Abantu bafuna uthando ngeminyaka, kaninzi abaqapheli ukuba kusondele kakhulu - kulungele ukujwayela! Kwiintlungu zeentsuku, sithandana nabahlobo abahlala bekulungele ukusinika igalelo labo, bancede baze bahlanganyele ngexesha lokuvuya. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza waqonda ukuba umhlobo wakho akayena nje umntu olungileyo, kodwa naye uyindoda ekhangayo, ngoko ke iingcebiso ezilandelayo ziyakuthandana nomhlobo wakho.
Ungayithanda njani umhlobo ongcono?
- Ngubani, uyazi njani iintlobo zamantombazana wakho ozithandayo? Ngoko zama ukulinganisa eli lihle. Shintsha umfanekiso ukwenzela ukuba indoda enomdla ibheke kuwe ngamahlo ahlukeneyo. Siyaqonda ukuba kwiimvumba ezigqithisiweyo kunye nomsila we-pony enye ingabonakala kuphela phambi komhlobo oye wavavanywa iminyaka. Kodwa ukususela ngoku oku akusiyo inketho yethu, kungenjalo indlela yokuwa nomthandane nomhlobo ogqwesileyo ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ulibale.
- Sithatha abancedisi ngokobulili kunye nezinye izicwangciso zobuhlobo obusondeleyo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba indoda kufuneka iqwalaselwe emva kwayo yonke into. Ngomzimba, uza kuhamba emva kancinci, xa umhlobo wakho ekugqibeleni uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuhleka nje kuphela kwinkampani, kodwa uchitha ubusuku obuhle kunye. Yiba nethemba, umfazi onothando makangabi nombuzo, indlela yokuwa nesithandwa nesoka lomfana.
- Zama ukuchitha kunye ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka, kuba akudingeki ufune isizathu sokubonana. Gcina umntu onqwenela kuyo yonke into, baxabisa kakhulu ukuzinikela nokunyaniseka . Ngamanye amaxesha banentloni yokuvuma kubantombazana ngendlela ethile, kodwa bazimisele ukwabelana nabo nabahlobo babo. Zihlala ziyimfihlelo njengokuba kunokwenzeka, kwaye olu lwazi lweengqondo zengqondo luya kunceda ukuthanda nomhlobo.
Ukuba sele usuchitha ixesha elide kunye kunye, ncokola uvuyo kunye nosizi kunye nendoda, ngoko uyazi ukuba isiqingatha indlela eya eluthandweni olukhulu sele sidlulile. Emva koko, isiqingatha esomeleleyo sobuntu sisilumkiso, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ubuhlobo babo buhamba kuzo zonke izinto zobomi. Usuvele useluhlu lweintandokazi, uhlala kuphela ukwenza isinyathelo esinye ukungena kwi-"bull-eye" - intliziyo yakhe.