Leli gama elithi "umlingiswa" ngesiGrike lithetha "into ehlukile" (kuba ibinzana elithi "impawu zobuntu" ngandlela-thile nakwi-tautology), kwaye ezi zilapha ziza kuthatha, njengomfanekiso womfanekiso, ngamnye umfanekiso wethu. Namhlanje siza kuthetha malunga neyiphi impawu yomlinganiso, abafana nabafana, kunye nabaphikisayo, kunye nendlela yokufumanisa ukuba impawu zomntu ziphi.
Ubunjani umlingiswa owenziwe?
Abazali abaninzi bakholelwa ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ilungu elitsha lentsapho liluhlu olumhlophe ongayifumana nantoni na. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezinye iimpawu zobuntu zixhomekeke kwiziphi izicwangciso abazali abazinike ngazo ebuntwaneni, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba umntu ukhula kwaye utshintshe ebomini bakhe (nangona iimbono eziphambili zibekwe kuwo ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu), kwaye ubomi buqala kwisibeleko unina.
Ukugxininisa kunye nesimo sengqondo
Kukholelwa ukuba ukuziphatha kugqitywa ngumlingiswa, kodwa okwangoku oku okanye ukuba ukuziphatha (inxaxheba) ngokukhawuleza kuholele ekutshintsheni komlingiswa. Oku kwashiwo nguAristotle. Nangona kunjalo, kusekho isiseko sempawu esivela kuyo ukususela ekuzalweni, kunye nempembelelo kwezinye iimpawu. Kuthe malunga neengcamango ezinjengokugxininisa kunye nesimo sengqondo.
Liliphi leli gama elimangalisayo. Ngoko iingcali zengqondo zibiza ukuphucuka ngokweqile kweempawu ezithile zobuntu. Ulwahlulo lwezakhono zokuphuhliswa luye lwaphuhliswa ngandlela-thile, sisoloko sisebenzisa izici ezimbini kuphela:
- I-extrovert. Olu hlobo lwabantu ngabantu abaqhelanisiweyo kwimisebenzi yoluntu nakwikampani enkulu abazivakalelwa njengentlanzi emanzini.
- Introvert. Uninzi lwama-introversion kunye neentloni, kodwa oku akunjalo ngokupheleleyo. Izaziso ezilula zifumana amandla abalulekileyo kwimithombo yazo kwaye zizive zodwa zizodwa okanye zingqonge inani elincinci labantu.
Ukongezelela kokugxininisa, izazi zeengqondo zidibanisa iimpawu zesigcawu kumaqela ngokuhambelana nemimoya. Mhlawumbi uvile ezi ngcaciso: i-choleric, i-phlegmatic, i-sanguine kunye ne-melancholic. Ngaphambi kokuzichaza, makhe sizame ukubona ukuba zeziphi ezine zeentlobo zomoya?
Uvavanyo lwama-mini: "Uhlobo luni lohlobo lwakho?"
Olu vavanyo luboniswe ngumculi we-Bydrstup ngendlela yekhathuni. Ukususela ngelo xesha, uhlala equkwa kwizinto zokuhlola ukuzimisela.
Ngoko, cinga ukuba uhleli ebhentshini, kwaye ngasemva kwakho isithandwa sakho ozithandayo. Kwaye umntu ngokukhawuleza umntu ohlala ngengozi ngokuhlala ngqo kwi-headdress. Ukuphendula kwakho:
ufike entukuthelweni, kwaye uphumele ngaphandle kweentlungu zakho iimvakalelo zakho (X); musa ukukhawuleza ukuthukuthela: ekugqibeleni, imeko idibanisa (C); Ndithukuthele kakhulu, kodwa uzama ukungabonakali le mvakalelo (M); yenza sengathi yonke into ihlelekile, ngokungapheliyo uthathe ihappy ethintekileyo kwaye uyibeke entloko yakho (F).
Iimpendulo
(X) I-Choleric. "Ndiyikholera" ukuqaphela rhoqo amantombazana amancinci, kuba ukuguquguquka kwemizwelo, isicwangciso, amandla kunye neenqobo ziyimpawu zolu hlobo (ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ezinye iinjongo zichazwe). Ukubaluleka kubalulekile ebomini ubomi, kungenjalo kwi-slide yakhe yomlingani ukukhazamiseka nokukhawuleza.
(S) Sanguine. Ukwahlukana ngokuzibandakanya, ukukwazi ukukhawuleza ukudibana nabantu kwaye, ngokubanzi, zivumelane neemeko ezintsha. Nangona kunjalo, akukho ukungahambisani kwaye unxanxanxu olusoloko lweenguqulelo. I-Sanguine kwinto eninzi kakhulu, kuba kutheni angatyholwa ngokungagwenxa.
Phlegmatic. Mhlawumbi u xelelwa ukuba unesisulu, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ungekho ngokukhawuleza ukubandakanyeka kwishishini elitsha akuthethi ukuba akuyi kugqitywa okwamanje. Ngokuchasene noko, abantu abaxhamlayo bavame ukunyamezela nokunyamezela. Unqabile ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumsindo wakho, ulale ngamandla akho kwaye ungathandi ukuxoxa ngokungahambi kakuhle.
I-Melancholic. Unobungozi kwaye unamahloni. Ejongene neengxaki okanye, njengoko ucinga, ukungaqondi, ungazibeka phantsi izandla zakho. Sinda ngaphakathi kwakho, ubude, buhlungu kwaye bunzulu. Bazimisele ukuthatha yonke into entliziyweni, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ujikelezwe ngabantu abanothando, kukunika amandla kwaye kukunceda ufeze imisebenzi yakho.
Uhlobo luni lomdlalo kufuneka intombazana ifande abantu?
Amantombazana ahlala ebuza ukuba ngaba bantu bafana njani, ukuba kunokwenzeka, "bachane" iimpawu zabo. Ukuze uqonde ukuba akukho mpendulo engafanelekanga, jonga abantu abahlobo bakho. Ngaba uyayithanda yonke impawu? Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba oko kukujonga ukuba kukungalungi kumntu ubuhle. Yonke into yokuba ukujonga kwabanye abantu kuxhomekeke, kubandakanywa nokuba yeyiphi impawu.
Kodwa, ke, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iingenelo ezibonakalayo kwiimeko zamantombazana. Makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi iimpawu kunye neempawu ezidume kakhulu kubafana:
- ngcikivo. Ukuba uhleka amahlaya afanayo, kodwa usayazi ukuhleka, ke amathuba akho okutsala ingqalelo aphezulu. Akukho nto uGosa athetha ngayo ukuba "akukho ndlela abantu ababonakaliswa ngayo kwinto abayifumana ngayo";
- nya mekela, ububele. Ezi zimpawu zithandwa ngabantu ngokusesikweni, kuba intombazana enenkathalo iya kuba ngumama olungileyo;
- ukucoceka. Akukho mboni othanda intombazana engenayo;
- ububele. Ukunyaniseka kuyaphambuka kunye nokudibanisa kunye nobuthakathaka;
- ukukwazi ukuphulaphula. Lo mgangatho onqabileyo
lixabiswa ngumntu wonke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini; - "Inkathazo". Amaqhawe angabonakaliyo amaxesha amaninzi atyhayisa iinjongo zabo. Mhlawumbi loo mfana uyavuma ukuba uyayithanda isabelo senqabunga, nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kwesi sihlandlo esinobukrakra, ubudlelwane bubuqili.
Ungazami ukuba ulungele wonke umntu, emva koko, nayiphi na into echaphazelekayo yomntu ifumana imibala engathandekiyo. Ngoko, ukucoceka kungakhula ibe yinto enqabileyo kakhulu, iyancipha - ibe yi-avarice, kunye nobubele - ekuziphatheleni ukuzidela kunye nokuchithwa komntu. Yiba wena kwaye uzithande wena, kuba uhlukile!