Ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva isigama esithi "izihlobo azikhethi." Ukuthetha oku, umntu uthe akukho nxu lumano kunye nezihlobo, kwaye ukuba kungenjalo kwimithetho yokuhlonipha, iintlanganiso kunye nazo azizange zenzeke nonke. Kodwa kuthekani ngemilinganiselo yentsapho, izithethe, yonke into edibanisa izizukulwana eziliqela ibe yinto epheleleyo, ngaba ayinayo indawo kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje?
Ziziphi iimpawu zentsapho?
Sivuyayo ukusebenzisa ibinzana elithi "ixabiso leentsapho" kwiintetho, kodwa kunzima ukucinga. Ukucacisa ukuba akunjalo lula, mhlawumbi, ixabiso leentsapho liyinto ebalulekileyo kwintsapho, "i-sement" efunekayo yokuba iqela labantu abane-genetic code efanayo lidibanisa noluntu olunobungane. Kubonakala ukuba kwintsapho nganye into eyona nto yinto eyona nto: enye idinga ukuthenjwa, kanti abanye bafuna ukuchuma kweshishini lentsapho. Kucacile ukuba kule mizalwane mibili ixabiso liya kuhluka. Ngoko ke, ukuthetha ukuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo yentsapho kufuneka ibe yinto, kwaye nangakumbi ukuba ukhulume ngolawulo lwabo, umsebenzi awunakwenzeka, intsapho nganye inombono wayo kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kuyo, yona ngokwayo ibeka phambili. Kwaye akumangalisi - sonke sihluke.
Ngokomzekelo, uhlobo olusandul 'ulwalamano olusandul' utsha, apho iindleko zentsapho eziphambili zithuthuzela, izinto eziqhelekileyo, inhlonipho. Le yinto ebizwa ngokuba yinkwenkwe yentsapho, iimvakalelo zentsebenziswano apha ziphela kwimvelaphi okanye azidlali naluphi na indima. Kwiintsapho eziqwalasela isiseko sothando, olu hlobo lolwalamano luya kubonakala lusendle, kodwa ke, lukhona. Njengoko zininzi ezinye iintlobo zobudlelwane beentsapho.
Ngoko ke, akukho iresiphi elungiselelwe ukuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo okufanele ihlakulelwe kwintsapho yakho. Unokuqwalasela kuphela izinto ezixabisekileyo zentsapho kwaye ucinge oko kulungile kuwe, kwaye yintoni eya kuba yinto engenamsebenzi.
Ziziphi iimpawu zentsapho?
- NoNxibelelwano. Kuba nayiphi na umntu, uonxibelelwano kubalulekile, kufuneka adlulisele ngolwazi, achaze uluvo lwakhe, afumane iingcebiso kunye neziphakamiso. Ngokuqhelekileyo iintsapho azikho inkqubo yoqhagamshelwano oluqhelekileyo, kwaye sizisa zonke izivuyo kunye nokuxhalabisa kubahlobo kunye neengqondo ze-psychoanalyst. Xa kukho ubudlelwane obufihlakeleyo kwintsapho, ukuxabana nokuxabana kungaphantsi, kuba imibuzo eninzi isisombululo, kuyafaneleka ukuba amalungu ahlale phantsi kwitheyibhile yokuthintana.
- Ukuhlonipha. Ukuba amalungu entsapho ahloniphi omnye nomnye, abanomdla kwimibono yomnye nomnye, ngoko-ke ukuthetha ngokuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabo kungeke kwenzeke. Kubalulekile ukuba ungadibanisi inhlonipho kunye nokwesaba, abantwana bafanele bahlonele uyise, kwaye bangamhloneli. Inhlonipho iboniswa ngokuzimisela ukwamukela iimvakalelo, iimfuno kunye neengcamango zomnye umntu, kungekhona ukunyanzelisa yakhe imbono yokujonga, kodwa ukuzama ukumqonda.
- Ukuziva kubalulekile kwintsapho yakho. Ukubuyela ekhaya, sifuna ukubona uvuyo emehlweni abo bathandekayo, kufuneka sivale uthando lwabo, ukwazi ukuba aluxhomekeke kwimpumelelo kunye nokuphumelela. Ndifuna ukukholelwa ukuba ngexesha lakhe lokukhulula ilungu ngalinye lentsapho liza kufumana umzuzwana omnye, kwaye lingayi kuvela kwiingxaki zakhe. Indlu yinqaba, kwaye intsapho iyindawo yokuthula, mhlawumbi, wonke umntu uyayifuna.
- Ukwazi ukuxolela. Akukho namnye kuthi uphelele kwaye intsapho iyindawo yokugqibela apho sifuna ukuva ukuhlambalaza nokugxekwa kwidilesi yethu. Ngoko ke, umntu kufuneka afunde ukuxolela iimpazamo zabanye kwaye angaziphindaphindi.
- Amasiko. Omnye unesiko lokuqokelela yonke intsapho ngoMeyi 9 kunye nomkhulu-mkhosi weMfazwe Yehlabathi yesiBini, umntu ukhangele iifilimu ngeMigqibelo, ehlanganiseni kwiholo ngeTV, kunye nomntu nyanga zonke intsapho iphuma ngaphandle kwidolophu (kwindawo yokukholisa i-bowling, ipaki yamanzi). Intsapho nganye inesiko sayo, kodwa ubukho bayo
umbandela kunye nokwenza intsapho ibe yodwa. - Xanduva. Loo mvakalelo uhambelana nabo bonke abantu abasemgangathweni nabantwana, sizama ukuyiqhuba ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa kufuneka kubekho uxanduva ekusebenziseni ixesha, kodwa kwintsapho, kuba yonke into esenzayo kwintsapho kunye nawo onke amalungu ayo kufuneka awazi oku.
Iimpawu zentsapho buninzi, kuphela eziqhelekileyo zazo zidweliswe. Kwiintsapho ezininzi, kubalulekile ukuba nenkululeko, indawo yendawo, ukulungiswa, ukunyaniseka ngokukhululekile kubudlelwane, ukupha.