Xa umntu ephasayo ebonakala ebomini, umfazi uhamba ngeephiko zothando. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba zonke iingcamango zakhe zihlala ngento nganye ngomzuzu. Ufuna njani ukuba umthandi wakho abuyele kwakhona - uhlale ecinga ngawe, efuna ukudibana okanye ukuthetha kwifowuni. Kwiengqondo, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukwenza umntu acinge ngawe.
Indlela yokwenza umntu acinge ngomfazi?
- Cinga ngawe. Ukuzinyamekela kakuhle kunye nokubonakala kwakho. Kufuneka ukhangeleke kakuhle, nokuba ufuna ukuphuma esitolo. Nantoni na into ayithethayo, indoda iqala ukujonga ngaphandle, ize ikwazi ukwazi ihlabathi langaphakathi.
- Akukho mfuneko yokugijima emva komntu. Ukuziphatha kufuneka kube ngokwaneleyo. Ukuba intombazana igijima emva komfana, iyakubamba isohlo, kwaye ayikhangeleki emehlweni omntu. Ukungenakwenzeka kwaye imfihlakalo ibangele umdla kubantu, ngoko baqala ukucinga nge ntombazana kwaye bafuna ukufezekisa. Kodwa ungayithandi, kungenjalo ungabonakala ube ngumntu othe tye.
- Ukuba unqabile ukuthetha okanye ungadluli nonke umntu onomdla, okwenza ukuba acinge ngawe kuya kuba nzima. Kuye kufuneka udibanise rhoqo, ngelixa uzama ukwenza umdla. Le ngenye yezindlela eziphambili zokufezekisa injongo. Ukuba indoda emva kwemizamo emininzi ingayithobeli ingqalelo, kwiimeko ezininzi intombazana iyancipha izandla kwaye iqala ukuyihoxisa. Kodwa amadoda awanamathelisi ukubaluleka kwizinto ezinje, kwaye mhlawumbi akazange abone nendlela engayinakucaluli ngayo ingqalelo yakho.
- Emva kokuba uqale ukuthetha rhoqo, kwaye uya kuziva ukuba kubalulekile ebomini bakho, unokuyenza indoda ibe nomona omncinane. Ukwenza oku, udinga ukutshintshela ingqwalasela komnye umntu okwesikhashana. Bonke abantu bayabanikazi bendalo kwaye kukho amathuba amakhulu ukuba uya kuqala ukucinga ngawe lonke ixesha. Le ndlela yinkqubo efanelekileyo, kodwa akufanele uhambe kakhulu kwaye unganikeli izizathu ezinzulu zomona. Indoda inokuqonda ukuba uyayenza ngenjongo, kwaye ukuzithemba kwayo kuya kuphakama, kwaye ukukhanga kwakho kwamehlo akhe kuya kuwela ngokukhawuleza. Ukongezelela, unokukufumanisa ngokugqithiseleyo.
- Ukuze ufumane iingcamango zomntu, akufuneki ukufumana kuphela iimpawu ezilungileyo zomlingiswa wakho. Indoda kufuneka igcinwe kude, ize ifike kuye, ize isuke ixesha elide. Awukwazi ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza iifowuni kunye nemilayezo kunye nezihlandlo eziliqela ukuhambisa iintlanganiso, ngokubhekiselele kwezinye iimeko. Kubalulekile ukuba ube nesineke kwaye ungagqithisi, kuba umthandi unokucinga ukuba akanandaba.
Indlela yokwenza umntu acinge ngawe ngamandla okucinga?
Unokusebenzisa iindlela ezithe tye
- Xa into yokuqwalasela ibonakala, kufuneka uqikelele kakuhle. Cinga ngenyameko ibinzana ofuna ukuyisebenzisa. Umzekelo, "Cinga ngam maxesha onke!". Ukuthetha la mazwi, gxila ngengqondo yakho kumntu.
- Ngaphambi kokuba ulale, phumla uze uvule imfesane. Dweba engqondweni yakho umfanekiso womthandi wakho de uze umfanekiso wakhe ukhanyise kwaye ucace. Khumbula zonke iinkcukacha zokubonakala kwakhe: umbala wamehlo, ukubonakalisa ubuso. Khawucinge ngendlela ohamba ngayo emzimbeni wakhe, ebuchosheni, kwiingcamango kwaye uzive ecinga ngayo. Ulo hlobo lufanele lwenziwe ngaphezu kweyodwa, kodwa iiveki ezimbalwa ngokulandelana.
Yaye khumbula, ngaphantsi kwakho ucinga ngomntu, ngcono.