Impembelelo yokuqala ibaluleke kakhulu, ngoko kufuneka ukwazi indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomfana ukuze athande. Nangona yonke into yokuba isondo esomeleleyo sinokuzikhethela, ngokubanzi, kukho imigaqo emininzi eyisiseko esebenzayo nakanjani.
Indlela yokuziphatha nomntu?
Kwinkqubo yokutsala abameli bendoda kubalulekile ukwazi umyinge kwaye ungadluli, kuba ukugqithisa kwenza izinto ngokukhawuleza. Iingcebiso eziwusizo, indlela yokuziphatha ngayo, ukuze umfana athande ngothando:
- Amadoda ngokusemthethweni abazingeli kunye nabathandi bokuxazulula iingcamango, ngoko kukufanelekile ukuthatha le mdlalo kwaye ubonise "intiti enzima". Ungavumelani ngokukhawuleza kubo bonke kwaye nimthobele kuyo nayiphi na iminqweno. Ukunamathela kwinqanaba legolide, ukuba ufanele ukulahla isiphakamiso, kufuneka uyenze ngokumomotheka kunye nokukhwankqisa emehlweni akho.
- Kuphawulwa ukuba ininzi yabafana inqwenela ukuhambelana nemithetho kwaye yamkela ngokukhawuleza umngeni. Umzekelo, unokuthetha kwingxoxo ongazange uyithandane namadoda. Kwiimeko ezininzi kubangela umnqweno wokubonakalisa ukuba akafani nabanye abantu.
- Olunye icebiso elibalulekileyo, indlela yokuziphatha nomntu, ukuze athande-bonisa ubufazi bakho. Nangona kubonakala ukuba kwihlabathi lanamhlanje ngokuphindaphindiweyo kukho abafazi abanamandla, abaninzi abameli bendoda bafuna ukuba ngababini abakhulu.
- Kubalulekile ukuthetha kuphela, kodwa ukuphulaphula. Kuba ababaluleke kakhulu ukuba le ntombazana inomdla ebomini bakhe kwaye ichaza ngamazwi athethayo. Oku kukubonakaliswa okubalulekileyo kwenhlonipho.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu kukuthintana kwamehlo, kuba kuqwalaselwa ukuba xa umntu engakhangeli kwamehlo, ufihla into kwaye ayikho nto. Musa ukuyitshisa ngamehlo akho, kuba iyinto engaqhelekanga ngokwaneleyo.
- Kunzima ukufumana umntu ongeyithandi ukuthanda. Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukubona isidima ngexesha kwaye uphelelwe umva. Kule nto kubalulekile ukuba ungayithandi kwaye wenze konke ngokunyanisekileyo.
- Khangela amanqaku afanayo oqhagamshelwano. Ukuba uneminyaka efanayo, oku kuya kuba lula, kuba unokuthetha ngezinto zokuzilibazisa zabantwana, khumbula ukuba kwakuyimfashini kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo. Inqaku eliqhelekileyo lokuqhagamshelana linokuhamba.
- Indlela efanelekileyo yokukhangela ingqalelo kukucela uncedo. Abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo, bafuna ukuba ngamaqhawe, ngoko kwimeko ezininzi bavuma ukuncedisa.
- Akuyimfuneko ukuthetha nomntu malunga nomntu aze adibanise amahlebezi, njengoko oku kuya kunqumla umxhasi, kwaye uya kugqiba ukuba phambi kwakhe
intombazana embi neyingozi. - Kubaluleke kakhulu kukuqhagamshelana nomzimba, kodwa yonke into ifanele ibe njengongenasiphelo njengokuba kunokwenzeka, umzekelo, ukutshintsha okulula kumpendulo engaphumeleli, amadolo, njl. Kubalulekile ukubona indlela umfana ochaphazela ngayo oku, ukuba akanakukhathazeka, ngoko ungaqhubeki ukuzama.
Indlela yokuziphatha emva kokulwa nomfana?
Into yokuqala okufuneka uyenze kukuba ukuzola kunye nexesha elithile ukusabalalisa ukucinga kwakhona yonke into. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ulwalamano lwenzeka kwaye ngubani na omele. Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba zithethe kwaye ziveze konke ukunganeliseki, kodwa ukwenza konke kuzinzileyo njengoko kunokwenzeka ngaphandle kwemizwa. Omnye wabathathi-nxaxheba kwingxabano kufuneka avume iimpazamo zabo aze axolise.