Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuncoma umntu oyintanda, okanye kungcono ukuyeka? Kukholelwa ukuba amagama okubonga, ukuvunywa kunye nokunyanzela kuthathwa kuphela ngokumalunga nesini esifanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo indlela yokuncoma abantu ngokufanelekileyo, siza kuxubusha ngokucacileyo kweli nqaku.
Ngaba amadoda anjengamancoma?
Wonke umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini, unengcamango yakhe, amandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka. Imfihlelo yenkomfa ephumelelayo kukuphawula ezi meko. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ngexesha elifanayo ukuba novelwano kunye nesigama esaneleyo. Nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iimeko, ukucacisa: "Wow!" -yakuba yindumiso engcono kumntu.
Makhe sibone ukuba iziphi iziphakamiso amadoda afana nazo:
- Ukumkelwa. Kuyinto enhle xa wena okanye izixhobo zakho ziyakwazi ukutsalisa umdla onomdla wesini esahlukileyo. Kungaba ukukhula okanye umzimba, ukunyameka okanye ukuqonda, ukukhetha umzekelo wesithuthuthu okanye umhlobo onamagxa amane kunye njalo njalo.
- Ukuqinisekiswa kobodwa. Nangona le nto iyona nto iphethe imouse - kufuneka uyiqaphele kwaye uyiqaphele. "Incredible! Andizange ndicinge ukuba oku kunokwenzeka! ". Kule nto, amadoda namabhinqa bathanda: abantu bathanda ukuzicingela njengomntu okhethekileyo, nokubona ukuqinisekiswa emehlweni abanye - nangaphezulu.
- Mdumise iimfuno zakhe. Oku kunokuba ngumdla wezemidlalo, ukuqokelela, ukusebenzisa ikhono - ukuba umntu unomdla ngokwenene, ishishini lobomi luba yingxenye ebalulekileyo yobuntu bakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuthotyiswa ngqalelo kunye nokuxabisa okukhulu izinto ezithandwayo.
- Ukuhleka. Ewe, ukuhleka kukuncoma ukukwazi ukunyamekela intliziyo yakhe. Umbulelo onombulelo kukuncoma ukukwazi kwakhe ukwenza inkampani yomphefumlo. Musa ukufihla imizwa yakho emihle, ebangelwa uluntu kunye nezenzo zakhe.
- Ukubonakaliswa kwexabiso. Ixesha kunye nomkhwa usula ingqiqo yexabiso lezenzo zomntu othandekayo. Kodwa, ukuba uzama ukungaphumeleli ukutshabalalisa kwamehlo akho, nakwiimeko eziqhelekileyo kukho iziganeko zokuqwalasela imizamo kunye neziphumo zakhe.
Nangona kunjalo, asikho nje inceba okanye intanda. Ngokomzekelo, ukuncoma kumntu ongaqhelekanga kunokubakho ithuba lokuziwayo, kunye nendlela yokugcoba ummangali ongathandabuzekiyo.
Kukho imigaqo embalwa elula evumela ukuba ugqibe isigqibo: yiyiphi incomo ekuthiwa yindoda, kwaye yintoni efuneka ishiywe nayo.
Imithetho yokubonga:
- Kumelwe ukuba ngamazwi anyanisekileyo. Le ngongoma. Ukongezelela, ubuxoki buza kubonwa ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva kwaye kuya kubakho umonakalo omkhulu kunokuba, ukuba kukho konke, akukho mihlali.
- Musa ukusebenzisa kakubi. Ingqiqo yemilinganiselo iluncedo kumsebenzi wokuncoma. Ukuncoma rhoqo kunokukhokelela kwiingcamango zobugovu okanye ukungaqiniseki.
- Ukukhawuleza. Umntu ohlazileyo uyamangalisa, kodwa siqondisa umntu ophilayo? Amanye amadoda asemngciphekweni, kwaye amanye amahlaya angaphaya kakhulu. Ngengozi.
- Gwema iibhanali. Kungcono ukuthula ngaphandle kokubonisa into engeyena mntu - njengokungathi akukho nto ingaphezulu komntu engafanelekanga.
Ukuncoma okudityanisiweyo kumadoda - uluhlu omele ulunge kakhulu. Kungcono ukunqanda amaqhinga angenangqondo kunye ne-diminutive-laskatelnyh. Uxolo lwamaqela alunyanzelwanga. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba uphulaphule iimvakalelo zakho, uya kuba nako ukukhetha amagama anyanisekileyo kunye alungileyo.
Masibhale indlela yokwenza indoda ibe yincoma. Ukuba lo ngumntu ongcono, obaluleke kakhulu kwaye uyimfuneko ebomini bakho - mxelela nje ngawo. Makube ngamazwi anyanisekileyo, ukuzisa imvakalelo ngaphandle kokulindela. Ukuba awuphambuki nokukhetha, ukuncoma okunjalo kuya kuba yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe.