Iimbambano zenzeka rhoqo, kwaye bambalwa kakhulu abantu abafana nabo, abaninzi abantu bazama ukuqonda indlela yokuphila ngaphandle kweengxabano. Ukuze ufunde ukukhulumisana okungahambisani neengxabano, kubalulekile ukuqonda izizathu zokungqubana.
Izizathu zengxabano
Izizathu zokuvela kweengxabano bubunzima - ukusuka kwimeko yezoqoqosho kunye nezoqoqosho kwilizwe ukuya kwimeko embi. Ngokuqinisekileyo uqaphele ukuba kwimeko embi uhlala uvumela amazwi angamaqhinga, unako ukuphakamisa ilizwi. Kwaye umntu unokukhubekiswa ngolu hlobo, oko kukuqala kokungqubana. Ngako oko, akunakwenzeka ukuba uluhlu zonke izinto ezifunekayo zokuphuhliswa kwengxabano, kunye ne-conflictologists azizami ukwenza oku, ukhetha ukusebenzisana namaqela ezibangela iingxabano.
- Izizathu zeenjongo. Ezi ziquka ukungqubuzana kwemibandela yabantu abahlukeneyo, ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweenkqubo zokusombulula ukungqubuzana, ukungabikho kokuqulunqwa kwezi nkqubo.
- Izizathu zeziko kunye nezilawulo . Leli qela lingeenkqubela zokusebenza. Oku kubandakanya ukungahleleki kwintlangano yomsebenzi kwinkampani (ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano olufunekayo lwangaphandle nolwangaphakathi), ukungahambelani komqeshwa wesikhundla esiphethwe, iimpazamo zabangaphantsi kunye nabaphathi abaqhubayo emsebenzini.
- Izizathu zentlalo-yengqondo. Zenza iimpikiswano kwiimeko apho kungekho kubhaliswa ekusebenzeni kweendima zabo (umphathi uthetha kuwe njengokungathi wayengumntwana, nangona akazange akushiye ngeminyaka yakhe kunye nophuhliso), ukuvavanya ngokungalunganga kokusebenza kwakhe, njl njl.
- Izizathu ezibangela iingxabano. Ezi zinto zifana neempawu zomntu womntu (abantu be-choleric, abantu abaphikisanayo bahlala becala iimeko zokungquzulana), ukuhlolwa okwaneleyo kwamandla abo, ukulungelelaniswa koluntu kunye nokunye okunjalo. Eli qela lidla ngokuba yimbangela yeengxabano zasekhaya.
Ziziphi iingxabano ezikhoyo?
- Eyona nto. Ezi ngxabano zona ziqhelekileyo kwaye zilula ukuzinza. Isihloko sempikiswano sisifundo esithile. Ukufumana isigwebo esinjongo, abaphikisanayo bajika kumntu wesithathu. Ngenxa yeengxabano zobomi bemihla ngemihla, lo mntu ngokuqhelekileyo ungumhlobo ophezulu okanye umhlobo, ngaphandle kwekhaya-intloko. Ukuba akunakwenzeka ukulungisa ingxabano kule nqanaba, abaphikisana nabo baya enkundleni.
- Impikiswano yokukhetha. Kukho imeko xa amaqela ekufumanisa nzima ukuza kwesivumelwano malunga nokuthotyelwa kwezenzo ezithile, indlela yokusombulula ingxaki. Umzekelo, iingxabano malunga nokukhethwa kontraka (kwishishini) okanye ukungavumelani malunga neendlela zokukhulisa umntwana (ugogo ugogo, kunye nomama noyise - ngenxa yobunzima).
- Impikiswano yeenjongo eziphambili. Ziyona zinzima kunzima ukusombulula, kuba kuhlale kunzima ukucacisa izinto eziphambili, makube ngumsebenzi okanye usapho.
Unokuthintela njani ingxabano?
Imfihlelo yokunxibelelana ngokungahambisani nengxabano kusekelwe ekuthintekeni kweengxabano kunye nokukwazi ukuzisombulula.
Ukuthintela ingxabano kunokubandakanya ezi ndlela ezilandelayo.
- U velwano. Zama ukuzicingela kwindawo yomntu obangela ukuba ube nemvakalelo embi, mhlawumbi kwiimeko zakhe uya kwenza ngendlela efanayo. Le ndlela isoloko ibangele uvelwano, kwaye umnqweno wokuxabana nomntu uyalala.
- Kuyimfuneko ukukhuphela ukungabonakali kokubonakaliswa kwentlalontle, eya kugxininisa ukungafani kwimeko yoluntu kunye nophuhliso lwengqondo. Oko kukuthi, iingcaphuno eziphambukayo zikaNietzsche phambi komntu onesikolo esiphakamileyo akufanelekanga, oku unokuzikhupha ngokukhawuleza wakhe umsindo.
- Ukungabikho komlinganiselo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu baziva bengenalo inhlonipho, bacinga (okanye mhlawumbi kunjalo) ukuba baninzi bomsebenzi abawenzayo, kwaye abazange baqaphele. Umntu onjalo kufuneka axelelwe ngeenkonzo zakhe, unokunciphisa inxaxheba yakho.
- Ukuxhasa imizwa emihle. Ukuba ubona ukuba umnxibelelwano uya kuxabana, zama ukunciphisa yonke into kumcuke, wabelane naye
iimvakalelo ezintle. Mhlawumbi umnqweno wakhe wokufunga uphelile. - Vumelana nomntu xa enenzondelelo ekungqineleni kwakho. Mxelele ukuba mhlawumbi uyiphutha.
- Ngamanye amaxesha izazi zeengqondo zikwacetyiswa ukuba ubeke ingxabano ngendlela engokoqobo yegama, ukuze uvumele umnxibelelwano apholise kwaye ucinge ngokuziphatha kwakho.
Ukukwazi ukuxazulula iingxabano kubangelwa ukukwazi ukuzithengela okanye ukufumana ukulungelelanisa amaqela aphikisayo.