Ukukholelwa emandleni akhe, ukuzimela, ukuzimisela, isibindi, ukunyamezela-kuninzi amagama ekuthandweni. Kodwa kuxhomekeka kwiimeko, imeko, ithatha ngendlela ehlukile. Ingaba enye yezinto eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kwiengqondo zanamhlanje. Olu luhlobo oluthile lwamandla angaphakathi angakwazi ukulawula izigqibo zakho, izenzo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, iziphumo zezenzo. Ngombulelo kumntu onomnqweno ongenako ukubeka iinjongo ezingenakwenzeka ukuzijonga ekuqaleni, kodwa nokuzifezekisa, ukunqoba nayiphi na imithintelo endleleni.
Uhlobo lweNtshukumo kwiSythychology
Kukho iintlobo ezintathu eziqhelekileyo zolu hlobo olubalulekileyo lwengqondo yabantu:
- Inkululeko yokuzikhethela ibhekiselwa kuwo ngamanye amagama njengenkululeko yokomoya. Yiyo nkululeko yezigqibo kunye nezenzo ezibonakalisa ukukholelwa ngabantu. Umzekelo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula indlela abahlali abahlala ngayo. Bakhawuleza balahla ubutyebi bendalo kwaye 'abahlali ngokwenyama, kodwa ngoMoya.'
- Intando, ebizwa ngokuthi yendalo, ibonakala inkululeko yokukhetha, ukucinga, imbono, izahlulelo kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu.
- Yaye uhlobo lokugqibela luya kuthathwa ngokungathinteki luya kufakwa kwisigqibo esinqunyiwe. Kule meko, unyanzelekile ukuba wenze ukhetho lwakho njengoko luyimfuneko malunga neemeko ezithile.
Ukuphuhliswa kwentando
Kwizengqondo, ukuphuhliswa kwentando kumntu kuthiwa, kwindawo yokuqala, iimpawu eziphambili zokuziphatha kwezinye izinto eziphilayo. Kukholelwa ukuba le mfanelo eyaziwayo (oko kukuthi, umntu uyakwazi ukulawula ukubonakaliswa kwentando ekuziphatheni kwakhe) kwavela ngokuvela koluntu, kwintlalo yoluntu. Intando inxulumene neenkqubo zengqondo kunye nengqiqo kwintliziyo yabantu.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba inemisebenzi emibini:
- khuthaza
- ukuqhuma.
Nguwuphi umsebenzi wethu oqinisekisa ukusebenza komsebenzi wokuqala, kwaye inqandezelo iyasebenza ngokubambisana neyokudlulileyo kwaye ibonakalise ngendlela yokuthintela loo miqondiso yomsebenzi, oko kukuthi, izenzo eziphikisana nemigangatho yokuziphatha kunye noluntu. Ngenxa yokusebenzisana kwemisebenzi emibini, umntu ulawula ukuvelisa iimpawu ezinqwenelayo, ukunqoba izithintelo endleleni yokufezekisa.
Ukuba izimo zomntu zithe zazingekho kakuhle ukususela ebuntwaneni, akukho ncitshiswa yokuba imilinganiselo yimiqathango iza kuphuhliswa kuyo. Kodwa ukuzimisela, ukunyamezela, ukuqeqeshwa, isibindi, njl. iyakwazi ukuphuhliswa rhoqo. Ukwenza oku, into ephambili, ukwenza iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zemisebenzi, unqoble zombini izithintelo zangaphandle nangaphakathi.
Kodwa akuyi kuba yinto engabonakaliyo ukubonisa uluhlu lwezo zinto ezivimbela ukuphuhlisa okunamandla:
- umntwana ophangiweyo;
- ukucinywa kwanoma yiyiphi iinqununu zomntwana ngokuthanda komzali onzima.
Iipropati zokuthanda kwengqondo
- Iipropati zemiqathango zibonakaliswa ngokwazi nje ukuseta ngokuchanekileyo, kodwa nokufezekisa injongo. Ngamanye amagama, ukuba ungumntu okhuthazayo, oku kubonisa ukuba ubuntu bakho bunikwe amandla okuphuhliswa.
- Ukugqiba. Ipropati elandelayo yentando yikhono lokukhetha ngokukhawuleza
injongo yalo, ngelixa ungalibali iindlela zokuphumeza. - Ukunyamezela. Iinjongo ezichazwe ngokufanelekileyo akunakunceda kuphela ukufezekisa oko ufunayo, kodwa unokomeleza intando yakho, kunye neengqondo, abantu abaqhubekayo babonakala njengabo banako ukuvavanya imeko ngokufumana into enokubanceda bafezekise injongo yabo.
- Ukuboniswa. Kule ndawo ifakwe umsebenzi okhuselayo, okhankanywe ngasentla, uchazwa ngokucacileyo.
- Ukuzimela. Ukuba awukho umfama kwiqhinga lakho ukwenza iinjongo kwaye wenze isigqibo owenzileyo, le ndawo enqwenelayo iphuhliswa kuwe.