Ubudlelwane phakathi kwentombazana encinci kunye nendoda endala akuzange kuvuselele ukugxeka, mhlawumbi kuphela ngaloo mihla xa umyeni ekhethwe ngabazali bomtshakazi. Kodwa ngoku isibini isibini esineenkcenkcesha zeminyaka yobudala siya kubangela ukuhleka, ukuhleka nokunyanzelisa abantu. Kodwa iingxoxo ezixubushayo, kunye nezibini "indoda engumntu omdala nentombazana" ayinqabile kwaye ubuhlobo obunjalo buya kuba yintsapho ebonwabileyo. Ngoko akudingekile ukuba ubaleke kwiimvakalelo zakho, ngokusekelwe kwimbono yoluntu, ukuqonda kangcono indlela yokuthanda umntu omdala, owaziyo, mhlawumbi nguyena oyifunayo?
Ndingathanda njani umntu omdala?
Kuthekani ukuba ndithandana nomntu omdala? Kungokwemvelo ukungahlali phantsi, kodwa zama ukumnceda. Indlela yokwenza kunye nokuba yintoni ukuyenga umntu omdala, funda ngezantsi.
- Naliphi na intombazana enamava kunye nomntu okhulile uyazi ukuba bayabhangelwa kukubonakala. Kodwa ngokungafani nabafana bakhe abafayo, umntu omdala akayi kukhangela ulwazi lwezemvelo, kodwa ngokukwazi ukuwabonisa. Ingubo yifutshane, i-decollete inzulu, kwaye i-makeup iyancipha kwaye le nkwenkwana ineminyaka eyi-18-20 ubudala kwiinyawo zakho. Indoda enesipiliyoni esinobugcisa obunamava iya kuyika. Ngoko kungcono ukufunda ukuzithintela nokugqoka ngendlela egxininisa isidima kwaye ifihle imiphumo.
- Ukugcina ubudlelwane nomntu omdala ixesha elide, kufuneka ube mnandi kuye. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukufunda ukuxhasa ngenkxaso incoko kwaye uzame ukungabi nantoni. Mamela ngenyameko kuye, ncedise izicwangciso zakhe, ewe, ukuba azingaboni ukungavumelani okugqithisayo nawe.
- Indoda ikhulile kunewe, nangona kunjalo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka "adlulise", ngaphandle kokuba ngumphathi wakho. Zama ukumxelela "wena", mlingane naye. Ukuba awukwenzi oku, umntu unokucinga ukuba awunomdla, ukuba uyamjonga njengomdala.
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba ungayithanda njani umntu omdala, wenzeni? Kwaye mhlawumbi awudingi nto ekhethekileyo? Kubantu abadala, yini enokuyenza kumantombazana amantombazana? Ubutsha babo kunye nokuzikhethela, okhethekileyo, mhlawumbi into encinci, imbono yehlabathi. Ngoko wabelane ngokukhetha kwakho ngelo lizwe, ungazami ukubheka emdala emehlweni akhe.
Ewe, ezi ziimpawu zendlela yokuziphatha ezifuna ukuba zilandelwe, zikhangele umntu omdala kunabo. Emva koko, bonke bahluke kwaye bathanda izinto ezahlukeneyo, kodwa bakhangele ngokukhawuleza, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqonda ukuba ungathini kumntu onomdla kuwe. Ngendlela, kodwa lo mdla uvela phi kumadoda amakhulu, ayingabikho abaninzi ontanga?
Kutheni amantombazana afana namadoda amakhulu?
Ukuthanda umntu omdala kwintombazana encinci kunye neemvakalelo ezifanayo zamantombazana kumntu omdala akakwazi ukuchazwa ngesinye isizathu esilula - uthando luyinto enokuziqonda. Kodwa kutheni ukuba amantombazana amantombazana anomdla kumadoda aqolileyo angatsho.
- Into yokuqala efika engqondweni yimpumelelo. Bahlala bencike kubazali babo, kwaye indoda eqolileyo iyakwazi ukuzinzela yena kunye nomfazi wayo, kwaye ebusheni bayo, ukuba kungengowona udaba oluhle, ungamlondolozi kakuhle into entsha.
- Amadoda amadala amaninzi abonakala njengamantombazana onobuchule bokwenene bokuphila kunye nobulumko, kwinqanaba elithile.
Kwaye emva kokuthetha kunye neontanga zabo ngesimo sengqondo esingenasiphoso ebomini, amantombazana akhwankqiswa ngongqongqo kunye nengqondo yomntu okhulileyo. - Amantombazana enqwenela ukuziva ngathi ungumfazi wokwenene, kungekhona "umntwana wakhe," njengoko kwenzeka kwiinkampani zontanga. Amadoda amadala sele esazi ukuba yiyiphi i-gallantry, indlela yokunyamekela umfazi, kuba amantombazana amancinci ayaziva esondeleyo kwindoda yamakhosikazi.
- Amanye amantombazana azivakalelwa ngakumbi, ngengqondo nangokomzwelo kunontanga yabo. Yingakho bekhangela indoda endala ekwazi ukuyiqonda nokuyixabisa.