Indlela yokubetha umntu?

Ndivuyiswa gqitha ukuba wenze isicelo sakho kwi-intanethi ngale ndlela, kodwa akabhalelanga, umzekelo "Indlela yokubetha umfana kumhlobo?" Kutheni? Ngenxa yokuba undixelele oku: usuvele ungumntu okhulileyo kwaye uyazi kakuhle le nyaniso elandelayo: abafana bakho ebomini bakho bangaba yimiba elinesibini, kwaye umhlobo onyanisekileyo, isipho esivela ezulwini. Kwaye izipho ezivela apho, njengoko uyazi, zithululwa kuthi, kakhulu kuncinci. Nangona kunjalo, kwi-ajenda esinomxholo ohluke ngokupheleleyo, oko kukuthi, indlela yokutshitshisa umfana kumnye.

Ndiyicinga ukuba lo mbuzo uphazamise ngesizathu. Mhlawumbi kwakukho ixesha apho, ngenxa yalesi sinye, wawuziva unqabile kwaye unqabile ukuba ufuna nje ukungena kwiwindow kwaye uchitheke - sele udibanise le nto enye, njenge-goose pate, kwidonga elisondeleyo.

Mhlawumbi, isigqibo esithi "Ndifuna ukuphazamisa intombi yakhe!" Uvele entle yakho ngokungalindelekanga kuwe. Okanye-nokuba kunjalo! - Unene ngokwenene, uyayithanda ngempela loo mntu. Musa ukukhumbula! Siya kuthetha malunga nokuba ungambetha njani umntu - kwaye kungabi na isizathu sokuba unqume ukumbetha.

Ngoko, ngaba zikhona iindlela ezikhethekileyo zokufumana umfana? Andiyi kubiza ngeendlela, kodwa ngomgca wokuziphatha.

Okokuqala, qhubeka ukhumbula ukuba ukubonakala kwakho kwi "Indlela yokubetha umfana" kuza kudlala indima encinci. Ngako oko, iingcamango ezinjengaye "Ndiza kumthabatha kule sidalwa esibi kumanani amabini!" Akufanele kuphakame kwi-embryonic state. Njengokuba, ngokwenene, abanye - "Ndiya phi na ukuba ndikhuphisane noluhle kangaka ..." Le yileyokuqala kunye nesiseko esisisiseko sokuba ufunde.

Umgaqo wesibini oyisiseko nguMgaqo woBungqina obunaphakade. Ndithetha ntoni na? Ukubuza umbuzo wendlela yokubetha umfana osuka kwenye, uyangqiqa kuphela xa kwenzeka ukuba udibanise nalo mfana.

Zama ukutshintshisana nomnxeba kunye naye-kwaye ungalindeli ukuba ubize kuqala. Mbizele wena-ukukuhalalisa ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa okanye ieholide, ukuze ufumane ukuba izinto ziphi. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba ezi ngxoxo zikwangaxeshwanga, kwaye zakuqala zincinci - njengendlela yokuzila ngokukhawuleza, inokrakra ye-nervous system, injection.

Makhe azifundele. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngaphezu kokuthanda kwakhe, iifowuni ziya kukwazi kwaye ziyimfuneko kwinqanaba elincinci. Utsho - linda ixesha elide! Ewe, kunjalo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukumthabatha ngeveki okanye ngenyanga. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba unomdla wendlela onokumbetha ngayo umfana ixesha elide, kwaye kungekhona indlela yokubetha umfana omnye ngobusuku obunye?

Xa ubona ukuba waqala ukuxhasa iifowuni zakho, zibuze imibuzo uze unomdla kwimicimbi yakho, uyeke ukumbiza kwaye ulinde. Ukuba awukulindelanga nayiphi na ifowuni evela kuye, kuya kufuneka uqale kwakhona. Ukuba uyakubiza ukuba ufumane ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe, wahamba ecaleni kwendlela enameva kunye nesingqungquthela esithi " Ungamxabela njani umfana," kwaye unokuqhubeka.

Kwaye ukuqhubela phambili kuthatha ukuba ngoku udinga ukunyamekela, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uthathe ingcambu kwimva - oko kukuthi, ngobudlelwane bawo kunye nolunye. Qalisa ngobumnene umbuze imibuzo ngaye. Ukuphulaphula ngokucophelela iimpendulo zakhe - nangona itoni yakhe uya kuba nokuqonda indlela amphatha ngayo kunye nokuba unamathele kangakanani kuye.

Ungamgxeka kwaye ungamxelela nto embi ngaye. Ngokuchaseneyo, mxelele ukuba bahlangane njani kunye nokuba kuhle kangakanani ukubheka kuzo ukusuka kwicala. Lo ngumthetho wesithathu wesiseko somsebenzi othi "Ndingabetha njani umfana", kwaye ndiza kubiza ngokuba nguMyalelo weZiphumo ezilungileyo.

Nangona kunjalo, gcinani engqondweni ukuba nganye isibini esithile siphikisana. Ngoko ke, yiba nomonde kwaye ulinde, xa kufike ixesha elinjalo. Uya kukuxelela malunga nokuxabana kwabo-ke, ngaphandle kokuba uphumelele kwizigaba zangaphambili ze-marathon "Indlela yokutshitshisa umfana evela kumbambano."

Ukuba uthe wakuxelela ngale nto kwifowuni, mbuze ukuba ufuna ukudibana nokuthetha ngaye kwindawo ekhululekile. Xa ndithi "ukudibana", ndiyathetha ukuba le ntlanganiso, ngokufanelekileyo, akufanele kwenzeke kwindawo yokudlala egcekeni lakho, kodwa ekhaya, apho wena kunye naye ungasala yedwa.

Khumbula oku kulandelayo. Ukuva kuye ngokuphendula igama elithi "ewe", unokucinga ukuba uvile kuye ibinzana elithi "Ndingathanda ukuba le ngxoxo ivele ebhedeni." Kodwa akudingeki wenze le mpazamo. Andiyithandi ibhedi. Umbhede wawungowokugqibela kwikhadi lethu lokugqibela kumdlalo "Indlela yokubetha umntu."

Oko ndifuna ukukusho, musa ukuvumela le ncoko iqhubeke ebhedini. Makhe akhulume, naphi na-ekhitshini, kwikorori, kwibhalkoni. Ukuba kwakungekho kwindawo apho uya kumbetha ngokugqitywa kokugqibela.

Enye into ebaluleke kakhulu - musa ukumthinta xa nje ekhononda ngomnye. Ukuthintela kwinqanaba elincinci luza kudibaniswa naye kamva. Ngaba uyayifuna le nto? Ufuna ukuphazamisa umfana kumnye, kwaye ungamkhonkxa.

Kodwa xa ephuma, prilaskay-priboglub, njengoko besithi. Kancinci kwaye uyichukumise ngokukhawuleza - okanye, njengokuba ngendlela enobungane, yifumene kakuhle. Ndithembele kum, uya kukuzisa ukuba ulale yena ngokwakhe ...

Ewe, ndinethemba lokuba ixabiso lempahla yezimvu libiza kakhulu, kwaye ngenxa yoko awuzange uzibuze ngokucothayo kwaye ucinge ngolu hlobo: "Ewe, kutheni ndifanele ndiyenze loo nto?"

Masiqhube phambili - umgomo, ulungelelaniswa "Indlela yokubetha umfana ongeyomnye" awungagqibekanga, kwaye amanyathelo okugqibela, njengesiqhelo, anokuba nzima kakhulu. Funda ngokucophelela oko ndiza kubhala.

Qiniseka ukuba uphume ebhedini kuqala. Isizathu esona sizathu sokwenza oku kumnika umbhenga okanye into yokusela. Musa ukuba uhambe phambi kwakhe uhamba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuhle bakho bunjani. Futhi ungenzi iphutha lokumcela ukuba unokuphosa ihembe lakhe - iindlela zethu zokumgxotha loo nto ayiboni ngaphambili into enjalo.

Ndiyazi ukuba kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuba ukwazi oku kulandelayo - kodwa ke, ndiya kukuxelela oku. Umntu wokuqala nokucinga nje ukuba udla ngokukhawuleza ekhanda lakhe emva kokuba "emva koko" kukucinga ngaye, oko kukuthi, kwesinye. Kwaye umnqweno onamandla ngaloo mzuzu uya kuba ngumnqweno wokusabalalisa ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka-ukuba intlanganiso yenzeka endlwini yakho, okanye ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka ukuba uyakunqumla - ukuba udibene nayo endlwini yakhe.

Ngoko vuka, uhlambuluke (awukwazi ukulala naye kwakhona namhlanje), mlethe ugwayi okanye iglasi ngento enonayo, kwaye uhlale emaphethelweni ebhedi. Okokuqala, mcele ukuba angaxeleli nayiphi na enye into - kuba awufuni ukumlimaza. Yikholelwa ukuba baya kulungile - uqinisekile nje. Mxelele ukuba ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumhlobo wakho, uya kuvuya kakhulu ngalo.

Ngamanye amagama-mazise ukuba isiqhelo sokulala asinandaba nawe. Uya kubuya kuwe kwakhona-kwaye uya kubuya ukuze aphinde ahlale nawe embhedeni, kwaye ungaxoxani nobunzima babo nomnye.

Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba amanyathelo alulwe apha ngasentla aya kukunceda ukuba uphumelele ukhuphiswano "Indlela yokubetha umntu ovela kwelinye"? Ngokuqinisekileyo - ewe. Kutheni "phantse"? Uyabona, yintoni umcimbi. Emva koko, ngaphezu kwenkqubo "Indlela yokubetha umfana", kukho ukutshintsha - "Indlela yokugcina umfana." Yaye ukuba umchasi wakho uye wazi kakuhle kangcono kunoko-yakhe ... Kodwa le enye ingxoxo kunye nesihloko esinye.