Umntu othanda nokuzixabisa unokubonakala kwangoko. Unethemba kuye ngokwakhe, uyazi indlela yokuya kwiinjongo, uzigcine ephezulu, akabizi kwaye uyabahlonela abanye. Umntu onokuzihlonela ngokuphezulu unethuba eliphambili lokuphumelela kunomntu onokuzithemba okanye ukuzithemba.
Abasetyhini abaninzi bazama ukufumana impendulo kumbuzo wendlela ozithandayo kunye nokwandisa ukuzithemba . Imfuno enjalo yalo mbuzo ibonisa ukuba ukuzithemba kwangaphantsi okanye ukuzithengisa kuyinkathazo kummandla wonke woluntu.
Isimo sengqondo senziwa ngokwaso ebuntwaneni beselula, ngokuqhelekileyo sisuka kwisimo sengqondo sabazali kumntwana. Ukuxhatshazwa komzali okanye ukungahoywa ngumntwana rhoqo kubangela ukuba umntwana abe nomuvo wokungabikho nto okanye ukubaluleka ngokweqile. Zomibini ziyimingcipheko enzulu ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane babantu kunye nokukwazi ukuceba iinjongo nokuzifezekisa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abasetyhini abanokuzithemba baqala ukucinga ngendlela yokuzithandela kunye nokubahlonela, emva kokuba baqale ukuphishekela ukungaphumeleli kubomi babo. Abasetyhini abangazixabisi ngokwabo ababangeli umdla kubantu. Abafazi abanjalo basoloko belahliwe, bengayihoywa, bengayithandi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abasondelene nathi basiphatha ngendlela esiziphatha ngayo.
Ibhinqa lithanda njani kwaye likhulise ukuzithemba?
Sebenzela ukwandisa ukuzithemba, okokuqala, sebenzela ngokwakho. Ukwandisa ukuzithemba ngexesha elincinci akuyi kusebenza, kuba iingxaki zokuzihlola ngokwazo zenziwa phezu kweminyaka. Ukuba ufuna ukuguqula ubomi bakho bhetele, ke uncede iingcebiso ezifana nendlela yokuzithandayo nokuzithethelela:
- Nika ngelinye ilanga ukuba ubhale kwiphepha lephepha zonke izizathu apho iingxaki zokuzithemba zivela khona. Ukuba ubumba kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, kuyacaca ukuba ukuziphonononga ngxaki kungenxa yesimo sengqondo esingalunganga kubantu abakujikelezile. Akukho mpazamo yakho kule nto.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba impumelelo kunye nolonwabo aluxhomeki kuphela kwiinkcukacha zangaphandle, ubunengqiqo kunye namanye amakhono. Wonke umntu unako uvuyo, njengokuba wonk 'ubani angazenza azivuyise.
- Bhala phantsi kwiphepha okanye kwirekhodi yombhalo uze uprinte uluhlu lweempawu zakho ezilungileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kunzima kumntu onesidima esincinane sokwenza oku. Umzekelo, unokufumana uluhlu lweempawu ezilungileyo zomntu kwi-Intanethi. Uluhlu lwabantu kufuneka lube neempawu ezi-20 ezintle. Le rekhodi kufuneka ifakwe kwideskithophu yakho kwaye ifundwe ngokuphindwe rhoqo.
- Kufuneka uthathe ixesha, unakekele umzimba wakho, ugqoke ngeengubo ezintle. Abantu abanentlonelo ephantsi abazi ukuba bangayisebenzisa njani imali kwimbonakalo yabo. Ukunyamekela kwicala lomzimba liya kuxela ingqondo ukuba umzimba ufanelwe inhlonipho.
- Sifanele sifunde ukuthetha kubantu abasijikelezile "akukho." Ungesabi ukuba abanye abayi kuvuyela ukugatya. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ufunde indlela yokuthetha ngeminqweno yakho neemvakalelo zakho. Nangona abahlobo bengenakuvuyela uhlobo olutsha lokuziphatha, ekugqibeleni baya kufunda ukuhlonela uluvo lwakho.
- Ukuba umfazi ucinga malunga noko akufunekile ukuba azithande yena, kufuneka aqonde oko akunganeliseki naye.
Ngamanye amaxesha kukho ikhefu ngexesha elithile, elibhekiswa njengento ebaluleke kakhulu ekuziboneni. Ibhinqa licinga ukuba lizele kakhulu ukuba lihlonishwe, okanye lihlazo. Ukuba le ngxaki ingathinteli, kuyimfuneko ukuqala umsebenzi kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, ubomi bubonisa ukuba oku kungesizathu sokuzithemba okuphantsi: kukufanelekile ukususa esinye isizathu, njengoko enye ivela.
Zonke ezi ngcebiso, indlela yokuba ngumntu ozicingayo kwaye uzithande ngokwakho, uya kunceda ukuphakamisa ngaphezu kweminqweno yabanye abantu. Kuphela xa umntu engakwazi ukubeka iimfuno zakhe kunye nezithethe ngaphezu kwamanye abantu, unokuthanda umntu.