphendulwanga ngenye into ayinakusebenza. Ngexesha elithile uya kulibala malunga noko kukukhathazayo. Kodwa oku akuyi kuhlala ixesha elide, njengoko imbambano yongquzulwano iya kuhlala ingaguquki. Musa ukubalekela kuwe, ungesabi, ukukhusela okusemgangathweni kukuhlaselwa koyiko lwakho.
Wena nabanye
Ekusebenzeni, ekhaya, kwiphathi - nokuba naluphi na ekufuneka sixoxe nabantu kukho iingxabano kunye neengxabano. Okuqhelekileyo, kwaye yendalo. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokusombulula iingxabano zomntu, oko kukuthi, ukuxabana phakathi kwabantu. Wonke umntu uzikhethela ukhetho lokuziphatha oluhambelana kakhulu nemigaqo yakhe, uhlobo, kunye nokubaluleka kokusombulula le ngxaki.
- Indlela eyakhayo yokuxazulula iimbambano iyancitshiswa. Kule meko, amaqela aphikisanayo asombulula ingxaki kwiimeko ezininzi okanye ezingamkelekanga kumntu wonke. Apha, ngomlinganiselo othile, bobabili bawine.
- Ukuphepha okanye ukuphepha ingxabano akuyona indlela engcono yokusombulula ingxaki. Le ndlela ingaba ibhomu ngexesha. Ngelixa uphepha ingxabano evulekile, uxinzelelo kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kuya kuhlanganiswa kuwe. Amathuba amnandi kukuba kwixesha elizayo oku kuza kuphuhliswa kube yimpikiswano yangaphakathi. Ngaba uyayifuna le nto? Sombulula ingxaki njengoko kwenzeka.
- Ingxoxo njengendlela yokusombulula ingxabano inemithetho ethile. Okokuqala,
kuyimfuneko ukunika isizathu esicacileyo sokuba sesikhundla sayo kunye nezizathu zayo. Okwesibini, kuyimfuneko ukuhlonela imbono yombani, ukukwazi ukuphulaphula, kwaye uzame ukuqwalasela izicwangciso ezicetywayo zokulwa. Enye intloko, njengoko zithi, zilungile, kodwa ezimbini zibhetele.
Izindlela zokulungisa iingxabano zentsapho kufuneka zisekelwe kwinjongo efanayo - ukudala nokulondoloza umtshato ovuyayo. Akukho mkhokheli emtshatweni, akukho abaphumeleleyo okanye abalahlekileyo. Wena liqela, kwaye xa umntu elahlekile, ulahlekelwe zombini. Kwaye awukwazi ukuququzelela iimfazwe, ukuze ufumane ukuba ngubani na obabini kwintsapho "epholile". Unomgomo omnye, apho ubini uphawula khona iinjongo zakho ezidibeneyo, ezi masango ziimeko zokuphila apho ngoku kwaye kufuneka uqhubeke usinda, usebenze kunye kunye kunye. Ngenxa yoko, ukuxazulula iingxabano, khumbula into ephambili - malunga nomnye.