Inkathazo yeminyaka emithathu emntwaneni

Sonke thina, abantu abadala, sakuba siwunqobile. Yayingenye yezona zinto zigugu ebomini bethu, nangona umntu engayibonakali ngokucacileyo. Inkathazo yeminyaka emithathu yinqanaba lokuphuhlisa abantwana bethu kuya kufuneka bafumane. Kwaye kulunge ukuba siyazi izinto ezizodwa ezi zinto zilula, kuya kuba lula ngathi ukuba sisize abantwana bethu ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunye nokulahlekelwa okuncinci "kokunyuka".

Inkxalabo yeminyaka emithathu komntwana omnye inokuqala ngisho nangama-2.5 iminyaka, ngelixa abanye bejamelene neengxaki, kuphela bafikelele kwiminyaka emine. Kuzo zonke iimeko, izizathu zokuvela kwayo ziyafana: umntwana usuphuhliswa kakuhle ngokomzimba nangengqondo. Uyaqaphela ukuba unokuyichaphazela ihlabathi elikujikelezayo, kwaye uyayithanda. Utsalwe ukuba ahlolisise izinto ezingapheliyo kuphela, kodwa nokufunda ukuziphatha kwabantu abakujikelezile. Umntwana uqala ukuzijonga njengomntu ozimeleyo kwaye ufuna ukuzenza zakhe izigqibo. Oko kukuthi, musa ukwenza into ethile ngokwakho, kodwa kuya kuye ukugqiba ukuba uyayenza okanye cha.

Ingxaki kukuba iminqweno eninzi ayihambelani nekhono lokwenene lomntwana. Oku kubangela ukungqubana kwangaphakathi kuyo. Ukongezelela, umntwana uhlala egcinwa ngabantu abadala, obangela ukungqubuzana kwangaphandle.

Iimpawu zeengxaki zeminyaka emithathu

Lo mzuzu obalulekileyo kubo bonke abantwana bahluke. Kwenzeka ukuba okungaqondwanga ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuba kubonakala kubazali ukuba intanda yabo ithathe indawo.

Iingcali zengqondo zihlukanisa imiqondiso enjalo yeengxaki zeminyaka emithathu:

1. Umntwana ufuna ukwenza konke ngokwakhe, nangona engenayo ingcamango encinane yokuyenza.
2. Abazali bahlala bejamelana nokubonakaliswa kobunkani bomntwana. Ufuna ukuphikisana nazo zonke iingxabano zabadala. Akunjalo ngenxa yokuba wayefuna kakhulu oko akufunayo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uthethe njalo.
3. Ngezinye iinkomo i-kid isenzo nje kuphela ngokuchasene nokuthanda kwabazali, kodwa kunye nokuthanda kwayo. Uyala ukuzalisa izicelo kuphela ngenxa yokuba abuzwa ngaye, kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba akafuni.
4. Umntwana unakho "ukuvukela" ngokuphendula kwingcinezelo evela kubazali. "I-Riot" ibonakaliswe kwi-aggress or hysteria.
5. Ngamehlo omntwana, amathoyizi akhe amathandayo anganciphisa (angakwazi ukuwaphula, awaphosa) kunye nezihlobo zakhe (unokubetha abazali bakhe baze bamemezele).
6. Inkwenkwe inokusebenzisa i-despotism, iphoqele intsapho yakhe ukuba yenze into ayifunayo.

Unokuyinqoba njani le ntlekele iminyaka emithathu?

Ukujongana nezizathu zeengxaki kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo, umntu unokuqonda indlela yokusinda kwintlekele iminyaka emithathu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kubazali kule meko ayiyikugxininisa ingqalelo kwintshukumo yakhe embi, nokuba azame "ukulwa" ngokubonakalisa. Kodwa ukuvumeleka, naye, akufanele kube njalo. Kuya kuba kubi kakhulu ukuba umntwana ufikelele kwizigqibo zokuba unokufezekisa ubomi bakhe nge-hysteria ne-blackmail.

Funda ukuhlula phakathi kokuzama ukukuphatha kwiingxaki zangempela ezingamkhathaza umntwana.

Xa umntwana ubonisa ubugwenxa, kufuneka uzame ukutshintsha ingqalelo kwenye into. Ukuba oku akuncediyo - utshintshe yakho ingqalelo kwezinye izinto. Xa ulahlekelwe "umbukeli" ebusweni bakho, umntwana "uya kupholisa" ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, into ebaluleke kakhulu kubazali bomntwana oneminyaka emithathu ukuqonda ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe uhlupheke ngakumbi kwihambo yakhe embi. Abazali abanzima ngokungekho mfuneko bavame ukuthobela abantu abathobelayo, ababuthathaka abanokuzithemba.

Soloko ukhumbuza i-crumb of your love rhoqo. Kususela kwisicwangciso esiyikhethayo, kuxhomekeka ukuba umntwana uya kugcina umsebenzi wakhe nokuphikelela ekufezeni injongo. Yenza oku njengaye ngomntwana, njengoko ungathanda, ngoko waziphatha nabanye (kuquka nawe).