Omnye unokuzibuza-kutheni ufuna ukwazi impawu yokuba umyeni uyeka ukuthanda umfazi wakhe, kodwa ingqondo yengqondo yendoda yinto yokuba nje ukuba ubudlelwane besecaleni lungafikeleli kwisigaba esithile, bangakwazi ukuwa lula. Kucacile ukuba loo ngcaciso ingasindisa intsapho ukuba loo mfazi ukhawuleza ukuvuselela ubuhlobo.
Impawu zokuqala ukuba umyeni wayeke ukuthanda
- Umqondiso wokuqala wokutshatyalaliswa kweemvakalelo ezidlulileyo kwinxalenye yendoda kukungabikho kochukumisayo. Ngethuba lokutshisa, umlingane nanini na uthanda ukuthinta umthandi. Ngokukodwa indoda ivuyiselwa yimivalo eyimfihlo okanye ibanga lokubanga ngexesha elingafanelekanga. Ukuba bayeke - loo mntu "waqhawula" kumfazi. Kwaye ukuba akukho nto yesondo ebomini besibini - mhlawumbi, isithuba sele sisondele.
- Ukuba indoda iyayeka ukuthandwa ngumfazi, iqala ukumcaphukisa. Kwaye kubonakala ukuxhala kunye nokunganeliseki nakweyiphi na, kweso sihlandlo esingabalulekanga. Ngoko ke, kwiimpawu zokuqala zokungahambelani nokungahambelani, ibhinqa kufuneka ihloniphe indoda kwaye izame ukuqonda ingcinezelo yomsindo.
- Esinye isibonakaliso sokusabalaliswa kweemvakalelo kukuba ukungabi nhlonipho novelwano kumfazi wakhe. Ukuba indoda ihlekisayo iminqweno yomlingane, ayiyi kuba nomsindo xa ithekile okanye igula- uthando kumntu alusekho. Yaye ukuba awuyikuqwalasela iimpawu zokuqala - ukuhlambalaza kunye nokuhleka usulu kuya kuqalisa.
- Ukungaqondani kunye nokufihlakeleka kubonisa ukuba intsapho ayithembekanga. Ekhaya elonwabileyo, abafazi bazama ukuqonda, ukunika into ethile. Ngoko ke, izinto ezahlukeneyo, ezifana nokuhlangana kunye nabahlobo, indoda ayifihli. Kodwa ukuba unemfihlelo, ngoko ubukho bentsapho busemngciphekweni. Umntu ongaphandle kukuba umyeni ulungiselela ukumangaliswa kumfazi wakhe ngomnye umhla.
- Ukutshatyalaliswa kweengqondo kubonakaliswa kukunyamalala kwidayibrari yendoda enegama lomntu olihlazileyo nelithandwayo, eliqondwa kuphela ngabafazi bomdlalo wamahlaya. Ngokubambisana nabo, ukungazenzisi kunye nokunyaniseka kobudlelwane babantu abanothando bayanyamalala.