Ubomi kunye nezinto ezenziwa ngabantu zilawulwa zizifundo ezithile. Kuba khona, ubunjani bangela ukuba sihlale sisifuna ukutya, iimpahla kunye nezinye izinto eziphathekayo. Kwintlalo, abantu bazama ukuzibhokoxa baze bafumaneke kwabanye abantu. Ukuze kuqhutywe uhlobo oluthile, umntu ufuna ukubopha ubudlelwane kunye nabameli bobulili obuhlukile, ukutshata nokuzala abantwana. Kukho izinto ezininzi apho ubomi bethu bonke buxhomekeke ngqo. Ziyakwazi ukutyunjwa ngamathathu angundoqo.
Uhlobo lunikela?
Iimpawu ezifanayo zinika umntu ithuba eliphambili ebomini, ukudlala indima yentshukumiselo enamandla yokufezekisa iinjongo ezibekiweyo. Ngosizo lwabo, unokuzikhuthaza ukuba uphumelele kuyo nayiphi na imisebenzi. Xa umntu engakwazi ukuzilawula, uhamba ngeemvelo. Le nkqubo ilula, kwaye ihlala isebenza kakuhle. Inyaniso kukuba xa izenzo kunye neminqweno zifezekiswa, unokumelana nokunyanzelisa, usebenzise izicwangciso ezinjalo ngokwakho, kwaye impumelelo enkulu ifumane iziphumo. Kukho ezintathu ezisisiseko (ezisiseko)
- Umnqweno wokuzondla nokuhlala.
- Isithotyana (ngokwesisu).
- Ukhokelo lwenkokheli.
Izilwanyana zoluntu zivelisa iimfuno:
- nentlalontle; imfuneko yokukhuseleko;
- ukukhangela iqabane lezesondo;
- nya mekela abantwana;
- imfuno yokubachaphazela abantu ababajikelezile.
Ngendlela efanayo, kukho ezinye izilwanyana zemvelo: unina, isisiseko sokukhusela intsimi yakhe, isimo salo silandelayo, xa senza ngokuphindaphindiweyo oko abanye abakwenzayo. Ngokungafani nezilwanyana, sinokulawula izilwanyana zethu ngengqondo nangomoya. Kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele ukuba izilwanyana ziphila kuphela kwiindleko zemvelo, ngelixa umntu ehlawulwa.
Iinkcukacha ezingakumbi
Ukholo lokulondolozwa kwindoda lusekelwe kwesoyiko lwempilo kunye nenhlalakahle, lenza ukuba silumke kwaye sibonise uxanduva. Inokuthi ithathwa njengophezulu kunabanye.
Umnqweno wokuqhubeka nohlobo lwabo kunye nomnqweno wamandla kusekelwe kwisimo sokuphila.
Umzimba wesondo awuyinto engaphezu kwesidingo sokushiya emva kobudala, obubonisa umnqweno wokuzigcina.
Kwimiba yamandla, kunokuqatshelwa ukuba kuyadingeka ngumntu ngokukhuseleko okukhulu. Ukuba umntu ucinga ngokucacileyo kwaye wenza kakuhle, ngoko nayiphi na i-phobias yayo ilahlekelwa ngamandla. Nabani na oqonda iimbangela zesoyikayo unokuziphelisa ngokukhawuleza. Ngokukhawuleza kunokuba bonke bafe abo bayesaba, kuba baqhutywe ngumntu ongeyaneleyo wokuzigcina. Ephuphuthelwe ngumnqweno wokulawula, abantu bahlala 'belahlekelwa ingqondo yabo,' ekhokelela kwimiphumo emibi. Kufuneka kwakhona kuqaphele ukuba zingaphi izinto ezinamahloni ezenzekayo ngenxa yeengxaki zesini esahlukileyo. Zonke ezo ntswelo kunye nokwesaba
I-Herd imvelaphi ebantwini ifakwe kwisimo sengqondo. Isihlwele sinxulumene namandla amaninzi. Amandla athetha ukukhuselwa. Kwaye kwakhona kuvela ukuba isiseko salesi siko kukuloyiko lobomi bomntu kunye nomnqweno wokuzigcina. Abantu ababuthaka abafuni ukuthwala uxanduva kwaye abakwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba kwabo balandela isihlwele apho kukho "inkokeli". Okokugqibela, uhlaziya ubuchule bokuxhaphaza.
Ungavumeli ukuba ukwesaba kwakho kukulawulwe. Lawula izilwanyana zakho kwaye uthathe ulawulo lobomi bakho.