Wonke umntu unenyaniso yakhe malunga nendlela yokuphatha kakuhle ababenecala. Sonke sinesizathu sokuchazela ezi okanye ezinye izenzo. Namhlanje siza kujonga indlela yokufunda ukuxolela izono kwaye siziphathe kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo.
Ukuxolela umntu?
Imeko inokuhluka. Mhlawumbi umoni wakho oguqukayo oko akwenzileyo, ufuna ukuxolelwa kwaye kufuneka uvelelwe nguwe. Umntu oqonda iimpazamo zakhe aze acele ukuxolelwa ufanelwe intlonipho . Emva koko, bambalwa kakhulu baqaphela isigwebo sabo, kwaye baninzi babecinga ukuthotywa.
- Ukuba ulungele ukuya kwintlanganiso kunye nabangqweneli bakho, mxelele ukuba ngekamva awuhlose ukugcina ubuhlobo obusondeleyo naye okanye ukumcela ukuba athembisa ukuba angayenzi kwakhona.
- Indlela yokufunda ukuxolela? Uyakwazi ukufumana impendulo yalo mbuzo ngaphakathi kwakho. Zinike ixesha elifutshane. Kunzima ukuxolela ukuhlambalaza kwangoko. Zama ukuhlalutya imeko. Xa iimvakalelo zincinci, unokuyihlolisisa oko kwenzeka, kwaye kuya kuba lula ukuba uxolele.
- Ungalibali ukuba wonke umntu wenza amaphutha. Abantu bahlakulela kwaye batshintsha imihla ngemihla. Kungenzeka ukuba imeko yangoku iyakuba yisifundo esibalulekileyo kumxhaphazi kwaye ngoku kwangoku akayi kwenza nayiphi na into ekhohlakeleyo.
- Khumbula izenzo ezinobubele ozenzayo kumntu ozama ukuxolela, ukuba waxolela njani okanye akazange aqaphele iimpazamo zakho. Musa ukukhumbula nje into embi. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukhumbule ixesha elimnandi, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uqonde ukunyanzeliswa kwesenzo sommoni wakho kwaye umvuza ngokuxolela kwakho.
- Abantu abaninzi abaqondi indlela yokufunda ukuxolela ukuxolela. Kwaye oku kuyimfuneko ukuthetha nomntu kwaye umamele. Xa ufumanisa isizathu esinyani sokwenza isenzo esinjalo, unokwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Lungiselela ukuba isibini sakho asinayo iimvakalelo, ngoko ufanele uxolele uze uvumele umntu ukuba aqonde ukuba uluthando lwenene ulindele kuwe kwikamva.
- Indlela yokufunda ukuxolela ukunyaniseka? Abantu bavame ukwenza izinto ezingenzi lutho. Ukuba beyiqonda ingozi abayenzayo kwabanye, mhlawumbi abayi kuyenza.
Kwaye ukuba umntu akayiqondi imiphumo emibi yezenzo zakhe, yintoni na into yokukhubekisa kuye? Kungcono ukuzisola umntu onjalo okanye uzame ukudlulisela kuye yonke into ebalulekileyo yokuziphatha kwakhe,
Ukuze uqonde indlela yokufunda ukuxolela nokuyeka, kufuneka uhlalutye ngokucophelela imeko kunye neenjongo zomenzi wesono. Mhlawumbi, isenzo senziwe ngokungazi. Zama ukuqonda ukuba yini eyabangela ukuba umgwenxa akukhubekise. Zibuze umbuzo: "Kutheni wenza njalo?". Kule ngcamango, uya kukwazi ukufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo.