Njengoko uyazi, ukuqala kokuqala kudlala indima ebalulekileyo, ingakumbi ukuba ixhala ngokutyelela. Yingakho inani elikhulu labasetyhini libuza indlela yokuthanda umntu ngomhla wokuqala , ngoko ufuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane. Kubalulekile ukuya kule ntla nganiso kunye noxanduva olupheleleyo ukuzityhila ukusuka kwicala elifanelekileyo kakhulu.
Umhla wokuqala kunye nomntu-iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Ekubeni into yokuqala umntu ayenzayo xa ebona umfazi ongaqhelekanga-uya kujonga ukubonakala kwayo, kufuneka ucinge kakuhle umfanekiso wakho. Thabatha iimpahla eziza kufana nexesha lonyaka kunye nendawo apho intlanganiso iya kwenzeka khona. Thatha ixesha lokukhetha iifom, izinwele kwaye ungakulibali ngokucoca.
Iingcebiso malunga nendlela onomdla kumntu ngomhla wokuqala:
- Ngaphambi kwentlanganiso kufuneka uzame ukuphumla kwaye ungacingi ngokungafezeki. Ukuzithemba, ngokuchaseneyo, kubangele amadoda. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ungayidluli ukuze ungalucaluli lakho iqabane.
- Kubalulekile ukuba ungadlala kwaye ube njengendalo ngokwemvelo. Naluphi na ukukhohlisa kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kuvula, oku kunokukhokelela ekupheleni kobudlelwane.
- Amadoda athanda ukuphulaphulwa, ngoko akukho mfuneko ukuba uphazamise kwaye ukhuphe ingubo phezu kwakho. Ingxoxo kufuneka yakhiwe ngokulinganayo.
- Iingcebiso ezisebenzayo zokukhawulela indoda ngomhla wokuqala - kuba yimfihlakalo kuye. Musa ukuthetha ngawe zonke iimfihlelo kwaye uvume uthando lwakho, ungalibali ngokulondoloza intliziyo.
- Phantse bonke abantu bathanda ukunyaniseka nokudumisa. Kufuneka kwenziwe njengokwemvelo nangokwethembeka kunokwenzeka, kwaye kuphela ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
- Akukufanelekanga ngelixa lomhla wokuqala ukwakha naziphi na iiplani kwaye uthethe ngexesha elizayo, njengokuba umntu angasabisa. Ingongoma enjalo kukuba iingxoxo ezinjalo zingabonwa njengemfuno kunye nokudibanisa inkululeko.
- Ukuba ufuna usuku lokuqala
kunye nale ndoda yayinguye wokugqibela, ngoko uya kuqinisekiswa ukumxelela malunga nolwalamano lwakho lwangaphambili. Kodwa ngokukodwa, akufanele ubuyele emva kwexesha, ngaphandle kweemeko xa umntu ngokwakhe ebuza imibuzo. - Ukubaluleka okukhulu kukuthintana kwamehlo, kodwa ungabhoxisi umnxibelelwano ngokujonga. Ukuba umfazi uguquka rhoqo, ngoko umntu uyayithatha njengombonakaliso wokungabi nabubele okanye ukungaqiniseki.
Akuyimfuneko ukuphonsa indoda leyo ekupheleni kwintlanganiso kunye nemibuzo, xa ebiza kwaye xa kuya kuba nomhla wesibili, njengokuba oku kwenzayo ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba uthanda umnxibelelwano, yena ngokwakhe uya kunika ukudibana kwakhona.