Sonke siyazi ukuba abantu bayafa. Kodwa olu lwazi alanele, kuba into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba abantu bafa ngokukhawuleza. Yaye makhe siqaphele ukuba kungekudala okanye kamva siya kulahlekelwa ngabathandekayo bethu, kuhlale kwenzeka kwangaphambili, kuba akunakwenzeka ukulungiselela kwangaphambi kokufa komntu othandekayo. Kuhlala kufana nesihlangu entloko. Ngokukhawuleza ndibethele emanzini omphefumlo wam. Kuthatha ixesha kunye nexesha elizeleyo ukunqoba intlungu yakho. Kodwa kuyafaneleka ukunikela ingqalelo kwiluleko elithile leengqondo eliya kukunceda ukujamelana nendlela yokusinda ekufeni komntu othandekayo. Emva koko, ngamanye amaxesha kukho kuphela i-jolt ukuqala ukusebenza kwaye uzame ukujamelana nemvakalelo yabo.
Indlela yokusinda ekulahlekelweni komntu othandekayo-iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Ukufa komntu othandekayo kwakha uhlobo oluthile lokungabi nalutho, njengokungathi kwindawo ethile entliziyweni kwakukho umnyama omnyama ongeke uzaliswe nantoni na. Kwaye kulokhu kungenabuhlungu obungapheliyo kunye nokungabi namandla. Enyanisweni, ukufa komntu othandekayo kubonakalisa uxhulumaniso olunamandla, olungenakubuyiselwa.
Ubungakanani amava omntu anomeleleyo kwaye abude buxhomekeke kubomi bomntu. Iimpawu zothando, ezinobulunga kunye nobuchule ziyona zinzima kakhulu, kuba zithinteka kakhulu ekudakagxininiseni, kwiinkonzo zobusuku nokunye. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki uhlobo lwesimo sengqondo, umntu uhamba ezigaba ezine zentlungu. Kwaye abo baya kuba kufuphi kufuneka baqonde indlela yokunceda umntu ukuba asinde ekufeni komntu othandekayo kwaye aphumelele kulo mvavanyo kunye nokulahlekelwa okuncinci kunokwenzeka.
Izigaba ezine zentlungu
- Ukutshitshiswa nokutshitshiswa . Iindaba zokufa komntu othandekayo zitshitshisa kwaye zikhokelela ekulahlekelweni ngokupheleleyo kwemvakalelo, okanye ngokuphambene nokuvakalelwa ngokwemvakalelo. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba, umntu uvale yena ngokwakhe, ehlala njengebhobhothi. Le meko ihlala malunga neentsuku ezithoba.
- Ukulahlwa . Phantse inyanga emva kokuba lo mntu uhlaselwa ngcamango malunga nomfi, amaphupha njalonjalo. Iqala ukubonakala ukuba konke oku kwakungenangqiqo kwaye akukho nto eyenzekayo kuyo yonke into, bekuyinto nje ebusweni obungenakukwazi ukuvusa. Ngeli xesha kunqweneleka ukuba kungabikho ukuthintela iimvakalelo, ngaphandle koko bazisongela ukungena ngaphakathi.
- Ukwazisa . Phantse isiqingatha sonyaka yinkqubo yokuqaphela ukufa komntu othandekayo. Kukhona umva wecala, intlungu ethile kwizinto ezingazange zitshiwo okanye zenziwe, njalo njalo. Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa ungaxhomeki kwezi ngcamango.
Kufuneka uqaphele ilahleko, yamkele, zithethelele. - Ukunyaniseka kwentlungu . Ngomnyaka emva kokufa komntu othandekayo, intlungu idibene. Ngokuqinisekileyo, de kube sekupheleni kwentlungu ayayi kuze iphele, kodwa ekugqibeleni uyamkela ukufa njengenxalenye yokuphila engenakugwemeka kwaye ufunde ukuhlala nayo.
Ukuthetha malunga neengqondo zendlela yokusinda ekufeni komntu othandekayo, unokuthi kuphela ukuba kufuneka ube namava. Hamba kuzo zonke izigaba ezine zentlungu yakho, vumela konke ngokwakho, ukuze uvumele ukuhamba. Ukuba sithetha nge-psychology yendlela yokusinda ekufeni komntu othandekayo, into ephambili apha kukuphela ukuba ulungele ukuxhasa nganoma yimuphi umzuzu. Ngaba akubaluleke ngaphezu kwanantoni na ehlabathini: nje ukuba ujikeleze?