Okumangalisa kukuba, amadoda ayakhala. Kwaye kuyintoni into engaqhelekanga ngale nto? Ekugqibeleni, amadoda anabantu kwaye bavame ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kuquka neinyembezi.
Oomama abathandekayo, ngaba wakha wazibuza: "Kutheni umntu ekhala?" Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi bayaqiniseka ukuba indoda ayinayo iinyembezi kunye neyodwa ibhinqa iyakwazi ukukhathazeka ngenxa yokugula kwabantwana okanye ukuxoxisana nabanye abantu. Ngaba uye wakha wazibuza ukuba yintoni indoda efana nale mizuzu? Ngaba zinzima kangakanani na amava kunye nokuba kunzima kangakanani kuye ukuba agcine yonke into? Yingakho namhlanje siza kuthetha ngezinyembezi zeendoda, eziqhelekanga kungekho lula ukuzibona.
Ngaba abantu bayakhala?
Abasetyhini abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba xa umntu eyeka ukukhala, ithetha ukuba ungumgqomo. Nangona kunjalo, ebomini bomntu kukho izihlandlo zokuqulatha konke ukukrakra kwezinto ezenzekayo ngeenxa zonke akunakwenzeka. Kwaye kule meko iinyembezi zomntu zibonisa amandla akhe. Kuphela ukukhala okukhulu, ababuthathaka bayesaba umbono jikelele kwaye ke bagcine yonke into ngokwabo. Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba amadoda amaninzi afa ngokuhlaselwa kwentliziyo ngexesha elikhulileyo. Inkqubo yesifo ayikwazi ukumelela iimvakalelo ezidlulileyo kwiminyaka emininzi, ngokukhawuleza idwengula intliziyo ibe yizicucu kwaye idibanise umphefumlo, kodwa nangona kunjalo loo ndoda ayibonisi iinyembezi, ekholelwa ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kungaphantsi kwesidima sakhe.
Amadoda ayinelanga iinyembezi
Ukuphoqeleka umntu ukuba avumele ukulila okanye ukulila i-sobs ibe yinto enamandla kakhulu. Inkxwaleko enkulu kakhulu, ngenxa yokuba umntu uyakhala ngukufa komntu othandekayo. Ngeli xesha, zonke iinkxalabo zixhomekeke kumalungu omntu, kwaye ukunyamezela loo mthwalo ngumsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, le ndoda iyahlala iyanamathela ebomini. Kwaye kuphela xa zonke izinto ziphela ekugqibeleni ukugquma kwengonyama kunye nokuqonda kwimeko kwaye ukungathembeki komntu kuqala ukulila.
Esinye isizathu sokuba iinyembezi zamadoda zihlukana nomfazi othandekayo. Indoda ayikwazi ukuphucula imeko kwaye ingenamandla okulwa, ayiboni indlela yokuphuma kwimeko kwaye ngenxa yeemvakalelo eziqalayo ukuqala ukukhala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi baqonda oku njengobuthathaka kwaye bahamba kude nabo, ngaloo ndlela bahlaba intliziyo.
Indoda iyakhala kuphela xa umphefumlo wakhe ugcwele imizwa. Ungalokothi uhlazise indoda eyazama ukukhala phambi kwakho. Iinyembezi zamadoda zihluke kwabasetyhini - zihlala zinyanisekileyo. Yaye ukuba umntu ekhala phambi kwakho, qiniseka, uye wazibonakalisa ngokupheleleyo kuwe kwaye kuthetha into eninzi kuye.