Ukuba ngaphambili impumelelo yobudala ibaluleke kakhulu, ngoko ngoku izimo zokuziphatha zivumela ukuba uzive ukhululekile xa ukhetha iqabane. Ngako oko, kwintlalo yanamhlanje, umfazi omdala kunye nomthandi omncinci ngumcimbi oqhelekileyo.
Kutheni abafazi befuna abatsha abathandi?
Njengoko uyazi, ukugqithisa ngesondo kwintombi kuwela kwiminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwimi-40, xa kumadoda eli xesha liba malunga no-20 ukuya ku-30. Ukufuna abathandi abancinci, abafazi, ngokukodwa abasetyhini abangabhinqa, bazame ukuqaphela amandla abo kwaye bafumane iimvakalelo ezingenakuthenjwa. Ukongezelela, kwintsebenziswano enjalo kumfazi kukho nezinye iindidi ezininzi:
- ubudlelwane obunothando;
- inkululeko;
- ukuvakalelwa kwentsha yesibini;
- unxibelelwano olunomdla, ukwanda kweembono zehlabathi ;
- ukukwazi ukuba nomntwana onempilo;
- ukuzithemba;
- ithuba lokuqala ubomi ukususela ekuqaleni.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba, ngokwemiphumo yophando lwentlalo, abafazi, abathandayo abaneminyaka engama-10 emncinci, banomdla wokuzithobela, ukuba bangene kwimidlalo.
Indlela yokufumana nokugcina umthandi omncinane?
Ininzi abaselula bayicinga ukuba abafazi abavuthiweyo bayakuthanda kwiontanga zabo, ngokukodwa kwimiqathango yesondo. Kubalulekile ukuthobela ingqalelo kwixesha elinjalo:
- Njalo ujonge kakuhle;
- ukunyamekela ulondolozo lolutsha kunye nomtsalane;
- qwa lasela umfanekiso wakhe;
- Ukulandela iincwadi ezintsha kwihlabathi lobuxoki, iifilimu nomculo;
- kube yimimiselo ngokwemigaqo yokuziphatha;
- ungayesabi kuqala ukuba uqale incoko kwaye ufunde ukudlala ngothando ;
- bazive bekhululekile ebhedini.
Kwakhona kulula ukugcina indoda eselula, into ephambili kukuba kukuthakazelisa kwaye kulula kuwe. Ngoko ke, akukho mfuneko yokuba uziphatha njengokuba wena - unina, ukuziphatha kunye neengcebiso ezincedo kwiimeko zobomi abazizityebi kufuneka zishiye naye. Ukongeza, ukuba unomtshati omtsha osetshatileyo, akudingeki ukuba umphoqele ukuba ushiye intsapho. Indoda nawuphi na umdala ukhetha ukwenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo, kwaye nayiphi na ingcinezelo kuyo iya kukhawuleza ukwahlukana.
"Umthandi uncinci kunami" - uncedo
Ewe, ukuba umthandi wakho uncinci kakhulu - iminyaka engama-10 okanye ngaphezulu, kukho iingcambu ezimbi kumbuzo:
- ukugwetywa koluntu;
- ukungaqondi kakuhle ngezihlobo nabasebenzi;
- umona weentombi;
- imibono ehlukeneyo ebomini nasexabiso;
- ukungabikho kobudlelwane obukhulu;
- ukungazinzi kwemali kwendoda eselula.
Kodwa ekugqibeleni, kukuya kuwe ukugqiba. Akukho mhlaba emhlabeni onokuthelekiswa nolonwabo ebomini bakho. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakhiwe njani.