Ngelishwa, ebomini bethu kukho ixesha elinjalo xa unina unezizathu ezifanelekileyo zokulahla uyise wengane yomntwana wakhe. Kule nqaku, siza kukuxelela ngokucacileyo ukuba unokuthi umthinte umzali ongenabantwana ongenamdla kunye nento efunekayo kule nto?
Kutheni kuhlutha ubaba wamalungelo omzali?
Kukho ezintathu, izizathu ezinamandla kakhulu kule nkqubo:
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuhamba kwelinye ilizwe ukuya kwiholide okanye utshintsho lokuhlala, amaxwebhu athile adinga imvume ebhaliweyo yabazali bobabini, eqinisekisiwe ngumanothi. Kodwa inkathazo yonke kukuba ubaba akakwazi ukunika le mvume, ukuthuthumela ngamathambo nomama kunye nosana.
- Xa sele bekhulile, abanye abantwana bakhumbula ngokukhawuleza ukuba banabantwana. Kwaye ngokomthetho, umntwana kufuneka agcine umzali wakhe ukhubazekile. Ukususela kumntwana, imali iya kuqokelelwa ngokuthandana noyise "oyintanda," owayengenakhathalela ngokumelana nomntwana wakhe, xa ebenokufuna.
- Kukho iziganeko ezimnandi xa umfazi oqhawula umtshato edibana nomntu onqwenela ukutshata naye kuphela, kodwa ukuba amkele umntwana wakhe, amnike igama. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ubaba wabangenayo amalungelo omzali uya kufuneka acele imvume yokuqhuba le nkqubo, kwaye uya kulwa nalo.
Izizathu zokunqongophala kwabantwana
Ngaphantsi komthetho, ukucima amalungelo omzali wengane yomntwana ingaba ngamatyala alandelayo:
- ukukhutshwa kwentlawulo ye-alimony;
- ukwenqaba ngaphandle kwesizathu sokuthatha umntwana ekhaya (esibhedlele, esibhedlele, isikhungo semfundo kunye neminye imibutho yale hlobo);
- ukuphepha ekuzalisekeni uxanduva lwabazali (ukungabikho kolondolozo oluncinci - ukubonelelwa kokutya, izambatho, uncedo lwezonyango);
- ukuphathwa kakubi kwamalungelo omzali;
- Ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana (ubundlobongela ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo);
- ukuxhatshazwa (ukuzama ukunyanzelwa ngokwesondo);
- utywala obunaphakade okanye umlutha weziyobisi;
- ukwenza ulwaphulo-mthetho olungenabulungisa olungonakalisa ubomi okanye impilo yomntwana nonina.
Inkqubo yokwehliswa kobodwa
Unokuyithintela njani uyise kayise womntwana, kunye nokudibanisa, owayengowomthetho okanye umyeni? Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukutyelela abaphathi bokugcinwa kwindawo yokuhlala komntwana. Kulapho uya kunikwa uluhlu lwamaphepha okushiywa kobuni, okufuneka uqokelele. Kubonakala ngathi:
- isatifikethi sokuzalwa somntwana;
- isatifiketi sokuqhawula umtshato (ukuba utshatile uyise womntwana);
- isatifikethi sokubhalisa kunye neempawu zendawo yokuhlala;
- umyalelo wenkundla ngokuhlawula i-alimony (ukuba kukho);
- isatifikethi esivela kwi-FSSP (i-Federal Bailiff Service) kwisixa semali esemva kwe-alimony (ukuba iqokelelwa enkundleni);
- isatifikethi esivela kwi-FSSP malunga nokukhangela ubaba (ukuba uyabaleka ukuhlawula i-alimony);
- ukubonakalisa ukusuka kwindawo yomsebenzi wommangali (umama);
- Iziganeko zesikolo, inkulisa kunye nezinye iindidi ezityelelwe ngumntwana;
- isitifiketi somvuzo wommangali.
Olu luhlu lunokutshintshwa kwaye luyongezwe ngokuxhomekeke kwintetho ethile malunga nokunyanzelwa kwamalungelo omzali.
Ukugqitha onke la maxwebhu ayithunyelwa enkundleni, kunye nokusetyenziswa komama. Nantsi kukho into encinci ye-snag: ukuba ufaka isigwebo kuphela ekuthinini kwamalungelo omzali, kuya kufuneka uhambise amaxwebhu kunye nesicelo kwinkundla kwindawo yokuhlala kommangalelwa. Ukuba awukwazi malunga nokuba kuphi, ke enkundleni yendawo apho ipropati yakhe ikhona okanye kwidilesi yepemethe yokuhlala yokugqibela. Yaye ukuba uyifake kunye nebango lokunyanzelwa kwamalungelo omzali kunye nesibango sokubuyiswa kwe-alimony, unako ukuya enkundleni apho uhlala khona.
Ekugqibeleni ndifuna ukwenza izilungiso ezincinci: awukwazi ukunqanda umntakwabo, kunye nonina wobazali. Unokwenqaba nje amalungelo omzali. Okanye ucelomngeni inyaniso yebantana ukuba unesizathu salo. Ngoko musa ukudibanisa le mibono emibini.