Njengomthetho, ngobudlelwane, abafazi batyala lonke ixesha labo namandla. Kwaye kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba balindele ukutshatyalaliswa kumlingane. Nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukuvala amehlo akho kwinto yokuba amadoda amaninzi aqhuba ubomi obini. Konke umnqweno, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukugcina ithemba kumntu wakho. Yingakho abafazi bafuna ukwazi indlela yokuqonda ukuba umntu ulala.
Unokuyiqonda njani ngeempawu ezingaphandle oziqamba amanga ngazo?
Ewe, iingqondo zeengqondo ziyakunika iingcebiso, njengokuba kukho iimpawu ezithile zangaphandle ungaqonda ukuba ulala. Nazi iimeko omele uzihlawule ngazo.
- Indlela yokuthetha. Ungayiqonda njani ukuba iqabane lakho likhangele emehlweni akho nobuxoki? Njengomthetho, abantu bayavuya xa bephoqeleka ukuthetha ubuxoki. Ibhinqa liya kuziva litshintsho elincinci ngendlela yokuthetha: izivakalisi ezingaphezulu, iinkcukacha ezingenanto. Kungase kube neenkcukacha eziphezulu ezingaqhelekanga, okanye ukukhawuleza ukubiza.
- Indlela yokuziphatha. Ukuqonda ukungalunganga kwabo, amadoda angasebenzisa iqhinga eliyaziwayo, kwaye ahlasele kuqala. Unako ukucaphukisa, ukucaphukisa, ukugxekwa ngezinto ezincinci. Ukuba uziva ulwaphulo olungacacanga - cingisisa malunga nesizathu salo senu? Indlela yokuqonda ukuba umntu ulala - ukunyamekela ukuhlaselwa rhoqo.
- Utshintsho kwindlela yakhe yemihla ngemihla. Ungaziqondi njani ukuba umntu ulala, ukuba unomlinganiselo okwandisiweyo womsebenzi emsebenzini, ngaba wayemenywa rhoqo kwiintlanganiso? Okanye mhlawumbi waqala ukuhamba ngezoshishino, apho ubuya ngokuziqhenkceza nokuqhakaza? Ekhaya, unakho ukukhalaza malunga nendlela awayephethe ngayo abaphathi bakhe ngokungapheliyo ngexesha lakhe. Kodwa umfazi uyakwazi ukubona ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ulwela ilungelo lokuchitha ixesha elininzi nentsapho yakhe.
- Imikhwa emitsha. Ukucinywa kweenwele ezintsha okanye ukutyikitya, i-perfume entsha, iphasiwedi ebonakalayo kwifowuni kunye nekhompyutheni - ezi ziimpendulo kumbuzo onokuzifumana ukuba uyakhohliswa. Mhlawumbi emotweni isitulo somgibeli siya kugxothwa ngasemva, kwisikhwama kuya kuba ne-akhawunti evela kwindawo yokutyela, ngokuhlwa ngaloo ntlanganiso kunye nomsebenzi omude emsebenzini.
- Ukuthandana okungafunekiyo. Namela ingqalelo ngexesha lokuthetha: abantu abanobuhlobo abangenanto yokufihla, beya kumnxibelelwano nomzimba wonke, jonga kwamehlo, uqhube incoko ecolileyo. Ukuba ulahla imifanekiso phezu kwephepha lakho, okanye xa uthetha, ukubonakala kuhamba naphi na, kungekude kwamehlo akho - oko kukucaca ukuba loo mntu ukopela.
Uyazi njani ukuba umyeni wakho ukukopela?
Iziganeko ezikhankanywe ngamanye amaxesha akwanele kwaye umbuzo wokuqonda indlela olala ngayo uvulelekile kumbuzo. Ukongeza, abanye abantu bayazi indlela yokuziphatha ukuze bafihle ubuxoki babo. Ukuba umyeni wakho unolwazi olunjalo, uyazi ngentliziyo yonke imiqondiso, kwaye uya kukulungele ukuphikisa ukungathandabuzeki kwakho. Kodwa kukho indlela echukumisayo, njengokuba kuqinisekileyo ukuba ufumanisa ukuba indoda ikopela-okanye ukuqiniseka ngokunyaniseka kwayo.
Ukuba usuvele ucacisile malunga nezikhalazo zakho, kuya kuba nzima ukukhokelela umntu ukuba ahlambulule amanzi. Ukukhulula imeko ngethuba elithile, vumela indlela yakho yokuphila ibe njengomdala, ngaphandle kwempawu yokungathembeki. Uya kufumana impembelelo emibini:
- Ukuba uphosakele kwiimangalo zakho, ixesha elithulileyo lingakubonisa oku, kwaye indoda enothando iya kuzama ukubuyisela ithemba ngokwenza;
- Ukuba izikrokra zinesizathu, ngexesha lokuzinza umyeni uya kuphumla, kwaye oku kuya kuba ngowakho.
inzuzo.
Kufuneka uthathe umzuzu kwaye ubuze umbuzo onokrektha awulindele ukuba inkohliso yamadoda ifune impendulo ye "ewe" okanye "akukho". Kwaye nantsi impawu ezintathu zinyaniso, indlela yokuqonda ngokuziphatha komntu ekukhohlisayo:
- Ixesha lokuphendula: ixesha elide lithatha, ukuphakama kwamathuba okuxoka, okanye ngokuphambene nxamnye - ngokukhawuleza impendulo.
- Umqambimanga ugweba ukunika impendulo ethile - uya kwakha amabinzana angacacileyo.
- Ukungabikho kwemisebenzi yesenzo kubonisa ukuba umntu ugxininise yonke imizamo yengqondo ekwakheni impendulo ecacileyo.