Nangona abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuziphatha kwabasetyhini akuboleki nakweyiphi na inkcazo, ezinye zezenzo zesondo ezinamandla ziyamangalisa. Abaninzi banomdla wokuba kutheni indoda ingayinaki ibhinqa ayithandayo. Ngaphambi kokuba ukhangele isizathu, kufuneka ufumane ukuba kukho na uvelwano . Abaninzi abafazi bacinga bona njengemvakalelo engekho, kwaye ukukhohlisa okunjalo ngokuqhelekileyo kukhokelela ekudakaleni.
Kutheni umntu ekhanyela ngokukodwa umfazi?
Unokufumana malunga nobukho bobubele ngokumjonga nje loo ndoda, kuba ulwimi lomzimba ludla ngokunika iingcinga zakhe kunye neminqweno. Imibala engabonakaliyo, ukuchukumisa ngokukhawuleza, incoko, konke oku kubonisa ukuba kukho iimvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, abanye abameleli besondo esomeleleyo abanathathi amanyathelo okudibana nabo.
Kutheni umntu engayinaki ibhinqa:
- Uloyiko lobuhlobo obunzulu . Amadoda amaninzi abhekana nokungabaza ngenxa yokuba bakholelwa ukuba imbono "yobungqina" ibonisa imithwalo eninzi kunye nemiphumo engathandekiyo, ngoluvo lwakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda anjalo acinga ukuba uqale ufune ukufikelela ezinyaweni zakho, ukhule kwaye emva koko ukwakha ubudlelwane. Ukuzama ukubenza bakholwe ukungathembeki kwezigwebo ngumsebenzi ongathokozisiyo, owona maxesha aphelelwa ukuhluleka.
- Umnqweno "wokuzizalisa" ngexabiso . Esinye isizathu esivakalayo sokuba umntu aqale ukungahoywa ngumfazi. Isetyenziswe ngamadoda awaziyo ukubaluleka okanye ubuqili, ezama ukutsala into yokudumisa. Indoda engathandabuzekiyo yabaninzi abafazi iqhubela phambili kumanyathelo amaninzi, ngoko ke ingena kwinethiwekhi yakhe.
- Unqwenela ukunika lo mfazi iqhinga . Amaxesha xa amadoda ayengundoqo, kunye nabasetyhini balinda nje i-horse in white horse, badlula, kwaye namhlanje amaninzi amaninzi athatha le meko ezandleni zabo, ekhokela phambili. Umnqweno onjalo wokudlulisa iqhinga kumfazi ungaphakama ngenxa yokuba umzekelo wokuziphatha uqobo kubazali. Ukongezelela, ityala lingaba ngumsebenzi ogqithisileyo wesetyhini ogxotha indoda, okwenza ukuba angenzi.
- Intliziyo ephukile . Ngamanye amaxesha indoda ayinaki ibhinqa eliyithandayo, kuba ixhalabele ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo. Abameli abaninzi begoda elinamandla bagcina iimvakalelo ezinzulwini zabo iintliziyo, bexhasa umfanekiso ngaphandle. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukunika ixesha elikhethiweyo lokufumana umdlalo. Kunconywa ukuba umphazamise, umzekelo, ngokumema ukuhamba nabangani okanye ngohambo olufutshane. Kule meko, iqhinga elithi "umhlobo womfazi" liya kusebenza ngokugqibeleleyo.
- Uvo lokuba akafanelanga umfazi . Kwengqondo, kwesi sizathu sokuba indoda ingayinaki ibhinqa ibingelwa ngabantu abamahloni abajongene nokungaphumeleli. Oku kubangelwa ukuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye ukuba kukho intlungu kumntu onjalo, ngoko kufuneka uthathe konke ezandleni zakho uze uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala ngokwakho.
- Ukungaqiniseki kwiimvakalelo okanye ngabafazi . Nangona kukho konke ukungathí sina, amadoda, njengabasetyhini, ahlalutya iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, ngelixa befumana ukungathandabuzeki okukhulu. Ukuba umntu uyayigatya, mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba awuhambisani. Amalungu amaninzi obundlobongela obuqinileyo kaninzi akakwazi ukuqonda oko bavakalelwa ngokwenene kumfazi, mhlawumbi oku kukukhanga nje kuphela kwaye akukho nto. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho ukungaqiniseki malunga nomfazi onokungahlangabezane neemfuno ezithile. Kule meko, ibhinqa ifuna nje ukuzibonakalisa kuyo yonke inkazimulo yayo, ukuze umntu aqonde ukuba akakwazi ukuphosa ithuba elinjalo.