Impendulo yabameli beesondo ezahlukeneyo kwiintlobo ezifanayo ziyahluka kakhulu kangangokuthi ukuthetha malunga nokufika kwiiplanethi ezahlukeneyo akubonakali kuhle kakhulu. Ngoko ke, phantsi kobudlelwane bomfazi otshatileyo kunye nomyeni otshatileyo ukulungele ukuthatha icandelo lonke leengqondo. Kodwa sineengqikani ezibalulekileyo ekuyiyilweni akunjalo, ngoko kutheni ubunzima obunjalo?
I-Psychology yobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi
Iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeengxaki zihlelwe ngumbongo wethu osebenza nzima, le meko ayinjalo. Ngenxa yobuqhetseba bokuphuhliswa koluntu (umntu uzingela, ibhinqa lilungiselela), iindlela zethu zokubona iinyani ziye zahluka. Ngenxa yoko, isondo esomeleleyo saqala ukubonisa ingcamango engumzekelo, kwaye umntu obuthathaka - wafikelela kwinqanaba leengcali ekuqondeni iimvakalelo . Yingakho i-psychology yobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi inzima. Ngokomzekelo, ukuthetha kwentombazana malunga nokufika kwexesha lokufika, umfana uphuma ngamazwi malunga nosuku olunzima. Uyakucatshulwa aze adideke ngokunyaniseka kwakhe. Kwaye le nto leyo intombazana yayifuna ukuthetha indlela ephosakeleyo kwaye ifuna ukuba ingqalelo ngayo, kwaye umfana onqamlekileyo wayeseqonda kuphela oko waxelelwa ukuba "usuphelile namhlanje". Le nkalo yengqondo yezobudlelwane ingaba nolwazi kubo bobabini umfazi otshatileyo kunye nomntu otshatileyo odla ngokulibala ngokubuthathaka kweengcamango zabo, nangona bafanele bazi izinto zonke ngentliziyo. Ngoko akuqhelekanga kwiibinibini ezisele zihlala kunye kunye nokufunda ukuthetha ngokutsha. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba intombazana iya kufuneka inikezele ulwazi olumileyo kuphela, ukulibala malunga neengcamango ezintle, kwaye umfana akafanele aguquke ngokukhala. Kodwa ngokuvisisana kwentsapho, kuya kufuneka kwenziwe ezinye iimvume.
Enye ingxaki yobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda kunye nowesifazane, ingqondo yengqondo ibona ekuphambeni kwemida yezesini. Kuhlala kulula ukuba umntu enze umzekelo, kwaye xa ekhubeka, ingquzulwano lwangaphakathi lwenzeka. Ukusuka kuye, kunye nemeko yempilo iyancipha, kwaye abanye bahlupheka. Kule meko, ngaphandle kwengxoxo ecacileyo nesiqingatha, awukwazi ukwenza oko, kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukulungisa ukuphikisana kweli nqanaba, unokucela ibhunga leengcali.
Ewe, lonke uluhlu lweengxaki lubonisa ukukhanyela kokuqala ukusebenzela ubudlelwane. Amaxesha amaninzi amabini, ngakumbi abatsha, bacinga ukuba uthando luyakususa zonke iingxaki, kwaye ukuba kukho into engayi kuhamba kakuhle, iya kugqitywa okwethutyana, kodwa ukuba akunakwenzeka, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba uyingxenye. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba unokuthetha ngothando kuphela xa ufuna ukuzama ulwalamano.