Ukuxhomekeka kobubele kulwalamano apho ukulungiswa komoya okwenziwe ngumntu okwenzekayo kumntu obalulekileyo kuye. Ukuxhomekeka kokuthandana kwengqondo kubizwa ngokuba ngumtshato oxhomekeke kubo.
Uninzi oluxhomekeke kuluthando lokuthandana nothando, kodwa bahluke kakhulu:
- Xa abantu bebathanda, bobabini kunye kunye. Kwimeko yothando lomlingo, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane kunye kunye, kodwa ngaphandle - kakubi, kamva kunye kunye kunye ngokwahlukileyo.
- Uthando luzisa iimvakalelo ezintle, ixesha elininzi umntu uvakalelwa ngokuvisisana, ukuzithemba, ukuzinza. Ukuxhomekeka kuye kuthatha imbi. Umntu uphazamisekile: ukungaqiniseki, umona, ukwesaba, ukuxhalaba, ukungaboni, ukungathandabuzeki.
- Uthando aluyithinteli inkululeko yangaphakathi. Ngokwexhomekeka kwothando, isimo sengqondo sincike kwizenzo, ukubheka, ilizwi lomntu omthandayo.
- Ngothando, amaqabane omabini athatha inxaxheba ngokulinganayo. Ngobudlelwane bobuhlobo ubudlelwane bubakhiwe kumgaqo wokulawula-ukuthotyelwa.
- Uthando luyakha kwaye lukhokelela kwimpumelelo. Ukuxhomekeka - kuyonakalisayo, impilo yomntu, imeko yezemali kunye nemicimbi yomsebenzi ibe nzima.
- Uthando lokwenene-ludala, ukuxhomekeka kwothando - luyabhubhisa.
Ukuxhomekeka kokuthandana kunokukhula, kunye nexesha elifanayo lezinto ezinjalo:
- iqabane likufutshane nolungileyo lolutsha;
- ukudlula ama-hormone wesini emzimbeni;
- umntu uyazama ukuthanda nokuthandwa.
Ukuxhomekeka kokuthandana kubangela:
- ukungafuni ukuhlalisana ubudlelwane;
- Esinye sezizathu zokuxhomekeka kwothando kwabasetyhini "ukungabi nothando" ebuntwaneni;
- ukungafuni okanye ukungakwazi ukwenza izigqibo;
- ukwesaba ulolo;
- ukwesaba ukugatywa;
- ukuzithoba;
- ukungabikho kobubele bomzali okanye ulawulo olunzima lwabazali;
- ukuzimisela ukuthobela;
- ukunyaniseka kunye neentsilelo;
- ukuthambekela kokunciphisa isithunzi;
- ubukho bomnye, ukuxhomekeka kwabanye;
- ukungabikho kwengqondo yokhuseleko.
Ukuxhomekeka komthando - iimpawu
- Iimpawu eziphambili zokuxhomekeka kobubele kukuvakalelwa kwintlungu kunye nentlungu, nangona xa umthandayo esondele.
- Hlalani nikhumbule into yothando, kwaye iyancipha. Iingcamango ezingenakulawulwa zingena ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho.
- Jonga umlingane wakho, unomdla ophezulu kuye.
- Usoloko umfumana isizathu sokuba angenzi, nangona xa unetyala lakhe lingenakuphikiswa, wena uzive unetyala.
- Ngenxa yengqiqo yokuhlala unetyala, awukwazi ukuhlolisisa ubuhlobo bakho.
- Unomdla ngakumbi malunga nokuhlangabezana neemfuno zomlingane wakho kunokuba wakho.
- Usoyika ukuba awufanelekanga kumntu othandekayo, ukuba ubhetele kunakho.
- Uloyiko, ukuziphatha ngokwemvelo ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba iqabane lizakukushiya ngokukhawuleza, kuba awuyi kukunyamezela i-antics yakho.
Xa elinye lamalingani lithembele ekuthandeni ukuxhomekeka, uya kufumana i-iqabane eliya kuxhomekeke kuye, kodwa isicwangciso esichaseneyo-ukuxhomekeka kokuphepha, kubonakaliswe ngolu hlobo:
- Xa uqaphela ukuba iqabane lifuna ukwenza ulwalamano olusondeleyo kunye ne-franker, uqala ukuzimisa kwaye uqondise iinzame zokudibanisa uxinzelelo lomlingane wokuthintela ukudibanisa.
- Ngobudlelwane, uloyiko lokulahlekelwa inkululeko yakho.
- Ucinga ukuba umtshato uya kuphazamisa yonke into, olo luthando lokwenene lunokuthi lube ngumgama omncinane.
- Uchitha ixesha elingakumbi kwiimhlobo, izinto zokuzilibazisa kunye nomsebenzi, kunomntu othandekayo.
- Siyaqiniseka ukuba awufanelekanga iqabane lakho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukushiya, yingakho ukwesaba ukuthandana, ukuphepha intlungu xa uhlukana.
Abantu abenza imibhangqwana ngohlobo lolwalamano olunothando banempawu ezifanayo zengqondo, zibonakaliswe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Nangona kunjalo, zombini amaqabane ayenayo ukwesaba kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye neengxaki kunye nokubonakalisa ngokunyanisekileyo iimvakalelo, okuthintela ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle.
Qaphela ukuba kuxhomekeka kwimeko ephezulu yokuyilahla. Ukwazi indlela yokwahlula ukuziphatha okuxhomekeke kumntu ophilileyo, ekugqibeleni uza kufunda ukwakha intsebenziswano.