Isinamathiselo kumntu

Senzeke ukuba sithetha imifanekiso efana ne "Ndimanyene nalo mntu," kuthetha intsingiselo kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abantu badibanisa ukudibanisa kunye neemvakalelo ezinzulu, kwaye oku kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo engathandekiyo. Umzekelo, uyazi ukuba uthando luhluke njani kumnxeba kumntu?

Iifom zokunamathisela

Wonke umntu uvakalelwa ingqiqo yokuqhotyoshelweyo, ukususela ekuqaleni kwasebuntwaneni. Okokuqala, ibonakalisa kwinqanaba le-instincts - unamathele kumama, kwezinye izinto (izambatho, amathoyizi). Emva koko ezinye izinamathiselo zithatyathwa ngabanye, kodwa ivakalelo ngokwayo ihamba nathi bonke ubomi.

Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zokunxibelelwana, iingcali zihlukanisa 3 (abanye ababhali 4). Kodwa ngenxa yokuqonda, siya kusebenzisa ukwahlula kweentlobo ezi-2 zeziqhotyoshelweyo: zikhuselekile kwaye zibuhlungu.

Ukhuselekile, oko kukuthi, into eqhelekileyo inokulala eentliziyweni zobungane okanye uthando. Kule meko, xa ushiya into yokuncedisa, umntu akahlali enzima. Ku nokuba novakalelo olubuhlungu kunye nokudabuka, kodwa kungekhona ukunyaniseka okanye ukuxinezeleka.

Kodwa ukuxhalabisa ngokwenene kuya kubangela iimvakalelo ezinjalo. Inokujoliswa kumntu womntu (isinamathiselo kumfana) kunye nezinto (isinamathiselo kwizinto). Bathi loo mva ayinamandla njengothando, kodwa kukho amaxesha apho umntu akakwazi ukuhlukana nezinto ezithandekayo entliziyweni yakhe. Yaye zonke izibongozo zeentsapho zibangelwa ulwaphulo, kuba umntu akakwazi ukucinga ubomi ngaphandle kwaloo nto. Kodwa isinamathiselo kwizinto asiyingozi, kuba kulula ukubona. Indoda edibanisa indlu yakhe ngezinto ezingenakulisebenzisa kwixesha elizayo (ngelinye ilanga ndiza kwenza amashalofu ngaphandle kwala maphepha, kwaye amaphephandaba amadala aya kufika ngokufanelekileyo ukuba ndiya kwenza ukulungiswa), ngoko kukho into enxulumene nayo. Imeko eyahlukileyo kwiintsebenziswano, kunzima kakhulu ukuqonda isinamathiselo okanye uthando. Kwaye ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezi ngcamango zombini ziyimfuneko, kuba uthando luvula indlela yokonwaba, kwaye ukunamathela okuqinileyo (ugula, ukuzingca) kwenza kube lusizi.

Ukwahlula njani uthando kumsa?

Njengoko kukhankanywe ngasentla, uthando oluhle lube sisiseko sothando kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo, kubi xa le nxaxheba ithatha indawo yothando. Isinamathiselo asikwazi ukuba sisiseko sobuhlobo besikhathi eside, mhlawumbi baya kuthanda ngakumbi ngokucacileyo kwaye uya kushiya umkhondo ohlala emphefumlweni wakho, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba isiqhotyoshelweyo sinyamalale, kubonakala ukuba umntu ngaphesheya kombhede akafani ngokupheleleyo kuwe.

Ukwahlula njani uthando kumnxeba kumntu?

Kubalulekile ukuvavanya ubudlelwane bakho, le mibuzo ilandelayo iya kunceda.

1. Yintoni ekukhanga kakhulu kumlingane? Isiqhotyoshelo sibonakaliswa ngokuthandana kunye nedatha yangaphandle, ukuthanda ukuba kuyimfuneko, okokuqala, ingqiqo yokwalamano ngokomoya, kwaye kuphela ukukhangela kwenyama.
2. Uyakhumbula xa ugqibe ekubeni awukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwalo mntu? Ukuba ukhumbula ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buphuhlisiwe njani, luphawu lothando. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza ugula ngokukhawuleza, oku kukuphawu lothando.
3. Ziziphi iimpawu ezitshatileyo kumlingane? Isiqhotyoshelo sithatha ukuthathwa ngento enye - ilizwi, ukumomotheka kunye nothando kuya kuphawula amanqaku amaninzi kumntu obiza.
4. Inomdla wakho kumlingani unaphakade? Ngokuxhumeka, umnqweno uyaphela, emva koko ukhanyane njengeentsika kwi-cardiogram. Uthando luvakalelwa ngokulinganayo, ngoko ke lubonakaliswe ngokutshintshisana kwamanqaku ambalwa.
5. Utshintshile kakhulu ngaphantsi kwefuthe le mvakalelo? Isinamathiselo sinqanda ukuba uphile ngokuqhelekileyo. Uthando, ngokuchaseneyo, lunceda ukuqokelela iingcinga zakho kwaye ubonise iimpawu zakho ezilungileyo.
6. Uziva njani ngabanye abantu? Ukuba unomdla, i-center yoluntu iya kuba lakho iqabane, kwaye abanye abantu bayimiphefumlo ecasulayo endleleni. Uthando luyabhala kwakhona, kodwa alufaki iimvakalelo ezintle kwabanye abantu.
7. Unokunyamezela njani ukuhlukana? Ukuqhotyoshelweyo: ukuhlukana - ukufa ngenxa yobuhlobo, nangona ekuqaleni kubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye ndifuna ukunyuka eludongeni. Uthando: ukwahlukana kuyilingo olunzulu, kodwa unako ukusinda.
8. Ngaba uhlala uxabana nomlingane? Isinamathiselo asikwazi ukuyenza ngaphandle kwempikiswano kunye neentlanzi, kwaye ngamnye kubo ngokubetha amacangci. Ngaphandle kwempikiswano, uvele uphukile, wenza umsebenzi ophuma kuyo. Uthando, naye, alukho ngaphandle kokungavumelani, kodwa ukhangelelanisa, ukuxabana kuhloswe ukuxazulula ingxaki.
9. Ngaba ubona ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane? Isinamathiselo ayiniki ithuba lokubonisa ikusasa eliqhelekileyo, uthando lakha izicwangciso ezifanayo.
10. Ukuzingca okanye ukungathandeki? Isinamathiselo yenza konke ukuzanelisa iimfuno zabo. Uthando lubangela ukunyamekela intanda.

Ungayilahla njani uthando?

Okokuqala, funda oko uqobo uqobo - uthando okanye uthando. Xa ufumene ukuxhomekeka kwakho kumntu, uya kwenza isinyathelo sokuqala sokubuyisela. Kwaye ke uya kufuneka uhlaziye kwakhona kwakhona konke oku kuvezwe ngulo mntu ebomini bakho kunye nentukuthelo, ukukhungatheka kunye nokwesaba. Awuyena i-masochist, ukuba uhlale nomntu ongeyena kuwe? Mhlawumbi awukwazi ukulahla ukunamathiselwa kwangoko, ngoko thabatha amanyathelo amancinci. Emva kwexeshana, awukhumbuli ukuba uncike kakhulu.