Kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi, uxinzelelo kunye nezifo, konke oku kuchaphazela kakubi isimo somphefumlo womntu. Iingxaki eziqokelelweyo kunyaka ngamnye zenza umthwalo ongabonakali ophazamisa ubomi obonwabileyo kunye noxolo. Yingakho abaninzi badinga ukuphilisa karmic yomphefumlo nomzimba. Kubalulekile ukukhankanya iphutha eliqhelekileyo, kuba abaninzi bancika kwixesha, okuya kunceda ukulibala kunye "nokunyanga", kodwa oku akunjalo.
Kuphi ukuphiliswa komphefumlo nomzimba?
Unxibelelwano phakathi komphefumlo kunye nomzimba sele uqinisekisiwe kwaye umntu akanako ukuphilisana ukuba izikhumbuzo ezingathandekiyo, iintlungu kunye nezinye iimvakalelo zidla ngaphakathi kuye. Kukho itafile ethile ebonisa ubudlelwane beemvakalelo nezifo. Oku akunakusetyenziswa njengesiseko, kuba bonke abantu ngabanye. Uthando nobulumko bubaluleke kakhulu ekuphiliseni umphefumlo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kukho iindlela ezininzi ezahlukileyo ezikuvumela ukuba ubuyele kummandla oqhelekileyo nozinzile. Makhe siqwalasele enye yazo.
I-Technique "Ukuguqulwa komfanekiso"
Njengoko nayiphi na enye ingxaki, kufuneka uqale ngokuqulunqa isizathu, kwaye kunokuba luninzi. Yiba kwindawo ekhululekile, phumula kwaye uqale ucinge ngesifo esele sikhona okanye ingxaki. Zibuze umbuzo:
"Yintoni eyabangela isifo?"
. Umfanekiso wokuqala oza engqondweni kwaye impendulo efanelekileyo. Ukuze uphilise umphefumlo, kuyimfuneko ukucinga ngendlela yengqondo indlela le ngxaki ixineke ngayo kwaye ekugqibeleni igxothwe ngokupheleleyo.Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukudala umfanekiso wempilo. Kufuneka uqikelele kwikamva umntu onoyolo ngaphandle kweengxaki kunye nezifo. Umfanekiso kufuneka uchaneke ngokufanelekileyo kwaye usethe njengesikhokelo. Ngoku kufuneka ubeke endaweni yeso sifo ngemeko enempilo. Le nkqubo kufuneka ibe ngokukhawuleza. Khawucinge ngendlela umzimba ovuthayo kunye nokutshisa ukushisa. Phinda phantse malunga namaxesha amahlanu. Ngoku kulungele ukwenza uvavanyo oluthile, kwaye uzame ukukhumbula uze ucinge umfanekiso we-causal. Ukuba yonke into yenziwe ngokuchanekileyo, ngoko ayiyi kusebenza. Ekupheleni kokuphilisa, kufuneka uphinde uzame ukukhumbula ngokugula kwakho, ngokuqhelekileyo ayisebenzi okanye umfanekiso uvela ngokwahlukileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba indlela echanekileyo iyonyulwa. Kunconywa ukuba usebenzise le ndlela rhoqo kuze kube yinkinga.